THERE WAS SUCH A YOUNG MAN WHO CAME ACROSS MY LIFE BEFORE

He played me as it a little rabbit in his foxy hands

Written by Mrs. Money

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Many years ago in an oil city, I was involved in a community service by working as a newly formed pro tem charitable organization committee president, then one day my friend brought along a potential colleague of hers to join in one of its activities. He is quite a talented guy and without checking much on his personality and background, I directly promoted him to a certain designation just because he told me his mom was from my hometown and also because I always treasured talents and potential youngsters.

I still remember his name as Aphi Then, actually I was never too close to him (not even having coffee once with him) but he was one of the most ingratitude young men that I came across in my life, may be due to he was employed and trained in an aggressive oil and gas Company made him such a subtle unharmed outlook.

For at least three years, no matter how much I tried to promote him, the arrogant young man acted as he was just somebody greater than me, but never realizing that I was trying to help and promote him silently. However in return to me, he was so cruel and unreasonable. He secretly cooperated with his old friend whom he respected, his plan was if his deal got success, my organized society would be a history and his friend would fly in town periodically to share a piece of the cake. With his friend to counterate my professionalism, immediately Alphi leaded another exact similar activity group with the help and backup from his oil & gas company.

Very soon, our pro tem committee was invited by Aphi's oil and gas company to a brain-storming session between his top managing bosses and my pro tem committee and as a president, I was continuously questioned by his top bosses of my abilities to succeed in registering such a charitable society. They kept emphasizing that they got so many elites, talents and the cream of the cake in their company that they could probably do a better job. In short a scene plotted by Alphi to convincing the oil town general public, his bosses and my pro tem committee members that I was simply not elite enough, not smart enough, not talented enough and not good enough to work as a president of such activity organization and smoothly, things got his ways.

But very soon everything cooled down, I found out later that Alphi never succeeded his ways when his bosses who supported him got transferred. However Alphi never gave up kicking me out from my pro tem committee, he befriended with a staff whom I trusted the most and her uncle was a YB, and as before I left the town for my maternity leave in overseas, I appointed this most trusted staff to be the acting president of such non profitable organization to take over my works. With backup from my betrayed staff, Aplhi was on his ways for another plot again, especially they went to mass together every weekly. So more than four years no news charity organization from registrar office, it suddenly got approved after four months I left my duty temporary. I still didn’t know their games behind me, I immediately wrote a recommendation letter to let this trusted staff by then as a president of the newly approved non-profitable organization.


After few months, this trusted staff suddenly left my businesses with another staff, who also became a good friend of Aphi, they took more than 70% of my business resources to open their own business and they put out such an arrogant altitude to me that, "You know who is my uncle?" Due to such crisis, I rushed back from overseas to the oil city, with such a sudden return, my ex-staff puts up such story, “She wants to the president back again!” Which I never thought of in my brain, as I already successful gave up my responsibilities, all the while in my mind I just wanted to help the oil town youngsters and I knew that I wouldn't stay in the oil town forever as I already long got my PR to leave the town once all my duties done.

Very soon, the secretary of the approved society called, “Are you still interested to become the president?” In such an old age having the crying baby, I would be an idiot if I agreed. Immediately upon my return from what I heard the gossips here and there, I figured out very soon of what had happened. I wanted to confirm my doubts of who was one of my greatest enemies that planned to bar me from having anything to do with such a non-profitable society, in short I wanted to find out who was behind the whole scene.

I replied the secretary, “Sure, but in a condition that …………. unless 100% of the committee members agreed to let me becoming the president then I will take the post again.” She didn’t know I just wanted to set a trap to let the enemy fallen into it.

On the next day, few people called me up, “Last night, when we were asked who opposed you to be the society president again, only Aphi making his excuses to bar you.”

“Very good, that’s what the answer I wanted. Thank you very much for informing me!”

“BINGO!”

When I returned, I learned that just a few months before, one of the committee members requested to quit her position as a treasurer due to when she was asked by such approved non-profitable society president to approve a bill of RM50, but with a 1 added ahead, which got claimed as RM150. Less than a year later, my ex-staff quitted her presidentship probably she found there was not much kan tou in such non-profitable organization, but her presidentship had already landed and created her extra jobs and contracts in her uncle’s political party.

I always wondered if that Aphi really had shallow eye sight, he trusted his church dishonest friend more than the honest me who once treasured and cherished him. When I was the president for such pro tem society, I had to dump in so much of my own and family money to let the necessary activities ran, in realistic neither YBs nor any oil and gas company willing to help an not yet approved society.

