A Cat’s Claws Being Removed!

When you wrongly married a “chinaman” husband!

Written by Miss Yellow

I earned back my title of "Miss" again since two years ago when I won my bet in insurance claim after someone knocked me from behind while I was driving at just 20km/hour during early morning jam.

    My husband said if I could get back my insurance claim he would change his last name to my last name. To change his last name to mine??? I would immediately become the most notorious woman in the whole Sarawak state, and I dare say his whole "money" clan relatives would throw their rubbish at me.

   BUT I have learned my most painful lesson in life: If I ever trust a Chinaman’s words then I won’t be an angry woman since the day I married one and getting more angry when I found out I was fooled by a “Chinamen” stereo-type promises and weasel claims.

   I also learned my hard lesson and realized that illiterate women could produce very confident sons than educated and cultivated women!!! Because of their illiterate and ignorant background, they gave their sons so much approval and flatters, they praised their sons so much that they were brought up so positively, even if they are “shorties”, they don’t mind looking for a tall wife, if they are ugly, they don’t mind looking for a winning Miss Beauty Pageant, if they are poor, they don’t mind a rich or prominent family’s daughter, with a little money earned in the pocket, they are also more confident than other men, they could crow louder than any roosters! A good reference for modern women if any of this genre of man chasing after them!

I found out our society full of narrow minded and dirty minded people, when they learned that your husband only returned home once a month, they would immediately think  that he could have a mistress out in another town or they would imagine your husband probably doesn't  love you.

   

   They would never use their brains and be thoughtful enough think that your husband can’t afford returning home every week when he was working for a blood-sucker Datuk contractor.

   

   They didn't know that whenever his Datuk-contractor boss received his billion ringgit cheques from JKR or any government sectors, in a few days time the money would be exchanged and deposited into his Australian accounts, they didn't know that this billionaire-Datuk doesn't like to pay any of his subcontractors all over Malaysia, even RM30Ks of payment to his sub-contractor would turned his face black green and the whole office of his staffs would witness that, they knew that their Datuk-boss just likes to receive but never like to pay his creditors.

  

I came to Kuching 5 years ago, I observed this city people, I learned that all because of  there are too many of these unethical contractors infested in this city, that’s why Kuching people are mostly quite poor, most of them just could barely afford to eat three simple meals, and only time they could afford a better life during their old age, if their children turned out as a doctor or capable professional.

   

   When the main-contractors sucked the subcontractors' money, they in-turn also learned to suck other helpless people like revenge.

   In short people in a city, people laugh at poor but not at prostitutes, that’s why people won’t show you that they are poor. Only when you watched how they bargained with hawkers and poor labourers, then I learned how mean people are, it is like flu, when the Datuk-contractor bosses didn't treat you well, you also won’t treat people nice.

I worked in North for almost two decades, ang mo usually treated people nice, in oil and gas industry due to ang mo bosses' good payment ethnic, the payments were released on time, payment in full and there were less “undertable” monkey deals went on.

  

   Good ang mo payment culture built up there for so many decades, thus generally even oil city Chinaman businessmen also treated their staffs fair and well, I think this is something what oil city folks should feel glad and proud about.

   When few big corporations in a city willing to release money, then the rest of their subcontractors would have enough cash flows, and soon the whole city people have money to spend, and there will be less criminal cases too. Instead of poor people in Meow city has to depend on tourists’ money all because these born-in Meow city’s greedy takaus don’t want to pay their subcontractors, and their cash mostly went to overseas banks.

  I heard that only those “migrated” oil city takaus carried the good payment culture to Meow city, they are the good payers to subcontractors. Those Meow city-born mean contractors never learned that if they didn't pay the subcontractors well and on time, subcontractors wouldn't have enough money to pay their labourers, if their labourers didn't eat enough to go working, if any accidents happened on the work site and how about if the employees were not paid fairly and that led that to stealing and murdering cases, so who to blame? The filthy rich blood-sucker contractors are acting almost like a “day time robbers” blamed their poor subcontractors? That’s one the most UNFAIR things I witnessed under the sun in this meow city!

