Friday, March 8, 2013

Taste Buds Trills



A meal with Burmese salad and Daun Kesom spring rolls

 Yummy Burmese Salad



Written by Miss Yellow




A few months ago I learned that green unripe papaya is one of the natural remedies to cure cancer, but my excuse is my body’s cancer cells has not pinched me down yet, I not gonna forcing myself drinking green papaya juice like those poor malaria patients.
   On January, I was juicing green papaya and air flown it for my malaria infested ex-cancer-patient sister in Singapore, I wondered how could Singapore, such a clean country, her residents suffered from Malaria, and then I was told, ‘Indonesians brought it!’ Hmmmm……….

My Burmese neighbor heard that I wanted to do something with my green unripe papaya on my papaya trees (Last year end, I chopped two, died one and I only have a tree remained) immediately she offered to prepare and let me tried her Burmese salad.
   My Burmese neighbor is from a very prominent Burmese family and she develops very good taste buds for gourmet foods and her green papaya salad prepared for me was much more refined and tastier than any green papaya salads I tried before.

Of course after that from time to time I innovated it in different ways, anyhow she always likes my innovative ways especially after a day of hard work, she never complaint anything I ever cooked for her!


 Have you ever thought of preparing spring roll with daun kesom?
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Burmese Salad, a special thank to my Burmese neighbor who taught me how to prepare this dish.



Ingredients

Quarter unripe big green papaya, peel off skin, shredded the papaya (big or small up to one's preference)

One potatoes, cut into thin small pieces, boil 
Vermicelli, soak then boil
Give both of them a cold bath

Half big onion cut into rings, deep fried in the oil until brown and crispy, (Optional to add small dried prawns); use both oil (up to one's wish), crispy onion and crispy small dried prawns

Soy bean fried and prepared to grind into fine powder, need two big tablespoons

Cilandro leaves for garnishing

A  lemon

Two spoons (use big serving spoon) of fish sauce


Mix all of them together, can mash the potatoes slightly (opt)

Friday, March 1, 2013

ECONOMICAL WAY OF DECORATING A HOUSE



Including its half-done kitchen left by its deceased first owner!

Have you ever thought of placing a dishwasher at 
this kind of 90 degrees corner,on the top of 
kitchen counter top and next to the dish basin?



Written by Miss Yellow



A decade ago, nobody wanted to buy my current house, and I heard it that it was vacant for 8 years by a big takau before my little family moved in.  
   Initially I got to dust the long vacant house like 5 times a day, I always wondered if any Kuching folks gossiped that my long vacant house got antu or not! Even if it got some before, but I think once my two noisy “monkeys” moving in with their virago-mom, the high decibels could close the access gaps of 11th dimension to our earthy realm!
   Soon my visitors saying they regretted they didn’t buy it, all because they hesitated to see the house which only got two bedrooms, in their midst of hesitating they also not realizing Kuching property in good areas were kept rising every year, my house now has most probably raised for a double since we first moved in 5 years ago.




Many poor housewives would understand what I am talking: After purchased a house, even you have the shell you won’t have an interior. I was left penniless to decorate my house by Mr. Money, but luckily I still carried my long distance career and business initially for a year before I sold them off. Sarcastically enough I once got such optimistic opinion planned to act my role as a full time happy housewife!

   Initially when I moved in the newly moved-in house, I only had a dustbin; it collected every kind of rubbish!! My friend from another city came to visit me at the same time she brought along a very wealthy businessman’s native wife, I could detect her snub when she couldn’t find a dustbin in the toilet, she didn’t realize not every housewife could afford many dustbins, when I visited her new mansion, I could tell money for her was never a problem, she even has more animal-toilets for her pets than my toilets!

   What she looked for was the spiritual peace of how to get to heaven, for me 4 letter foul words always could come out of my mouth in my daily frustrated encountering, the path for gold mine and heaven both look heavenly distance from my current life style!
   From my knowledge, only less than 5% of our Malaysian housewives don’t need to worry much about money to buy household accessories when they move in a new house!



Few things you have to bear in mind if you are not a filthy rich housewife but you have a small house that you plan to keep, always remember cozy feel of a house is above all, you make your guests felt welcomed and comfortable in your house, a house is NOT to show off to people of your filthy wealth and how big was your mansion, how nice and expensive your household accessories, your show off actually could make your inferior visitors felt of how insufficient and poor they were.
   A house is a place where your respective visitors would respect of your through decades of hard-earning collections but not within a few months time!

   A house is also a place, where friends could learn and benefits from an older and wiser host or hostess.