I still ran my business soundly after such crises of facing bankruptcy done by my ex-staff. I always told myself, “If I could start out from nothing to something in my career, I am not afraid of any crisis; but for those ex-staff who tried to steal my resources to start out their new business establishments, they probably thought that what they did to me would get me to hell. As they only knew how to ‘steal’ and ‘rob’ openly without any guilt after they walked out from their churches.” Only God knew that how well I treated them, so they got no face to do bad things when I was in town.

Any social activities by then became a history to me in the oil town. Alphi never knew that I knew what he did to me, very soon he came in the scene again with a thick face, who knew that he was not happy again I was doing well again in my business! Well, I thought he should be unharmed to act silly by then, I always wondering why he was not just against my positioning in the pro tem society but seemingly he also didn’t like to see that I was living soundly and happily. Very soon after he visited me, he called me wanted to order something, but when the thing arrived, his handphone was not active, so I called his office, one of his colleague replied, “Sorry he is in Holland now!”
“How about the FFFF that he ordered from me? He knew today the thing is coming as I already told him the date, and the things will get rotten soon if he doesn’t come to collect it!”
“Sorry, I don’t think he will be in town tonight or tomorrow.”

A week later Alphi called me, “Where is my FFFF?” he never apologized.
Customer is always right, I didn’t scold him or telling him off and I tried to get rid of him politely. Who knew this Aphi was still not happy of not toying me enough, few months later he wanted to order a big item from me that probably would cost like RM30000.00 to 50000.00++, and again he played me up after I spent so much phone bills to ask information he required from my supplier. I told myself, “Enough is enough! Aphi the sinking boat, you go under water!” Soon, he got posted by his oil and gas company to work in Holland, what a bless for a young man like him if God got eyes but his bosses in his oil and gas company probably were blind like me!

I really don’t like this young man Alphi, now you must be wondering why a character like me hated a young man who was at least 10 years younger than me in reverse of a normal days I would have promoted his interest to give him a lift whenever I could like a teacher.

Alphi became one of the “regrets” in my career life, the "drowned corpse" or siew rein got hidden by me since long ago in a closet, but whenever I licked my old wounds, I would always wonder why he got such a bad heart of never gave up haunting and playing games with me!

What is forgiveness?

God also conditioned us that if we want to be saved, we have to believe that he is the only God

Written by Mrs. Money

A poor weak lady was bullied by a group of business rivals and their gangsters' relative; the "parley" actually was a "threat" and the poor lady was demanded to close down the business within 24 hours or put up a newspaper to apologize on the front page, block letters in red for a week and together with 10 tables feasts to invite all their listed friends.

Then the poor lady handled the insults, humiliation and wrongful accusations all by herself, she never gave up her job for the first fifteen years, but eventually the prolonged malady caused her dropping her job.

So during a sunny Sunday a preacher told the poor lady, you should forgive what they did to you, then you will get out of the blue.

The poor lady went back home, but found out her credit card was overdue, all bills not yet paid and the bank account was insufficient enough to settle the overwhelming bills bills bills. She grumbled, "How could I forgive someone who used dirty ways, distort and twisting my professional image, they acted exactly like “professional murders” and yet they are still live like winners, rich and richer, those bloody business rivals still go around cheating, telling lies, threatening to demand cash from poor victims etc?"

Then in an unexpected morning, the poor lady learned that her lotto ticket won many million dollars, she became wealthier than all those people who bullied her before, she cried to God, "Thank you God! I know what is called forgiven now and now I can forgive those people who once wrongly accused, humiliated and insulted me with their distorted stories to damage my professional image and murder my career!"

Moral of this story: Forgiven is subjected to a certain conditions! Unconditioned forgiven also is subjected to a certain conditions.

God wants us to forgive people so he would forgive us in order to gain access to his heaven, but how many people could do it if without a certain conditions happened to them?!!!!

HOW TO MAKE BELACAN?

Especially for those Malaysians who stay in overseas



Written by Mrs. Money

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It was a memorable May afternoon, I went with my eldest sister to an outskirt teak store looking for furniture along a beach. After we emerged from the shop I saw so many Malays lined up to buy something, excitedly and full of curiousity I dragged along my eldest sister to see what the hawker was selling. "They are waiting to buy small shrimps!" With my four inches high heel I was a head taller than everyone, I turned my head to inform my sister waiting under a tree. I expressed my interest, soon those Malay women one after another began to give me all their secrets of how to make good belacan from No. 1 to 10!

"Thank you so much Mat chit, without you all, today Money Tai Tai still don't know how to make good belacan!" I was so grateful of those friendly Malays women, good cooks always willing to share their secrets when meeting their own species!