   

   I always told my friends, don’t need to study those complicated currencies laws, just observed how Malaysian currencies versus Australian or Malaysian currencies versus Singaporean, then you can tell how much our money went into those foreign countries, usually it happened that when government released billions ringgit today, the next few days time those billions would end up in foreign bank accounts, those who played dirtiest in this country, they are the ones who love the country least and don’t trust this country the most. 
   
   I think our government needs very strict control over its own currencies being transmitted this way with the excuses as “foreign investments”!!! If the money earned in this country, then should save it in this country, that’s why since I worked 20 years ago in Brunei, I kept seeing Malaysian currency drops every year. There is a big hole for big fish to get out, but “nobody” stops it, that “nobody” could be a big fish too to allow this happened???

Only Chinamen would love to work for this kind of blood-sucker contractors, all because Chinaman businessmen can’t speak English like ang mo, and sometimes these Chinamen are taught too well in Churches that they become too holly and not daring enough to play dirty to earn those stacks of contracts with subcontractors’ hard earned money to pay those "undertable" money.

  ‘Huh, I wait until you bring me to court house if you dare, just tell you that I am a lawyer too.’ That's the only time the contractor thought if he should pay, even if he did pay his creditors, he would be so unwilling. His mind is "I am the king, you are all slaves, slaves don' t deserve to get paid."

   So Chinaman subcontractors, do you dare to sue your ex-contractor boss when he sucked your hard-earned money?  Unfortunately, Chinaman businessmen got no ball when they faced Datuk, they scared the shits out of Datuk, so when they got frustrated, their poor wives and children would suffer from their Chinamen’s tantrum and poverty.

Many people don’t understand why I don’t like to attend Church service any more, especially the bloody weddings, when the pastor would preach that a wife has to listen and acted submissive to her husband. 

   Oh yes, all because the bible said it, then why don’t encourage the men to marry many wives just those Abraham or Jacob? Bible recorded that too. What generation we live in now? 

  Then why bible didn't add Book of Enoch that mentioned all those aliens names and promote Antediluvian lifestyle to us,  then all ladies should cover our hair, lest that those fallen angels saw the human women were pretty, they would come to them! The reason was the book was out of date, acted as a submissive wife happened back in new testaments, old era too, wasn't 19th century have gone and by gone?

   When men wanted girls to listen and submit to them, there would be too many excuses, and ladies are stupid and no brain enough to retaliate. Wise men prefer a compatible wife, not a puppy-wife, but stupid and weak men prefer a puppy-wife, so that when they go out to work they got bullied, when they return home they can bully their wives.

  

Modern days, professional ladies went out to work, earned at least RM10, 000 every month, and a man often earn less than that, but when he looked for a wife, he and his mom would make sure that his wife is a university graduate, but make sure she is not smarter than his son or academically more qualified than his son, must be pretty, from a good family background, she must know how to cook, and must have same denomination.

   I always wonder if such mother-in-law wanted to look for a full-time maid cum babies maker for her son, she didn't even look at the mirror of how handsome her son and capable her son is. But the mother-in-law won't let that happen to her own daughters, she would suggest maids for her own daughters!

   The minute when the  "dreamed daughter-in-law" got married, she and her son expected his wife to stay at home cooking, cleaning house and taking care of babies, yet her son couldn't afford a home maker wife if she doesn't go out to work. He just thought for himself that his career is much more important all because his brain was tuned that old way trained by his old thinking mom, then when he found out his business would not be always smooth, he wouldn't be honest enough to say he doesn't have money, he won’t be honest saying that he can’t afford to feed the family alone, so he would drag on giving the monthly allowance to his wife, drag on and on, his excuses was, ‘Oh, I was too busy, but don’t I always give you fully even it was three months later? I have just forgotten to bank in the money for you.’ ‘Oh, I have forgotten to send you money today.’

   Do you think if I work since I was 15 years old, and my income was always more than regular government officers, do you think I am stupid enough to be fooled by a Chinaman husband excuses? I am just tolerating.