(1) You can afford to wait, even for 4 years like me. Don’t buy inferior furniture, think of hard wood furniture only. You collect the furniture in such a way a piece after another, perhaps only once every 4 months once, up to current date, my living room doesn’t have a sofa set yet!

(2) Don’t look for a modern style home, now is modern how about twenty years later? So think of classic or country style or unless it is a prize-winning architect-designed house. But if you can’t avoid, then be very imaginative and creative to decorate or renovate both its interior and exterior to suit and cater your current living styles, needs and standard.

(3) Learn to match your house, e.g. don’t mix a modern architectural design with country furniture and with elaborated classic style curtains with weird color.

(4) Unless you are super rich and have a big mansion, or else don’t need to waste your space and money for two wet and dry kitchens, this is Malaysia and if you are Chinese-Malaysians who love to cook, then design your outdoor yet “heavy rain-proof” Chinese-Malaysian style kitchen.
(5) Don’t mix family room with living room, for small house you can combine your family room as TV room, library and computer room or even guest room.
(6) Don’t waste your money to decorate children rooms with children theme, unless you are rich and free enough to keep changing theme with them along their growing stages, how about one day if they leave the house and go studying overseas?

(7) Have an enclosed (or partially) car port, where you can make it as an extra storage/tools room.
(8) Decorate your house with characteristic which is feasible and practical for your daily life style, interest and hobbies, but not copying your design here and there from interior design magazines, but where you can always gain tips and inspiration from.
(9) Master bedroom must have a walk-in toilet and shower, drawer, exhaust fan (optional), chest, bedside tables, table lamps, long mirror, wardrobe, standing lamps, fans and (opt. air-condition), blind (or thin curtain) and thick dark curtain, kartini bench, sofa (sleeping sofa, study desk, little table, TV and Video (Optional), mini bar (Optional: Only suggest it if your kitchen is on the ground floor). Use a single plan color bed sheet, quilt cover (silk is better than cotton and down) and pillow cases. Always decorate your bedroom cozier and “tastier” than a hotel room, or else don’t blame your husband and children who prefer hotel stay than at home!

(10) Buy only hardwood beds and good mattress like I would suggest Slumberland brand (You won’t regret, as it is affordable yet comfortable for your back, wait for its promotion)

(11) Buy some vintage/Persian rugs, runners and paintings for floor and wall decorating. I once came across a big mansion, it was decorated with all kinds of expensive accessories but dissappointedly I didn’t find any Persian rugs on the floor nor any painting on the wall!
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(12) Lastly, your walls need skirting!
(13) Don’t paint your house too dark, too colorful or too many themes!
(14) Garden needs rare fruit trees, rare flowers, rare herbs and rare vegetables in “rojak-style”.

(15) If affordable always buy a few dehumidifier and ionizer for your house, turn them on especially when you are absented from the house for a long term or during rainy days.
(16) Try to use neutral color theme for your house, don’t ask a man or a boy to stay in a little pinky house.

(17) Don’t abuse yourself as a modern days housewife; buy a dish dryer for daily use and a dishwasher for after party or feast. When I requested my husband for a dishwasher few years ago, he asked me, “Do you open a Chinese restaurant?” and my “China-woman mom” would ask me, “Why so lazy?” Few Chinaman-husbands would help their wives to wash dirty dishes, they also wouldn’t buy dishwasher for you, so I buy it with my own money, because I have not work for more than 4 years now, situation forced and trained into a bargainer, I searched through the whole city and was lucky enough to run into a showroom unit with 50% discount.

(18) Don’t build a wooden kitchen, unless you use hard wood, you always can consider stainless steel and aluminum kitchen. I waited for more than 4 years paying from my own pocket to renovate my kitchen (which was half done by previous owner when I moved in the house).



Be very flexible especially you have limited budget, it was my hard earned money, e.g. I won’t change the 20 over years gas stove and hood left by the previous owner, I didn’t demolished the whole kitchen counter top just because the previous owner half-done kitchen counter top was built lower than standard height, resulted in no dishwasher could fit in. For that reasons I read over many articles from professional chefs and gone through thousands of kitchen photos to look for the best place to fit in my dishwasher in my ultra-small kitchen and to decide a very personalized kitchen for myself, especially I have so many kitchen utensils.






A NEW YEAR GIFT FOR MYSELF WAS TO FIX UP THE UNDONE KITCHEN FROM MY OWN HARD SAVING IN A STRICT BUDGET!