When I talked to the hawker in my army days trained spoken Malay, he immediately spoken to me in Mandarin, and he gave more shrimps than what my sister paid. “What a surprise to see a Chinese here wanting to make belacan?!” That’s his wordless expression but they were all very keen and encouraging, my sister and I bid them farewell to these nice and kind country folks.

"Goodbye, hope to see you here next year!” But I was not certain that I would return there as I already moved to Kuching secretly for a month by then.

Homemade belacan is very clean, not as smelly and it is pinky color. I done by myself alone, while my eldest sister just watching it as she paid for the krill, she wanted a share but didn't want to let her hands getting fishy!

I remember I learned how to make it on 21st May, 2008. I was pestering the krill on a mortar while watching the Taiwanese’ presidential election result, however my belacan already done (in two hours only) but still didn’t know its final result, only three hours later someone told me Ma won the election.

Ingredients:
Small shrimps (seasonal krill) and salt (if you are in overseas, you can try to use very small shrimps)

Procedure:

Wash the small krill with salted water
Dry the cleaned krill with paper towel, or use a muslin cloth to squeeze the excess water (Thanks to my mom, this was taught by my mom, she is a bad chef but time to time she is very sensible mom!)
Pestle the krill with a mortar and add any amount of salt you want all depend on how salty you want your belacan ends up! (Never use the blender as the result will not be successful)
Keep pestering until the krill become very fine and paste-like
Dry the paste under the very hot sun (with a net covering the top of a metal container) or dry the paste in a food dryer dehydrator
Taper the dried paste into the shape you prefer, wrap with aluminum folder pack tightly in a plastic container, store in freezer.

Note: If you want smelly (fragrant) belacan, then don’t dry it so quick, after dried up by the dehydrator for two hours (not too dry in this case) then leave the paste out under the hot sun for another 2 to 3 days until it turns smelly before you taper the paste into shape and store!

MAKING KOREAN KIMJI IN KUCHING
A Secret Revealed of How to Make Korean Cold Kimji and Regular Kimji

Korean Cabbage Kimji

Korean Cold Kimji

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I heard my friends told me whenever they asked their Korean friends teaching them making kimji, they would get the answer, “I will make it for you if you want to eat Kimji.” So seemingly no Korean wants to teach such family secret to outsiders, anyhow different Koreans make different tastes of kimji, same like the rest of world, talented cooks prepared better and tastier kimji.

Almost two decades ago I worked for a Korean couple in Brunei, they were excited that I love to eat their Korean kimji and I gradually learned to make different kinds of kimji just by merely looking at them making different kinds of kimji throughout the year I stayed with them.

A secret to tell those who don't know this:

Always give a quick boil for any pickle you make in order to stay crunchy even after 6 months.

How to prepare Cold Kimji?

Add salt to Sliced white carrot, spring onion, chili, black pepper corns, sliced ginger and sliced garlic

Many hours later, wash off excess salt. Final rinse with boil water

Add Water, sugar and vinegar, give a quick boil.


Store in sterilized bottle and keep in refrigerator

Best eaten after two weeks.


Ingredients:

1. Sliced daikon (white carrots); sliced garlic, sliced ginger (get rid the skin), spring onion of two inches length and chilies sliced in long thin pieces.

2. Sea salt, a dash of sugar, water, rice vinegar and black pepper corn (shouldn't add salt to let the omosis taken place)



Procedure:

Use the salt to soften 1. (daikon, herb and spices) for 6 to 12 hours. Wash with fresh water to get rid excess salt.

Boil water with 2. until boiling, quickly add 1. waiting for a quick boil, turn off the fire immediately.

Store in a bottle and store in refrigerator



How to make Chinese Long Cabbage Kimji?

This is a most common Korean kimji and a favorite for Malaysians who love Korean foods.

Preparations:

Immerse garlic in water

Instead of using fish sauce, I use sesame oil fried with cinjalok or minced ikan bilis (for those who are allergic of prawns)

Tossed sesame seeds

Making kimji sauce using cooked rice and water, Korean chili powder, spring onion, red chili, red capsicum, garlic, ginger with skin peeled (optional apple, Korean pear or big onion)

Ready prepared Kimji sauce with added raw sugar and pickled krills fried with sesame oil

Salted white daikon and Chinese long white cabbage

After many hours later, rinse the excess salt with water, finally give a rinse with boiled water

Drained white cabbage and white carrot

Give a quick cook with drained vegetables with sauce, add sesame seeds. Cool and store in refrigerator. Best eaten after two weeks.