   One day when I went to kopitiam, I heard he asked his friend, ‘Is your wife working?’

   ‘Yes.’

  ‘Wow, you untong.’

  What did this bloody Chinaman hinted to me? He was the one who removed my claws, and now admired those cats who can catch rats?

  

   


When I can’t find any job in Meow city as there is no rat in my area for me to catch rats, I plan to work outstation, immediately some people would stop, ‘Come on lah, don’t go lah, or else your marriage will be finished lah. How can you leave your husband all alone like this lah?’

   Just tell me directly what’s in your brain, I found out many women are more dirty minded than men. I would tell them off, ‘Do you know how old I am now? You think I am barely 30s or 40s?’ 

   When married at old age without meeting an honest man about his financial status, you could end up like me, working overseas as a housekeeper as a maid even if you have a degree, and neither you can earn money like before you married, as some careers are status oriented career, if you married a right husband, his high social status can help to boost your career. 

   Also when you married a loser, your sibling or your husband's sibling would look down at you, because they think that you choose a wrong husband, your next half life is gone to drain forever, they think that you probably are as stupid as their sibling that you married too, they won’t help to launch you a new career in this city even they could be very influential. In short they are more interested to see I work as a maid, a housekeeper or a driver for their kids, so they would feel much superior. When same thing happened in the society it infested to families or vice versa. It only takes our patient and determination to get out of any adversities.

   Well lucky Chinawomen, use your brain, not because your rich husbands give you sufficient money and expensive gifts, then every stay home wives would have your kind of good fates.

   Don’t you know it could happen to your own incapable chinaman brother who hardly gives enough money to his poor wife (also he removed her claws)? When his wife “thick-skin” enough to ask for pocket money from you during Chinese New year, if you are a professional woman, will you give her an ang bow instead of attacking her of asking you for money? Think before you open your mouth to attack another poor woman who is being controlled by your own brother. 

“POTATO- RELATIVES”

In a small town if someone became rich, soon he would become famous too, soon every out-of-towns potato-relatives would want to claim their relations with him!

Written by Money Tai Tai

I have a friend who grew up in a very small town, eventually she ends up in meow city. She told me whenever she met someone especially from the bigger cities in our state, they would ask her, ‘Do you know so and so in your hometown? He is my uncle!’

    When my friend asked them for more details, she found out all of them are actually not that “close” to each others, they are merely “potato-relatives”, usually ended like this, ‘He is my mom’s cousin!.... Oh due to my mom and him have same surname, thus they recognize each other as cousins!’

   My friend of course kept quiet whenever  she saw her out-of-town friends declared proudly as a “potato-relative” of such rich businessman from her small hometown, but deep in my friend’s heart she sighed, ‘Snobbish and ignorant idiots! He is my “potato-relative” too but I don’t even dare to tell anyone about it, lest that I embarrass myself.’ 

    

Such businessman became rich due to he did smuggling business at first before he got into decent business, he was neither too decent of his character, in the dark closet such small town people knew that he attained to rape his sister-in-law and he had mistress but all his follies were all covered up by his “Chinawoman” wife, when someone informed her what her husband did behind her, she would tell them, ‘Oh no, that’s not my husband, my husband is a very good man he wouldn’t do such bad things and he wouldn’t do that to me!’

    

   And like most stereo-type “Chinawoman-wives”, his wife of course produced some highly educated professionals and successful bussinessman-sons to make small town folks zipped up their itchy mouths to reveal the truths,  instead they would keep quiet but admired his success without being caught red-handed by any authority. Diplomatically they would tell everyone, ‘He is a rare talent!’ thus whenever people from out-of-town heard such remark, indeed they would feel so proud that they are his children’s friends or as his “potato-relatives”!