Since day one I moved into this house, for years I used induction stove, thus more than three Kenwood induction stoves were damaged within the 4 years, recently I bought a Empress induction stove from Cosway and a Morgan Halogen stove from Chin Hup Hing, just in case when gas runs out, or when I need to cook Chinese foods I can use them, for more than 4 years I used to cook outside the kitchen porch counter top, initially I couldn't use this kitchen and its stove, until a gas compartment was constructed right outside the kitchen during  year end of 2012. Remember you must use a safe lock for your gas tank, buy the Italian brand safe lock which cost something like RM80+, I bought it from Chin Hup Hing 082: 331848

I put cooking pots, woks and pans at the top tier counter where I can see all and within the reach of my height.

The lower tiers are made up of tempered glass, my kitchen contractor told me it's his first case in Kuching.

I didn' t change my 20 years old stove and hood left by the deceased owner, thus I can only do western cooking in this kitchen.

Beside the stove the expensive microwave oven was a gift from my old classmate Au Au and his wife, and after having it for more than 2 years I only learned how to use it partially and found it was excellent to "bake-steam" a successful Christmas turkey! Just recently I bought a conventional fujihome oven which cost a thousand ringgit less than it, but I left it outside the kitchen porch, as I don't want a heat "infested" kitchen when I bake!

My stainless steel kitchen, aluminium shoes shelve, counter shelves and oven cabinet shelve was done by:
CH Kitchen (S) Sdn Bhd,
Lot 54, No 99, Grd flr,
Jln Sekama, Kuching. 
HP: 0168866090    (Mr. Ling)
My stainless steel kitchen was drawn by CH kitchen designer Ms. Wong


This big jermuda fruit tree chopboard is my island (cost RM40) with bileng hardwood legs (Cost RM100+),  it was made by a Taiwan trained chef from Sarikei, the Ikea ladder stood next to it is within my reach to climb up top tier counter top to collect some big pots!


 T
 Ever thought of placing the dishwasher next to the washing basins and in the 90 degrees corner? I never found one in the kitchen design magazine!

See the thin curtain? I have them as the mosquitoes netting all over the windows in the house, and cost me less than RM300 (fabric cost less than RM100, elastic wire and seintress cost barely RM100+) for the whole house 13 big, small, long and short windows! It already lasted for more than 4 years now! Could be washed easier than the conventional window netting!

I am very happy with my own idea, first I didn't need to demolish the countertop (with original stainless steel fringe) which is lower than standard kitchen counter top height, secondly the most useless corner in the kitchen now is occupied by it without a space being wasted in this case. Thirdly, my dish basin is next to it, I can drain my dirty plates before loading them to dishwasher for washing. Fourthly, it is next to the cutlery drawer. Lastly, I don't need to bend my back and neither need to raise my head up when loading and unloading my dirty or cleaned dishes!


 My cutlery set tray drawer, CH Kitchen Mr. Ling tried to find one fitted into the stainless steel drawer exactly and I also like the color he chose for it.


These were my older accessories collected one after another since many years back from an oil town, the regular teak wood console table I bought it in Kuching from Casa Reka, but I converted it, see those pans I hanged under it? Inside the drawer I store those aluminium, plastic foils and other extra accessories. See the dish dryer on its counter top, when I didn't have many plates, I hand washed and dried those plates in there.


If you have an ultra small kitchen, be brave like me, think of something different from stereo type design and ideas! You won't regret! I think if I am not a jobless $ tai tai, I wouldn't have moved my brain in a hard way to save money and get the most out of the money I spent on!

Friday, February 15, 2013

Married  A Badly Indebted Chinaman Husband Unknowingly!


You would be ended up in deep shits too!







Written by Miss Yellow






Advice for unmarried girls


1. Not ashamed of yourself to find out your future husband’s financial situation, no bank wants to loan its money or issuing a credit card to a badly indebted man. (He would find all sorts of excuses e.g. explaining to you why he didn’t owe a credit card, most of the time he blamed for his own kindness due to extending his help to his “bad friends” who didn’t pay their loans to the bank, thus as a guarantor, he got black listed! This is enough to proof that he is a stupid person! And you are either too stupid or naive if you believed his explanation!)


2. If you are from a better background, don’t get fooled by a trap set up by him, his family members or even his friends, check the credential of a family’s background, when you got married, you also automatically married into his family. To upgrade and change their living standard, conflicts between religion and feudal practices and believes would be really tough!


3. Family background in education, interest, cultivation and religion must be equally standing


4. Most Chinese families abide the laws that would hide everything unpleasant from outsiders; they only said good things about their own family, 家丑不可外杨. Those good things they bragged you should only count for 10% accuracy!