Ingredients:

1. Two Chinese long cabbage (halved but cut smaller pieces to save time), a bunch of spring onion about two inches long, either shredded or sliced daikon (4 big white carrot) and sea salt

2. Four handful of big red chilies (deseeded and chop); Korean chili powder (use your own eyes to estimate the red you want), 2 big red capsicum, a bunch of spring onion, four big pieces of ginger (skin peel off), 12 cloves of garlic

3. Raw sugar (alternate use minced apple, pear and big onion), little rice powder (I prefer quality Japanese or Korean rice freshly grinned with water) .... the reason you don't need to use rice vinegar!

4. Cinjalok (For those allergic to shrimp you can use minced ikan bilis) fried with sesame oil and fried sesame seeds. Please note that Koreans would use fish sauce, however our coastal Malaysians are so used to eat good quality fresh fish and prawns, we prefer our own cincalok or ikan bilis, we won't like the taste of inferior quality fish sauce or anchovy. In this case make sure you buy the best quality fish sauce to replace cinjalok. (Cinjalok is made up by a species of tiny shrimps)


Procedure:

(*) Add salt to 1. to let them soften for an overnight. Then rinse with fresh water.

Blend 3 with little water until fine and then add 2 for blending. Boil it then add (*) for a quick boil. Once cool down, store in containers, sprinkle fried sesame seeds and cinjalok (or fried minced ikan bilies) on top. Store inside a dark plastic bag for a day, store immediately in the refrigerator. Ready to eat after few days, but for the best result will be after two weeks

Note: Shouldn't add salt to the sauce as soften cabbage and daikon are very salty, let omosis taken place after combination.

How to prepare Daikon Kimji?

Cut daikon into cubes and add salt

Many hours later, wash off excess salt with water, give the final rinse with boiled water

Mixed in ready made kimji sauce with the drained daikon cubes, give a quick cook.

Add sesame seeds, mixed and store in refrigerator. Best eaten after two weeks

Ingredients:

1. Daikon cut into cubes (to bite size) and sea salt
2. big red chilies (deseeded and chop); Korean chili powder (use your own eyes to estimate the red you want), red capsicum, spring onion, ginger (skin peel off) and garlic

3. Raw sugar (alrenative can use minced apple, big onion and pear), little rice powder (The more you use the rice the sour kimji later would get. I prefer quality uncooked Japanese or Korean rice freshly grinned with water or you can use minced cooked rice) .... the reason you don't need to use rice vinegar!

4. Cinjalok (Alternative for those allergic to shrimp you can use minced ikan bilis) fried with sesame oil and fried sesame seeds


Procedure:

(*) Add salt to 1. to let it soften for around 4 to 6 hours. Then rinse with fresh water.

Blend 3 with little water until fine and then add 2 for blending. Boil it then add (*) for a quick boil. Once cool down, store in containers, sprinkle fried sesame seeds and cinjalok (or fried minced ikan bilies) on top. Store inside a dark plastic bag for a day, store immediately in the refrigerator. Ready to eat after few days, but for the best result will be after two weeks



How to prepare seaweed kimji?

Ingredients:

Shredded seaweeds, salt, minced garlic, fried sesame seeds, minced ikan bilis, Korean chili powder, sesame oil

Procedure:

Fried minced garlic with minced ikan bilis until brownish, add chili powder, finally add shredded seaweeds fried until dried. Springled fried sesame seeds on top

HELP ... LITTLE COLOUR WOLF AT HOME!

Written by Mrs. Money

“Help! Help! Little color Wolf!” Mr. Money looked around wondering what I was screaming until he saw his seven years old son looking at him cheekily.
“What are you doing?” He questioned his son sternly.
“Nothing!” He twinkled his shinning eyes like a little kitty.

“I tell daddy to chop your hands if you touch me here and there again!” I threatened him.

It’s time for sexual education to this little color wolf! When he started to show such curiousity in sex? I remember it started almost two years ago, the little color wolf was sitting at the back of the car with his cousin, suddenly his 17 years old cousin pulled out few pieces of torn papers out of his bag pack and she laughed while showing her mom on the front wheel. They were waiting for me in the car, so the minute I got into the car, my sister laughed, “You don’t need to worry your son will turn into a gay in the future.”
“Why?”
“Look at these …” She then showed me all those semi-naked female figures from magazines perfumes advertising pages.
“Oh my XYZ&*! Nobody taught him this, I was so busy in the oil town office and when he did that by himself? He packed these inside his bag pack ready to bring these to Kuching?!”