    

   Any successful “Chinaman” must have a very forgiving and very “big heat” “Chinawoman” wife behind him, of course she admired him like a demigod, or else she wouldn’t tolerate and spoil such a pervert-husband. The “Chinawoman-wife” usually was the one who would boost and assure her husband’s confident, esteem and pride, so her husband would really think that he already had achieved his social status in the small town with his financial success, occasionally when a politician came to the small town for a social function, he would suddenly pop in the function hall sat next to the politician without approval from the organizer, actually that was the seat belonged to the organizing chairman and when there was a photo session, he would sit right next to the politician again, and actually that was the seat belonged to the organizing chairman too, this happened frequently that it became a very embarrassing joke amongst small town insighters!

So after you hear this story from me, when you want to inform your friends proudly of a rich man’s connection with you from her hometown, please think twice! Because you are an outsider and you are just a "potato-relative", you could truly embarrass yourself unknowingly to yourself even up the day to your coffin, because your friend would never tell you the truth of your “rich and famous small town potato-uncle” is actually “not that marvelous” in her and other insighters’ eyes …..  yet you felt “so proud” of him!

ANGRY MOMMY ON MOTHER’S DAY!

I just feel my heart wringing sadly and feeling injured today…….

Written by Miss Yellow

I realized my son is already 10, but for past 10 years during mother’s day, I received nothing during past 10 mother’s day from the person who pestered me (including his doctor brother did that, he said women after 38 would be difficult to conceive babies) to become a mother.

   
   I only have such awakening when I moved to meow city when I mixed with those "professional tai tai", then I began to believe in one’s fate more than Jesus could do with my life, because I realized no matter how I prayed to Jesus to bless me a good husband, I ended up just like those feng shui guru foretold me, “You will have a husband who won’t love you a lot, but just so so…”

   
   Just listened to those tai tai of what they received during mother’s day from their husbands, I wouldn't get jealous, but the first thought came to my mind was I would sigh of how thoughtless was my husband. These women would tell me usually they received the most expensive gifts during mother’s day and their birthday. I would realize how unfair is this world when one fate’s is based on the time of your birth, your star and palm lines, obviously God made the constellation to designate our individual fates too, and then designated the feng shui guru to foretell us our fates!

   How true? There is a Datin that I know of, this Datin dresses up humble, she doesn’t have an air of a Datin, actually her younger sister looks a lot prettier and could dress-up better than her, but the minute they approached a very famous feng shui guru in Sibu town, the feng shui guru without even looking at her palm would tell her, “You will never have problem over spending money, you have plentiful of money, but your sister won’t have the good fate like you.” True enough, just a few years later the Datin became a Datin, but her younger sister’s husband had an affair, mistreated her badly, she has to work as a clerk to support herself and her children. Then there is another lady friend of mine also went to see a feng shui guru before she was married, her good fate was so good that feng shui guru even wanted to introduce his own son to her. True enough my friend’s husband do very well nowadays and treat her very well too.

   
   Actually ladies could escape bad fate if they truly believe in fate, like my case I didn’t believe it, now I regret it badly.These days I would interpret it this way: Not all ladies have such fate to be married and have good husband and obedient kids, if you don’t have such designated good marriage fate, that’s mean you shouldn’t get married, usually you would find no man was interested on you even you could be very pretty and very succcessful in your career. Or those men you met would give you all sort of difficult time or even abused you.
   
   So why you have to follow what other women  did and submitted to their bad gossips? I bet some of those stupid women even if they had bad marriages they would still want you to get married. BUT if you remain as a single you will be  self-satisfied, no so worry and happy.

There are two kinds of nasty husbands who never give any appreciation "in actions" to their wives: First kind is the cash-poor husband, but because he is a very proud person, he will act very mean to his wife if she mentioned to him about mother’s day celebration, he would tell her, “You have to wait for your kids to grow older to celebrate for you! I will go to celebrate for my mother!”  Two years in a roll, these words came out from my husband’s mouth. Another kind of cash-poor husband, but not so mean, would tell his wife, “I love you with my heart, why have to celebrate?” Both of these men’s wives would never receive any appreciation as a mother throughout their whole lives, all because they were poor and stingy. Only when these women's children grow older, perhaps they could make their poor mothers smile by then!