5. If you are from a better family background, including the match-makers would pester the man to sleep with you in order to make you rush into a wedding!


6. Don’t be too sure of your most respected person’s advice, e.g. your dad, he could be a very well known and respected educator, but unbelievably a very naive person regarding how to find a good husband for his daughter, for some fathers, as long as a man got a penis then he is considered as a good man!!


7. Older generation simple minded and lacked exposure naive parents never taught their daughters how to look for a husband, they felt that once they were both poor, thus they wished that their daughters not to get married into a rich family, they worried their daughters would be bullied by rich people, but they never thought the other opposite way could happen too, if their daughters got married to a very poor, less uncultivated and educated family, she could be an item under abused too!




There are two kinds of person that a GOOD MAN should never borrow money from, loan shark or your own sibling, because someone eventually would show to the bad man’s wife asking directly or hinting indirectly that she also owes the responsible to return her naughty husband’s bad debts even it was debts incurred before the marriage!


   Stereo type Chinese family has a common problem, when an aging sibling in a family was not married, the family member would pressure him to get married, even he was full of bad debts, the family member would be the culprits to fool the future sister-in-law to fall into the marriage trap, they all thought that after married, the unmarried naughty brother would get settled down, he would become a more responsible man due to his wife's "good" influence.


   But when the situation was not success, when old dog doesn't learn new tricks, they would blame his naive wife; soon the creditor-brother’s wife would show up the door-steps of the debtor’s wife pressuring or pursuing after her!





Now imagine this, how about the poor wife learned the husband owes so much bad debt to his siblings only after married him for 10 years? It was happened only after selling off her business like 80% cheap sales and 10 months later only a more humane aging eldest creditor-sibling began to reveal her of what had happened of her husband's bad debts?


   Whose fault was that? What did her husband, her husband's siblings and sisters-in-law and mother-in-law did to actually a prominent professional from a city but ended up ruining her hard earned prominent career to beome a jobless tai tai in another strange city just because of her wrong marriage into a wrong family? Who were selfish, self-centered and thoughtless?


   Why? A woman could experience heart wrenching ache and depression, when this kind of money affair conflicts between her husband and his family members inflicted her , they  dragged her in ..... usually would happen just right before or right on Chinese new year, because it is the time most kinds of money transactions involved, it was the time people need most money to spend for Chinese New Year, and it was the time debtors should return if not whole sum, but at least a portion of debts to their creditors.





When she began to question her husband, he would tell her the same answer all the time, “This is my siblings matter, don’t you dare to involve in it!”


'But then I was forced to get involved?'


'I told you not to tell anyone of my family that we would be going away during Chinese New Year!'


'Yes, I tried to avoid it when your sister-in-law SMS me, but for god sake …. Past 4 years, she never visited me but she showed up our doorsteps with gifts, I thought she was sincere!'


'I told you not to tell anyone of my family that we would be going away …..'


'Now I know why! You owe them so much debt that they want you to return them money not to use their money to enjoy yourself got it?!'


'I told you that are my family matter, you shouldn’t get involved.'


'What’s the intention of your sister-in-law then? I thought that I could trust her when she showed up my doorsteps, so I revealed to her where we would be heading during Chinese New Year, I even told her that she shouldn’t reveal to anyone… it was just between she and me!!!'


'I told you not to tell anyone in my family right? What you did could cause our brothers to have another big fight again' When you and your brothers were ffighting? Shit, you blamed me that I would instigate fights amongst your siblings again?


‘You shouldn’t owe money to your siblings for too long without returning them any dime, you are a bit too much…… they would blame me, they thought you spend money on me when I went for travelling but those money actually were mine and my family’!!! How did I know that I can’t trust your sister-in-law? I thought as a doctor’s wife, she should be a very trustable person like my sister! She thought that you can’t be trusted, as I am your wife, I am also as unreliable as you???!!!! That’s why we are still together! Dammm… you know how hard, how patient, how tolerated I have to maintain this marriage?!’ The frustrated angry wife began to scream. She decided she would never trust her trouble making sister-in-law again, how could her sister-in-law didn’t trust her when she told her they would be heading to G city, and why she deliberately “reconfirmed” with her husband again during a pre Chinese New Year eve family dinner? Her sister-in-law didn’t care if she got scored by her hubby! Her sister-in-law didn’t care the trouble couple would involve a big fight. Creditors are always right! Why God let me unknowingly became a debtor’s wife???!!! God is really unfair to me after I got married!


‘How can you trust a X Msian girl? I told you not to reveal them any of our travelling!’