I got quite many friends confided in me about their kids, e.g. when one of them reached 10 years old, she would cut naked girls pictures and hide everywhere, and her mom would wait when she slept, then she would search for them and took them away. Some kids would wait when their moms went to work; they would go into their mommies’ bedroom to read those women magazines that their mommies forbid them to read. Some top students of a certain famous secondary school would hide in a classmate’s house to watch blue films while those female classmates who followed them would use pillows to cover their faces, and these kids I knew of were actually very active in their church youth fellowship and their holy parents never would know that “I know what their kids were doing last night!” The more those mommies forbid them to see the more curious they got.

For more than 20 years in my profession, I seem too many little growing kids to teenagers then until they went to study in overseas, most of the time our Asian kids just shy off when coming to subjects regarding sex, even just mentioned the word SEX.

Recently when my son showed my cousin an excerpt, “Sex during pregnancy” I was shocked of how he could burrow into my personal belonging, particularly picked and read those pregnancy magazines as these articles are like rubbish waited to get chopped out!

“It’s time to buy him THE HUMAN BODY from Popular!” I told my cousin.
“Yeah!” She laughed

I think my eldest sisters got the most successful sexual education for her kids, she made them read the human body during their “curious age”, I bet her kids have no problem to pursue medicine in the future!

“Hey kids, now here with the book THE HUMAN BODY, it got so many naked pictures for you to see, you can see it everyday, read how human beings propagate! Spell words of every parts of any male or female human body if you want!”

Once they finished reading the book, my sister asked her kids questions then asked them to find from internet how to make a test tube baby. My sister told me how the ways she gave her kids sexual education even before I was married, that should be more than 10 years ago.

I noticed later that her kids were acting coolly or having very high EQ when facing sexual subjects not like so many other teenagers that I knew of would shy off as hypocrites, but with their friends they were actually watching blue films.

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Wireless Obsessions

Written by Mrs. Money

School holidays, many parents didn’t aware their devilish kids hacked other users’ lines to get in internet or hacked into other users’ mails. When they are too carefree they would use their HP to take their “naked little brother” to send their girlfriends, and many teenage girls thought that it’s an intimate treasured photo, they didn’t realize it’s an insult for them. When a boy thinks that a girl is very “hiaw” he can come to an extend sending a x-rated photo or sex toy to such girl, I learned it from a male friend when I studied in USA, he told me; “…………… My friend asked me to go in a sex toys shop bought a toy for his girlfriend in Malaysia, he told me that she needs it when he is not around her!”


Any invented communication tools involving in wireless transmissions or aliens’ transmission; our earthy human beings would get obsessed so badly. Even my young monsters at home could be easily obsessed, early morning one of them would switch on the TV herself (now dared enough to challenge mommy’s “NO”) and the other one would take up my HP to figure out games by himself, and everyday my HP battery is running low quickly.

Youngsters would get obsessed to internet activities; old folks would get obsessed with TV soap operas and kids with computer games.


My time to “conditioned” kids: “How could you control by a TV (HP games)? A living thing controlled by a non-living toy! Useless you! Why can’t you control yourself not being controlled by a toy?”

They both did improve slightly after the brain-washing, but I could see their rebellious scintillating from their eyes, I don’t mind they watch their TV and play their games to par up with their era, as long as they are willing to go to nursery, willing to eat their dinner and willing to take shower and sleep on time.

I think high tech modern tools and toys are like devils’ inventions, anytime ready to recruit our mankind as their disciples. These inventions attracted especially to youngsters and most youngsters’ brains could automatically and instinctively compatible utilizing the new inventions efficiently.


Actually, my kind of brain-washing and conditioning is good to control kids being grown up too materialistic.

FIVE YEARS OLD MONSTER AT HOME!

She is no different from prehistoric cavemen, my house is just another Niah Caves but in Kuching!

Written by Mrs. Money



She is still in an age with highest subconscious; soon she will get kicked out from the Garden of Eden!

What a joke if I tell you that God could be a female figure when "et" converted to a physical being in order to live in Garden of Eden. Eve might listen to God’s word if "et" was a male figure and our religious believes would be entirely different. It's just a joke, actually God should be a male figure according to my bible research, but Eve even could disobey her "heavenly father" but rather chose to believe a snake possessed by a devil, Eve had not gained worldly wisdom before she got kicked out from Garden of Eden yet she already got that rebellious defected genes in her.

Eve rather listened to a snake than God, the girl chose to listen the big bad wolf rather than her mom and now my little five years girl never listens to me, when I cooked rice, she wanted noodles, when I gave her milk she wanted oat meal,, when I gave her coke she wanted Ribena and when I gave her sundae she wanted ice-cream cone. When I asked her to return her toys to the basket after she played but she would deliberately dump them under her bed and love to cut the papers and stuck them everywhere and I would clean the house for more than 5 times a day. When I bought her to shower, she would lock the door and I would scream angrily because she pour water into all the bottles of shampoo and body shampoo, anything with bubbles is her favorite. She only behaved if I told her, “Your daddy is coming back home today, so don’t mess up the house.” Either Odysseys behavior revealed on her or she simply got certain rebellious defected genes inherited from Eve!