  

Some lucky women live without realizing how unfortunate other women live, they always thought that it was due to the faults of those ladies didn’t treat their husband nicely, kindly and lovingly, that’s why their husbands didn’t treat them nice in return, they childishly thought “give and take” would work on all men!
  

   Sometimes those lucky women could be quite mean to  bad fate women; they thought that when a bad fates woman complains to them about her husband, they might even guess that she was interested to look for another husband …. They would think she wanted to replace her useless husband for a better and richer one. In some occasions, those lucky women could be quite mean, they would  introduce a divorced man to the bad marriage fate's lady and asked her if she was interested in him, ended later when they heard the man insulted her as an “aunty”, were they satisfied of their mean act? Actually they all "made fun", played the poor woman up! So bad marriage fate women have to be very careful of who are their listeners!

   In this world there are full of people or women are not being treated well and equally. I could earn much more than what my husband could give me, yet I was convinced by my husband to quit my good job just because he didn’t want to fly or drive a long way to see me in the north, another good excuse he told me because he didn’t like to see me bringing the kids flying here and there, but the kids actually enjoying a career mom more than a jobless mom, their hearts could feel how hurt, nervous and injured as I am.

  

Actually these days I hate festivals, birthday, mother’s day or wedding dinners, when I opened my closet, I looked at all those old faded clothes and accessories,  it would also hint me that my husband doesn’t love me enough, and worst when I found I was fooled in many things when an old aging short man wanted to convince a girl ( I was tall and not ugly ok!) married him! If you say I am materialistic then it is also very unfair to me, do you think a relationship can last when there are just few good words and good things, but the marriage already lasted for 10 years, I can tolerate and accept my own bad fate and own wrong decision in life, buried my past 10 years in jail – family jail. Give and take? It's a bullshit to me!

   So young ladies, if you can’t find a good man in life, don’t rush for it, and if you reach over 30 and still not finding any good man, just forget about to become a mother. Go on your life, save enough money touring around the world, or else if you get married badly to a chauvinistic stingy man no matter how rich, he would lock in a cocoon, you will end up like me, there will be no trip, no freedom and no good luxury kind of lifestyle. You would be in his "random kindness" free disposal! 
  
   Do you know that when a man reaches his 35+ he will look down at those ladies who are over 30 years old, his friends, his family members and himself will together “play”(make fun) you up if you express an  interest in him? He will “hang up” himself to sell, but he didn’t know that those younger girls that he was interested to marry of amongst one of them would actually call him as “UNCLE!”

HOW FREE ARE MALAYSIAN-HOUSEWIVES?

In Australia they call housewives as homemakers….

Written by Money Tai Tai

I worked since 15 years old, working part-time became my habit since form 2 to including studied all over universities in different countries. Then when I graduated to earn my degree, immediately I commenced my full-booming work!

   To quit my job acting as a housewife was my dream, it was not because I thought becoming a housewife would be freer, to “make unfair remarks on other housewives” or “acting on behalf of other housewives’ minds” was and is not my interest, it actually didn’t come to my busy mind. 

   Only these days I realized most full-time housewives actually were subjected under long-term emotional battered of being not financially independent, thus they were controlled under the thumb of their chauvinistic husbands.

  

Smart women would keep encouraging and aiming their daughters grow up to become professionals but stupid women would abuse their own daughters, only put their concentration on sons. Actually it is more important to educate daughters for higher studies than sons when you have chauvinistic husbands-in-residence! Those inheritances would go to your sons not your daughters, if you are a smart woman then trying to squeeze as much money from your daughter’s dad to send your daughter to college, that would actually path her a good future  and in return, earn you worried-free next half life, especially if she turns into a doctor. Even if she got divorce, she wouldn’t return home asking you “old mom” to feed her and her kids!

   

   I experienced such “comedy episode” of a proud housewife-mommy recently, I called my long-lost contact student’s mother asked her where about was her daughter, she proudly told me, ‘She is a doctor now, she just passed her GP, do you know what is GP?’ Then I patiently let her explained the term GP to me, I was simply amused.