‘So that include my own and kids’ travelling out of my parents’ pockets, siblings’ pockets or from my own hard savings? Don’t tell me again that’s your problem between you and your siblings ….. or your own family matter, their actions hinted me enough that I have to pay for your bad debts, or else I have to suffer like you too right?! Even go out of Sarawak but we have to creep like a thief?! Shouldn’t let your family members know it!? You were spending on their expense, not me, your sibling and family members actually owe me an apology of why they kept quiet that you were on bad debts before I married you? In short, who was the stupid girl would marry a badly indebted man?’


‘Aye, I am doing business, which businessman on earth don’t owe money to their family members or to the bank? If you keep blowing your trumpet to your friends, how can I do my business anymore? Everyone will know that I am poor, they won’t dare to do business with me!’ Oh yeah… that’s what my Chinawomen mom and sibling advice too, they all like him……. I always like Lee Guan Yew’s words with intellectual excitement, he said China though has so many people yet technology wise still can’t beat USA, due to their differ in thinking, what thinking? Now I know …. Chinamen and "Chinawomen" kind of thinking "lah"!!!! They all treat their husbands, as heaven or demi-god, if a girl didn’t marry to a good man, she becomes a subject to get abused…. My sister-in-law who probably thought that she marries well due to she was smart, and she must think that I was stupid that why I married to a badly indebted man,I better watch out someone has just began to jump over my side of bridge to bully me! But think twice, I am no dub……………even If you are X-Msian I am cosmopolitan! I am just not interested in childish hens’ fight! If I could avoid you next time, I will forever do it!


‘Your sister-in-law is too daring, I am just your wife, she has a rich husband to limp on the minute she married him, But I don’t! But that don’t mean that I am responsible to pay your own bad debts incurred before I married you, I can’t influence your stubborn thought, but neither can you influence my self-pride as once a self-sufficient happy professional career woman! Old dogs don't learn new tricks OK?! Please don't expect me to turn into a "Chinawoman" to pay your bad debts!’


‘I told you not to reveal it to them right?' Shit, you dare to argue with a husband, I won’t give you any Chinese new year ang now, let me see how fierce you can bitch on!




It was like roundtable clock, the argument still back to 12’ O Clock eventually! This kind of Chinaman born into as the youngest in a family were usually spoilt badly by their mom and elderly brothers and sisters, I dub them as siaw bai di “小白弟” who are always keen to take advantage of their elderly family members, If you unknowingly married to one of this kind, their family members soon expected his wife to responsible for his debts too … he thus becomes a siaw bai rien 小白脸(gigolo)!

Wednesday, November 7, 2012

A LEVEL HIGHER THAN BASTARD-DADDY’S STANDARD!

After I chatted with a chauvinist Chinaman for less than an hour,
my hair all raised almost like a Persian meow who met a monster!



Written by Miss Yellow





Recently I met a young man, who completed his study from a meow city private Chinese secondary school and got married young (before 30); after I chatted with him for less than an hour, my hair all raised almost like a Persian meow who met a monster! I only realized Chinese schools not only produced some of the best math students but also some of the most up-to-date hopeless chauvinist youngest version Chinamen!

How to define Chinaman? Here are some of my definitions!

When the house was dirty, that’s a job for a woman, it's a wife’s duty. If the baby was crying, that's a job for a woman, it’s a wife’s duty. His wife had to clean and tidy the house and at the same time taking care of the baby or toddler, while the man alone sat in front of the TV enjoying his favorite show (Please note that his wife should not use the vacuum cleaner, because her husband didn't like to get disturbed). Soon the baby/toddler was crying, he called his wife loudly from a distance, “Hey! I don’t think you know how to take care of a kid! Do you know I am watching the TV?!’

He would never help his young wife, his altitude was he paid for the household expenses, why should he do a woman’s chores? He thought that unless his wife paid him like what he paid for the family expenses, then he would do the job!





There were some angry career-wives would think angrily when they saw their chauvinist-husband sitting down and rest on the chair.

Look, I go out and work too, now I just got back from work, I am tired and hungry, and the house is dirty and I have to take care of baby/toddler at the same time when I prepare dinner, how much I wish my husband can give me a hand!





If the wife didn’t have enough time to clean the house, soon the monster-in-law stepped in the living room with a house key given by her precious son, she took a look at her son who sat on the sofa watching TV, she felt relieved that her son was not bossed around by his wife, the monster-in-law soon exercised her authority, “My goodness sake, why the house is so dirty? What are you doing?’ she questioned her daughter-in-law while she was cooking dinner for everyone, luckily soon the monster-in-law kind enough to play with the little baby/toddler lest it from crying.