Many friends asked me should they beat their daughters with a rattan, as laws in USA and Singapore, children shouldn’t be canned. Personally I think they should be canned but not abused. I am expecting lots of social problem in the coming twenty years with children not being canned when they were young.

In the highest subconscious age of 3 to 5, they are half stupid half smart, half conscious half no cognitive awareness and half devil half angel. When they turned into annoying monsters insisted an expensive toy from their poor mommies, due to the laws said “No canning”, so no matter how their mommies tried to cool down the monsters they insisted wanted their respective toys, in front of many onlookers soon their mommies gave way, little monsters won their wars.

After 20 years later, someone offering “yes” kids some drugs, they never learned conditionally of such word called “no” and “pains and rejections” in their subconscious realm, their wills cum wise brains struggling to control their bad actions, drugs and other compulsive bad habits easily become their adult toys!

In an adverse, if mommies said “no” to little monsters, and gave them some painful canning, mommies won their wars. Their little monsters adopted conditioned-learning into their subconscious realm. Twenty years later their friends ask them, “Happy hours. Let’s go looking for pros!” Suddenly their fierce mommies’ face emerged to give them some hesitations and thinking, they can easily let their wise brain and wills under controlled before their bad actions, as they were being taught since young days.

Divorced parents with kids of 3 to 5 will bring them silent hurts in their subconscious realm. I witnessed myself a rich couple who divorced with a daughter at 2 and another around 4. 10 years later the 14 years old girl told me, “I want to be a lesbian when I grow up.” Her behavior wise is really recluse and weird though I really think that she will turn into a very pretty girl yet she behaves with no confidence postures and acts. Their divorced rich dad and pretty mom s both found their respective partners and left the kids to their grandma. However, her younger sister acted very normal and wise. It’s very painful when I think of these two lovely girls, I just pray that nothing bad will happen to them of wherever they are now.

“HELPFUL” MEN AND THEIR GROWN UP DAUGHTERS

Written by Mrs. Money


They are like a group of pet lovers, who would acquire a Persian cat to propagate kitties or Husky bitch to propagate puppies but these pets are locked in a cage above 80 degree F with bad ventilation!


There is a group of “very helpful role model” not that wealthy married men living in our community, who usually leave their families in another city to enable their children to attend particular branded schools that they wished to attend. Or in certain cases, there is a good excuse to leave them twenty four out of thirty days in a month alone again living a carefree bachelor life, as in their shared dictionary with their old grandpa saying that the role for a wife is to take care of a family and children, thus a wife and kids are acting like a barge towed behind a tug boat!

These guys would be so helpful to their relatives, friends, churches, political parties, associations and clans. Only after they finished “all” their helps to others, then they began to remember that they got some kids at home with a wife. So he began to feel very guilty, he would rush home the most once or twice a month to pamper and fulfill their kids and wives for two or three days. Everyone of their friends and friends would think that they are the good men as they work hard, didn’t gamble, didn’t look for a mistress and some of them even came to an extend to study religious courses as they are so free without any direct parenting duty involved.

Actually this is the pattern of traditional good married men but when they live in this modern era, they are actually disappointing men for modern thinking highly educated overseas graduated wives and loser-dads for their grown up new age daughters. This kind of traditional men actually are silent selfish controllers, usually they leave their poor wives juggling alone like a single mother without any assisting maid and with the limited monthly household allowance given to manage a family (They would never give their entire salary to their wives to manage, indirectly created unconfident wives as they doubt their hubbies don’t earn much money as given family expenses are so limited) they wouldn’t care if their wives are working or not, whether if their wives still have their respective career ambitions, sometimes they would be very discouraging to their tired overstressed working wives until their wives quit working, “Even you work so hard, but your yearly salary won’t be earning more than my monthly salary!” Their wives hence never know what is called pocket money, a practice of Hong Kong married men, who would give their wives monthly household expenses and in additional specific pocket money either their wives work or not. Pocket money hence became a forever history which their wives’ parents would give them during their studying years and sojourns. Their educated modern wives suddenly got such awakening that their old folks are the greatest beings in this world rather than their hubbies who make them felt they were being cheated and buried in a marriage graveyard.