   

   I would advise all housewives, even though you didn’t get any chance to attend higher education after your secondary school studies, but you must READ profoundly, or else one day when your daughter becomes a doctor you would think the rest of women were ignorant (like you) except your daughter now is “highly educated.”

   

   Unluckily I also “bounced” into another kind of “ghost-like” devil-mom who never likes to read, not even newspapers! She would treat any of her child’s classmates or teachers as a future imaginary enemy. 

   This kind of devil-moms got high ego to train their “as highly ego talented kids” to become somebody famous, they became "notorious"  as  they always would defame their kids' “potential rivals”, they would do something ingratitude to their imaginary enemies, usually the little child  of theirs would act quicker than the hypocrite mother, he/she would soon “unfriend” his/her teacher, while the hypocrite mom still keeps “acting polite” to their kid's teacher.

   

   I began to notice a young part-time students of mine (came lessons with me for only three times) particularly due to her most ingratitude behavior (in my entire teaching life), I discovered she "unfriended" me when I wanted to send some documents to help her via her facebook, then I only found that out since when, I really have no idea she had already "unfriended" me in her facebook, I wouldn’t have mind if she has 100 friends if she "unfriended" me, but she has more than 500 friends, and yet she would "unfriend" me! 

   I later learned that both her mom and the little daughter of hers didn’t like my corrections or making any other suggestions. As a teacher if I kept giving positive comments but without making any correction on students' problems then why I have to teach? I also noticed this kind of mothers when they have a quite talented kid they began to act bossy, they would flatter how talented their kids to even a stranger but wouldn’t allow any criticism from any people/teacher, or else they would immediately defame and fire that person/teacher, yet in front of those teachers they would say act how appreciate and grateful! Why you think a child who was only 12 could do that to her teacher while her mom would continuously calling her daughter’s teacher pretentiously flattering her!!!???

My thought of quitting my job after I got married was because I thought since I was getting so old to get married to have babies, I should quit my job. As during my working three decades as a teacher I could see those little “monsters” could turn into “angels” the minute they saw their professional doctor or lawyer moms arrived my doorsteps, ‘Hey mom!’ The sweetest angelic voices resonance in my ears up to these days! 

   Soon their mom would bring them enjoying nicest dinner and shopping to buy newest toys in town, I could tell those BUSY professional mommies were feeling guilty (remember it only happened to those very busy professional moms, once happened to me too) that their children were often neglected, so often by using material things to comfort and tame the “monsters” they felt it was fair to both kids and themselves too!

   

   This was just life, nothing went wrong, thanks god that all these kids after two decades now they still became lawyers or doctors like their moms! These kids grow-up still as lovely, they still would visit me whenever they came to Meow city. I think these kids with professional mothers never would treat me as a “role-model or future rival” to challenge their undertakings, their own professional mother would be their role model … They wouldn't act like other kids to make sure one day when they graduated from college, they would earn more money, dress up prettier, buy better branded things, cook better, eat better, have better professions than once their respected role model or once their challenged imaginary future rival. 

   Good gratitude kids who grow older would usually appreciate my encouragements and my “cherish” extended to them, in short, I expected them to do better than me like I wish at my daguhter. These kids were the ones who would still look up for me even they have become professionals but those ingratitude ones would pose the altitude, "HEHEHEHEE... NOW I AM BETTER THAN YOU! I WON!"

Mr. Money agreed that I could quit my job, now I only realized he had to agree or else I wouldn’t have married him and have his babies, that’s one of his hook and the “crooks” revealed when the household expenses came to me almost the end of some months and when his brother’s wife came to visit me told me how much debt he owes his family members. 

   When I quitted my job, a Datin would even admire my “free-from-job" new status, she would often “check” my "jobless tai tai  lifestyle" from my parents, ‘She has good life without working!’ she mentioned it often to my parents. 

   Until one day my mom retaliated, ‘Jobless but still with pocket full of money, only a woman like you will have good life!’ This Datin actually acts humble like any other Malaysian-housewives when she stays in the oil city, she didn’t have any maid but have to cook meals for her family, so she probably thought that I would act like her other friends... tai tai with two or three maids in the house helping or her "real Datin's lifestyle" in Beijing or KL!