   Soon, the sky got darker, there was a calling from the kitchen, ‘Do you mind help me to bring in the dried clothes hanging out?’ The husband pretended he couldn’t hear his wife. Hmm… why I have to do that for you? Unless you pay me, I am the bread provider for this household not you, how much money you can earn? Even you are much more educated than me, yet you can’t earn more money than me.

   While the woman didn’t get response from her hubby, she quickly went out the backdoor to collect her sun-dried clothes with pop corn rain started to fall. Shit! I regretted to get married, if I didn’t get married, because of having maternity leave I ended quitting my good job, I couldn’t find a higher salary job as I couldn’t stay in a job long enough to get promoted.

   Finally, the tired wife showed her black face on the dining table, the man took a look of his wife without much emotion. Shit, you lucky bitch, if you were my mom, you would be beaten up by my dad! Hmmm….. but I am a level higher than my bastard-dad who used to so often beat up my poor mother, I am a good husband because I won’t beat up my wife even if she gives me a black face like now!

Saturday, September 29, 2012

DON’T MESS WITH MY MOM!


My mom is always kind to people, but that becomes her weakness; can you believe that recently someone abused mommy’s created essence as just a cordial drink?!




Nagged by I-Phone’s Mommy




I hate most of my school mates, they always called me names; besides often called me as pig; the most popular one must be I-Phone because it really sounds like my real name.


   My mom told me she never realized that 7 years ago when she gave me this name that would later on sound so similar to the most popular I-Phone. She told me, ‘Don’t get angry, in this case everyone will remember and know your name!’ Don’t you think she just tried to find an excuse to get out of this situation?


  


My mom said she didn’t want to do bad things and treat people bad, she said even a dozen ghosts come to knock at her door at midnight she won’t get panic. She said most people when returning from graveyard would cleanse themselves with pomegranate leaves, they would never ever bring their young children to ICU visiting sick relative or friend and to pay last respect to any deceased relative or friends, but my mom is so unconventional, she took us to see our sick maternal grandpa’s best friend in ICU and when he passed away last Sunday she would also take us to see him inside the coffin, mommy would dress up white and dressed us up yellow, she said because grandpa best friend if alive would always treat me and my brother kind and nice like one of his grandkids too, she told me when a Foo Chow grandpa passed away, customary his grandkids would dress up yellow.


   Mommy grumbled in disagree when her friends told her all those old feudal customary practices of not simply bringing kids to graveyard, ICU or funeral, she got her convincing reasons, ‘What’s the different between now and the future IF one of the later days you become a doctor, by the way you have to see very sick and dead people, and you will be spending most of your time in the hospital! All those hospital workers and doctors must be careful … baby, teenager or old ghosts may follow them home, they have to cleanse their bodies with pomegranate leaves everyday then!’


 



Mommy was quite mad in recent months due to her kindness extended to help somebody was mistreated and abused, she told me she is long from a decent, religious, cultivated and educated family, she said thus all her true friends are the most kind and nicest people alive on earth too, we are all not manipulative, unreasonable, scheming or selfish, but she said sometimes being too kind can be a weakness too, she said not everyone on this earth think and behave the same like us, bad blood running in their veins, they are full of greedy, jealous, dominating and aggressive.


   Mommy told me bad blood could be passing amongst family members, she warns me that I have to open my eyes big and wide to choose a future husband, she said obviously when some bad bloods dominated the veins, kids won’t listen to mother’s words, she said for an example, her paternal grandma taught her since her young days to get up first thing in the morning: Wash and dress up decently before walk out of the bedroom. Mommy said she has been kept teaching us since my brother and I were babies, she said our babysitters would train us up in her mandated ways, we were always smartly dressed up since early morning, but she said bad blood running in the veins would never surrender especially when ones have own minds and wills, all her efforts would return to zero. Ooops …. Didn’t she mean that we have some bad bloods running in my brother and my veins as well? Because she always got so mad that my brother and I still in pajamas at I3:00 o’clock! The bad blood must be not from her then because she would always shower, dress up and put make-up nicely first thing in the morning before she walked out of the bedroom …. no matter she was sick or having holiday!



 


Mommy lectured me, she told me when I grow up, I have to watch out for the lurking bad women who will treat another woman as a secret enemy which is unbeknownst to the innocent kind-hearted woman, her reason is kind-hearted women are like lambs who didn’t see wolves as a threat unless gotten bite once.