I heard some older ladies whose old husbands ended staying with their mistresses and children, making such hissing angry remark, “I hated my husband is because he controlled me tactically, he would go out with me paid everything I wanted to buy, though I never worried about what to dress, what to eat or where to travel, but he never gave me any single dime as pocket money, when I wanted to invite my friend for a cup of tea, I also didn’t have money, some friends might think that I was proud as I never wanted to go out with them, but nobody knew that I was penniless!”

These stuck-up dads don’t know a modern term called modern day parenting, their thoughts are very traditional though they can be very open-minded too (they would leave alone their children and wives freedom to do what they want when he is not with them) ….. In short they love to take all advantages of what they wanted to but leaving their silent unhappy wives to carry the sole modern day parenting duty. They think that they go out to work to earn money, with a limited amount they gave their wives in exchanged for their wives’ parenting duty, they would usually made a telephone call to their wives and they love to do that right in front of all their friends to show people that they are a good husband and a good daddy.

These men would have extra money to travel all over the world, donating to their associations or schools, driving a posh car and even flashing themselves in uptown social activities yet nobody has seem their wives or children appearing beside them, they would always made such excuses, “She is in Kuching with young children still schooling, thus I can’t bring her.” Their wives usually would drive a very old troubled car, usually a used unwanted car of their brothers or friends, even if their wives drive a brand new car, their other as traditional brothers would question their sister-in-law, “Why you drive a brand new car? I am richer than your husband, but my wife is still driving a used car!”

Other lady friends of these men also seldom met their wives as they can’t present their simple wives who didn’t have enough money to dress up themselves and to make friends with other lady friends ….. They simply didn’t know that their wives also need money to make friends too.

These men never learned that neglecting their own highly disciplined church-going-daughters at home in this modern era only one day might risk their hard earned reputation, they didn’t know their carefree behaviors with all responsible dump to their wives, their schools and their churches might be earning them shames. It will be too late when they get informed that their daughters are detained in China or Korean airport due to drugs trafficking, and they still caressing their lushly hair quite definite that they never applied any passport for their grown up daughters, “No. She never has a passport, how could she end up in China!”

They don’t know that their grown up daughters need a daddy to talk and confide to when they can’t talk to their respective moms (Odysseys behavior) and to guide them to look for a boyfriend perhaps. They didn’t aware that their unhappy neglected attention deprived daughters by a daddy might end up meeting stranger men in internet, potential involvement in different kind of scandals and risk social security.

In other serious cases, their tired, lonely angry wives even involved in scandals with internet lovers unknown to them. These men didn’t know that there are a larger numbers of con-men, felonies and criminals with all kinds of identities throwing out fishing hooks or waiting beside their computers to use their lonely, angry, neglected daughters and wives for their different criminal purposes.

Gawai got many wedding going on, so such silly men would loan their luxury cars to their relative’s friends for wedding or some senseless men would travel to JB for golfing! During Gawai holiday yet they were not returning home to see their wives and daughters, but who got time being helpful to take a whole car full of ladies from their church activities to go for dinners and visiting tourist attraction centers but got no time to return home to bring their kids for a movie, dinner or sit-down chat. Or even if they returned home a few days after Gawai New Year, due to they were partying late deprived of sleep, so when they returned home readily to get sick but instead they would blame their wives of “overwhelming” them, indirectly wanted their wives to feel guilty to avoid their wives from “interrogating” them!

If you have senseless unwise married male friends with any of the above symptoms, please email this article to show them …. But I know 99% of these men’s hobby is not reading!!!!

http://webmastermalaysia.com/news-announcements/9468-latest-internet-scam-list.html

http://themalaysianlife.blogspot.com/2009/02/top-5-internet-scams.html

http://www.consumerfraudreporting.org/reporting.php

What My Mom Should Have Taught and Told me?

Written by Mrs. Money

Continued from last publish

How to clean a cup or a glass?

Are you kidding me? .... One of such simple chaos

One of my most memorable things kept in me was I once taught my deceased uncle how to wash coffee mugs. Periodically my aunty would prepare afternoon teas for their visiting nieces (many nieces), and once we left my uncle would wash those cups. But on the next afternoon tea moment, I always saw lipstick stains on the mugs, secretly I would wipe the stains away, this went on for ages, finally one day I followed him to the kitchen pretended talking to him while he washed his mugs, then I showed him the lipstains remained over his washed mugs and I taught him how to wash a cofee mug. He happily accepted my teaching, but with the following afternoon tea meet who knew that became our last "no lipstain" cups of coffee together! Only God knows how much I miss that kind of afternoon tea moment with my dad, uncle and aunty whenever I returned to my hometown.