   

This is my monotonous lifestyle after I become a housewife, see if you  want to quit your good job after being married to a man!!! (Remember, don't quit unless you only earn RM1000/month but he can produce you RM10,000/month. If you earn RM10,000++ but he could only give you RM5000, then you should never quit your job!)

   I got up at 5:45am, immediately I have to prepare breakfast for next thirty minutes (Thanks God that I have fast dexterities), to prepare my children’s breakfast, packed their refreshment boxes and filled up their water bottles. Then I would take a quick shower, changed and put up make-up (remember there are not many natural beauties but there are many lazy women!), by 6:30-45am, we are on the road. By the time reached home it would be around 7:15am, immediately I collected my newspaper, put the dirty clothes in the laundry, eat my breakfast while reading newspaper, once done I have to wash dishes, clean the house (only pick a place to clean in a day), then I have to water the plants in the garden, soon I have to hang out the clothes under the sun. By the time I would be sweat all over, when I turn on the air condition to sit on the desk starting my writing, I found out it’s coming to 10 soon, my pretty “assistant” from next street comes, she helps me to correct grammar of my written books (not these blog articles), next two hours we both don’t want to be disturbed, but soon my alarm service man, plumber, pest control or electrician would hop in some of the mornings.

   

   Breakfast out with friends? I really don’t like it, because it means my household works will be delayed, and something would not be done. Telephone calls from friends to gossip? I also don’t like it, because I would talk to my friend, then suddenly I had forgotten what I told her the previous sentence when I saw the dirty floor accidentally! By 1:00pm, like most mothers I have to go picked up my children. 

   I will continue my story to let those idly but financially sounded career women or housewives who think on my behalf that I must be very free , I will soon let them know what I would do in the afternoon and evening before I went to sleep! 

   Never ever make mean remarks to other housewives who battered by their husbands financially, especially if those ladies don’t even have a maid at home or even a husband present at home 3 days in a month! Worst, their kids are still young, who can’t help their mommy even to vacuum the floor yet!

AVENGERS IN ACTION II

Chinamen did it in disguise for win-win situation!

Written by Miss Yellow

There was another nasty avenger true story happened here in Sarawak. About 10 years ago, a Miss S got married at old age too to an engineer, only after marrying her husband for 10 years she realized she was just a piece of chess in a chess set manipulated by an avenger. He caused her lost her successful career, actually he cheated her that he was very successful in his business, he would tell her off that her whole year salary was not even as much as his monthly income.

   

   Miss S’s husband actually was interested to pursue after Miss S’s secondary school classmate who is a medical specialist.

The same old story of how a stranger bachelor man with his friend knocking at a single professional’s door with the ice-breaker, ‘Your uncle is my good friend!’ However, the doctor was not interested at all with the man; she didn’t entertain him at all even he made long-distance calls to her house.

    

   What she didn’t know that was he actually got angry in disguise and silent, he began to check out her background, very soon he began to target her classmate, one of her best friends, Miss S. However, Miss S was not an easy person to reach too, so he arranged through his classmates as they were Miss S sisters’ secondary school form-mates. From there he craftily reached Miss S, learned her weakness as a high-age single lady being pestered to get married off by her sibbling and parents, and he also proposed to her in such a short time, without letting Miss S having any chance to think twice, to regret or to change her decision.

Few similar facts of all these avengers: They are mostly not coming from  good family background and their parents are usually illiterate and poor. Yet they accepted higher education thus become professionals like either a lawyer or engineer, YET as they are not brilliant and thus not the high income professionals, they have low self-esteem, self-pride and confidence, they felt the need of a higher standing wife to boost them, like the Avenger in Action 1 mentioned, usually these men are crafty but not very clever, they are smooth talkers and advantage seekers.

   To hook a professional outstanding lady thus they acted as a good listener temporary, but the minute they got married to their “prey”, they changed their true color very soon, they didn’t even let their professional wives expressed their views anymone, “Women should not talk!”  soon progress to "Women should not go out to work" ----- a typical Chinaman and abusing character  has just began to emerge! 