   ‘In real life, this kind of women only befriended and could live peacefully with men, when they befriended with a lady, at first she would be so friendly as she wanted information and infiltration.’ Mommy said, ‘ …. these malicious witchy women actually wanted something that they wanted badly from that lady. Usually they are craving for something that they don’t have or possess but they see that abundantly on their individual targeted prey, they thought they deserved that instead of seeing that on the targeted prey, usually these predator kind of women think highly of themselves, they are usually smooth talking, good in angkat bola ..’


   ‘What is angkat bola’ I asked mommy, mommy said it means flattering people in overdone ways. Mommy told me, ‘ …… after this predator kind of women have destroyed their respective preys by either destroying a woman’s happy marriage, a professional’s very reputed career or cause a rich woman becomes penniless, these wicked bad blooded women actually never would feel guilty, ashamed of themselves, they would think that they have just won another a trophy from another competitor like after a badminton game!’


   Mommy said, ‘….. usually this predator kind of women were once famous sportswomen during their school days, but sad enough they take the sportsmanship manner into their future lives and expected the loser, the first wife to shake hand congratulate her as a winner to make peace with her, expected the loser, a jobless professor badly defamed to congratulate her that she is doing very well in her most recent winning fames or expected the loser, penniless to congratulate her that now she finally has become a millionaire!’



 


Mommy gave me three good examples, she said the first case happened to her best friend’s friend who lost a husband to a scorpion-hearted ex-sportswoman, she said this woman was a very fervent Christian, yet she stole someone’s husband right in a church’s fellowship group and let the first wife lived in such a misery life, mommy told me later this predator begat many kids with the robbed target from her prey.


   ‘This kind of woman won’t feel guilty and unaware of what she did has hurt another woman, instead she still attend church services, she would pray to Jesus to forgive her, to lead her a way, then she would feel guiltless, not feeling ashamed at all of what she did, soon she would walk proud and tall on the street with her kids, she won’t care of other people’s condemning glances!’


   Mommy said such scorpion has another younger sister who was also a very good sportswoman, mommy told me since the scorpion younger sister has a good husband, mommy said daddy is poor and short, he wouldn’t be a worth target, she just wanted something that she herself wanted badly yet she could never have on herself, but there is a future hope on her talented daughter, mommy told me usually this kind of predator kind of women are all unusually talented and smart, but their shortcuts are being selfish, thoughtless and unethical, they usually used religion as a tool to comfort and find excuses themselves, instead of respecting and abiding religious doctrines and good teaching, for an example, when she wanted something from mother, she was so good in flattering mommy, actually mommy told me she was just being kind and helpful, as in 10 years ago, she had heard of such scorpion’s younger sister trying to defame her career reputation, but mommy was giving her a second chance, but mommy told me the scorpion’s younger sister began to scheme her malicious planning to destroy her reputation after first time mommy imparted her profession skills to her and her daughter, soon she would set trap for mommy to fall into it by showing her unwillingness in cooperating with mommy, mommy said, ‘When they engage male professionals, they would show their full cooperation, but with me they showed that they were the most uncooperative clients in my 30 years career!’ For months mommy never heard from them, suddenly one day they wanted mommy’s attention, mommy told me that winning trophy immediately made her felt like a loser, and they expected mommy to give them praising after didn’t hear from them for ages. That sounded to me more like, ‘Look under you, my daughter fails her exam, now look under other teachers, she wins competition after competition!’ That’s quite unfair to mommy; I remember mommy spent so many sleepless nights when they didn’t want to cooperate with mommy!




   You know what, I think in the surface they didn’t want to offense mommy yet, they would still tell people how much mother had helped them, and they would tell mommy how many clients they tried to introduce to mommy, but none of them ever calls mommy! Mother sighed, ‘Isn’t that ridiculous? Remember don’t get happy too quick when people flatter you, actually at first they flatter you, the next minute they wanted something from you, and after what they acquired from you, only they left the house, you then found your house was on fire!’ Mommy told me how people’s cooperation, good intentions and actions counted, but not by their smooth empty talking, sweet smiles and misused Jesus’s name!


   I think these people all thought that they have been very smart, they thought mommy didn’t know what they did and manipulated behind mommy’s reputation, mommy told me this was not the first time people tried to destroy or defame her professional career, good reputation and good image, she said she is fair, even she got many kind warning of how notorious the client was, but she tried to give people chances when she thought she could help them greatly, but she is never an idiot.