Holidays, I got many guests-in-resident from my mother's side, I gave them my house rules from number 1 to 10. My mother never taught me how to wash a cup or a glass, so I knew that my grandma probably never taught her daughters, I was quite sure my cousins, nephew and nieces were not taught by their respective mothers of how to wash a cup and glass properly!

Did your mother ever teach you that washing a cup or glass rim with a dish detergent soaked sponge is more important than washing other parts of a cup or glass?

The fact is we drink through a cup or glass by smudging our lips to the rim, actually those lipstick stains on the rims reminded us of dirty trace better than those after used cups or glasses with invisible lip stains, so many people didn't wash their cups or glasses with a sponged and dish detergent just because they didn't grow such awareness and some of them might even think that their own lips are cleaner than others, they simply rinsed their used cups with water.

So remember to wash the rim of a cup, a mug or a glass with a sponge and dish detegent, no matter it is your own used cup or others!

Goodies in Kuching City Month of June, 2010

Shiso Plant
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Writen by Mrs. Money



Long school holidays on June, naughty children keeping at house but I am unable keeping them at bay ....... I only could sigh if not getting angry with those "growing" graffiti on bedroom. Every morning my five years old daughter would get up but first thing asking for TV instead of greeting me, “Good morning, mom!” She would close all the curtains, switched on the light and air-condition all over again, from her request to hissing to screaming until she won her threat to get her ways, “I don’t want to eat!”
“I don’t want to take shower!”
“I don’t want to go Qdees!”


My cousin just returned from Vietnam brought some of my favorite things: Most luxury silk scarf, different kinds of coffee and Vietnamese coffee-maker. Then she told me what were those herbs that she ate in Vietnam, something interested both of us is a herb called Shiso, she ate that in California and I ate that in NZ. It was about 5 years ago when the Japanese friend who gave me the shiso seeds was never being sowed with crying babies.


At first my cousin explored by herself until she found a shiso plant over a 5th mile nursery, but she told me, “They don’t want to sell!”
I told her, “May be you should talk to the boss!”
So yesterday I went with her to the nursery, I requested for the boss, a chef who normally cooked at the road side was considered as a boss by the Indo helper. She was a very disappointed lady; I thought that my cousin was alone that's why she was rejected , but with two tigresses meowing nicely we still got rejected, they neither wanted to give us a twig nor to sell us a twig. In fact my six-sense told me they were watching over us tightly, with that feeling I quickly pulled out my cousin and kids. Before we left, we ate outside the canteen, I asked the workers, “Where is your boss?”
“In India.”


I will never ever step in this kind of nursery anymore, I told my cousin, peoples who love herbs would be so willing to share with other herb lovers, we were willing to pay but they didn’t want to sell, so what’s the use of opening a big nursery with exclusive herbs to show but not to sell?! God knows I have connections all over the world, if I am desperated enough, I can even afford to fly in an exclusive seedling instead of being suspected by someone wanted to steal their "exclusive herbs!" I am quite definite that moneytaitai's garden got more exclusive herbs than this 5th mile nursery!


So my cousin and I popped in the regular nursery that we went, the owner’s name is Lisa, we asked Lisa if she has any shiso, at first she hesitated, “… No.” But as she was unsure so she bought us to see her herbs-lover mom, I asked her mom, “Do you have shiso?”
Out of all our surprises, “yes!” her mom replied and she told us that it’s the only shiso plant she got. She took it out from a corner of her herbal garden and even more out of our surprised, she said, “I give it to you!”
My cousin and I were both so touched, I told my cousin, “She got a true spirit of an herb lover who is always willing to share!”


Her daughter Lisa, even though runs a nursery next door, but when Lisa brought us to her mom’s garden, everything we wanted she would give us free, I remembered two years ago I brought my friends to visit the nursery but it happened was closed for holiday, so I went to Lisa’s parents and woke them up from siesta nap, her mom gave my friends some mulberry tea that really thrilled my friends. Three months ago, when I asked Lisa where I could get “South African Tree”, she just went to her mom’s garden cut off some twigs and passed to me, “For you!”
“How much?”
“No need to pay!” Now the SA twigs are growing very well in my garden, actually I am sipping the tea made from its leaves right now!


If you wish to contact Lisa for gardening services, she got some strong helpers too. I remembered I recommended my old classmate to a nursery along Stutong/BDC few months ago, the owner kind of slaughtered my old classmate and her gardeners very obviously were not fed probably, so I bought my old friend to Lisa again.


Lisa’s nursery is along Jalan Laksamana, Kuching.


Her contact is: 0165766518

Lisa's mother very kindly gave us her only shiso plant, my cousin and I were both so happy and thrilled!