   Don’t they know that my mommy is a versatile person and a treasured information resourcer and career guidance for youngsters’ higher studies? But I think they better think twice if they want to use mommy again, whatever mommy taught them, they just took what they wanted for their own benefits and took that for granted of mommy’s created essence as just a cordial drink! They didn’t care what they did already sadden mommy since May, I hope they better don’t come and mess with my mom anymore! I suspect mommy is also a guns’ expert, as she has many weapons and ammunitions’ books that I found on shelves, they should be glad that this is not USA but just a meow city!


 



Mommy said she had paid for her 30 years career experience to learn a lesson from this scorpion’s younger sister , she said, ‘Never mine, I just hope that you become a wiser than me from all my past mistakes in life when you grow older.’


   And mommy told me if one day she becomes rich she will act like a beggar! She said if an overturned dead fish could become alive, that’s her second life, she ain’t going to let any of those wicked women destroy her peacefulness once more. I asked her why, she told me there is another kind of friend who can detect your potential like a radar before you get rich, so if you really get rich, that’s the time they will ask you to buy this and that properties and shares, soon you may end up in a conman set-up scheme and you will lose all your money with even bad debts.


   Mommy said, ‘We shouldn’t act so bossy, arrogant, too highly self-pride, show off ..’ Hmmm… that’s why she didn’t want me give speech or sing on the stage, she didn’t let me learn piano, she didn’t let me learn dancing. ‘… too aggressive in a bad way to hurt people, we should be aggressive towards our own devil within, when our inner devil said watch TV, let’s play computer, it’s the time we should show our aggressiveness by saying no to our inner desire and urge to make us doing something useless, acting being idle, indulge in good life and acting lazy.’


   Lastly mother told me, ‘If you think good, act good and vision good, you develop a good and beautiful aura for yourself, but sometimes that will attract the oppose, so beware when someone’s greed for what you have but not in them, they may come to steal, destroy, cheat or rob from you, being good is not good enough, you have to know or may have to learn some painful lessons of all those evils’ plots and tricks, so you won’t let those evils having any chance to set a trap on you!’

Monday, September 17, 2012

My Childhood in Kuching IV





Mommy said training a little boy is just like training a little puppy!









Nagged by Little Money’s Mommy









This morning when we came out of our neighborhood on the way to school, mommy began to nag in the car as usual.
  
   She said, ‘Look at those short legged “panda” dogs on the street, everyone told me these dogs are annoying and ugly as it they owe our neighborhood street.’



  

My sister began to ask, ‘Mom, why they are on the street? Do they have home to return?



   ‘Sure! Well .... this is how when these dogs’ owners never chain them since young but let them ran free on the street when they went out to work, and these dogs eventually learned only to return home when they got hungry, and .... they also get so used to roam and kiss each others on street. I am quite sure these big dogs will yelp and annoy the whole neighborhood if we catch them now and chain in the house!’



   ‘Mom, why?’



   ‘Same like someone looking like you but already getting too old to change, since he was young whenever his parents went to work, he would be left on the neighborhood playing and growing up with the rest of the neighborhood kids, probably with street dogs too, thus they all behave like dogs exactly, home for all of them to return only when they are sick, tired and hungry. So imagine if mommy keeps someone like you, the older version … in the house for 24 hours, what will happen?’



   ‘He will also “yelp” and will climb ceiling!’ My 7 years old sister joked.





Mom was very happy of such reply, she continued nagging, ‘That’s why every kind of training have to start since young days, to train a little boy is just like training a little puppy. If a mother keeps her son at home adequately, he will grow up a good homely man, he will enjoy staying in the house taking care of his family, tending the garden and doing household works.'

   'Just like your grandpa’s dog Pei Pei, he was trained to stay in the cage since young, and he would go out of the house to pee and poo when necessary, he grows up now as a watch dog for the house, even if the gate let widely opened it would go out just for a while only, it know its duties, get accustom to those imposed rules since young puppy days.’

   'I wish you will grow up like good old Pei Pei instead like your dad!' Mom finally honestly revealed what was really on her mind. Oh mom, you really compare me to a dog? ... And you think a dog can behave better than a big human being  .... someone looking like me but an older version?!

Wednesday, August 22, 2012

HOW TO COOK ROSELLE LEAVES?



Cook it the Burmese way!




Written by Miss Yellow






Thanks to Foo Chow-Burmese English professor in Swinburne Kuching who taught me how to prepare this dish. Roselle leaf is a bit sour, can use it to prepare soup as well.





1. Pick Roselle leaves and stem them



2. Fry onion, garlic, chili, fish belacan with oil until brownish



3. Add fresh prawn and stemed Roselle leaves, fry them.



Serve it with rice, really yummy!