   

In order to revenge the rejection from a targeted professional lady, if the professional lady was not a pretty girl, the avenger would sure either pursue for her prettier immediate associate, e.g. her colleague, ex-classmate or friend. 

   Or if the professional lady was not coming from a prominent family background, the avenger would “hunt” for a better background lady deliberately. But usually only the victim directly dealing and marrying to the avenger would be getting into deep shit, not the professional lady or e.g. not that medical specialist who rejected the engineer flat.

   

So it is always wiser not to get friendly or having anything to do with a newly-met man,  even you are not interested on him, but don’t act over kindly and friendly to become his match-maker, in turn he may hurt you and the girl that  you tried to match him. 

   Stay away from the newly-met man; if he insisted on chasing after you, you have to check professionally and family bacground-wise if you are “married down”! Never ever married down to any Chinaman (Please note that in my definition of "Chinaman" didn't mean the general Chinese man, but the chauvinistic kind of selfish, crafty and mean Chinese man) mediocre professional, or else you sure will suffer later!

   Also check if he knows any of your friends or even sister, before you want to date him out, please check if he ever tried to chase after anyone of them. 

   Very often when a man couldn’t get one of the sibling, he would chase another one, usually the one who is prettier, smarter or more able (the  main rival to her sibling).

AVENGERS IN ACTION 1

Chinamen did it in disguise for win-win situation!

Written by Miss Yellow

Single professional ladies, you have to be extra careful if one day a stranger with his relative or friend suddenly visited you in your house or your office, you kindly opened your door to “let them in” just because they claimed they knew one of your classmates, friends, siblings, parents or cousins.

   Have you ever thought why a stranger shown up right at your doorsteps? Did they have an ultimate motive?

Let me share with you a true story happened right here in Sarawak state about 15 years ago:

   Once a professional called Miss S didn’t know such stranger’s motive only after the following incident happened:

   One day, a lawyer showed up at Miss S doorstep introduced himself that he knew Miss S’s younger sister and Miss S’s church friends.

   Soon, Miss S kindly introduced him her staff, a Tan Seri’s niece, Miss S thought happily that they would be a good match. But soon not long after, Miss S heard that this lawyer got engaged to a pharmacist who was at least 8 years older than him, and at the same time he still dated Miss S ‘s staff out while he already got engaged, only the engagement news not yet published in the newspapers.

   After Miss S found that out, immediately she looked up for her staff, and she found out her staff also just heard the news too, they were so angry and both felt being betrayed by the lawyer. As an unsuccessful match-maker, Miss S felt she had hurt not just her staff badly but also her staff’s parents as well.

   Such bloody lawyer after he met the pharmacist, they got engaged and married within a very short month.

   Miss S was in awe and soon she began to realize what went wrong, she noticed the lawyer didn’t mind the pharmacist who was a lot older than him and she was a lot more famous than him.

Miss S came out an analysis:

   Initially, the bloody lawyer and his brother-in-law came respectively visiting her expressed their friendship to her…. The ultimate motive was actually targeting her. What the lawyer didn’t expect was when Miss S didn’t show her single bit interest on him (In short, Miss S showed no interest in a younger man) thus she kindly introduced her staff to him.

    Diplomatically he accepted Miss S’s arrangement and dated Miss S’s staff out, but he actually disguised his madness silently waiting for just a chance to revenge, he probably felt that Miss S looked down at him, he felt he lost his pride and face, thus he wanted to revenge, for win-win situation he wanted to hurt both Miss S and her staff by marrying someone whom he thought was richer, more able, more famous or better than Miss S, as for Miss S’s staff he would use her to entertain himself to pass time.

   His revenge began when he moved out of the oil town to the cat city; he finally got his chance to meet an older lady in a church that he thought would par up with Miss S.

   Their marriage actually stunned everyone due to their age differences and it happened in such short a short time, and his wife’s career was much more successful than him and she was also much more famous than him!

  

   So how happy was their marriage? Miss S heard someone told her that his wife’s father complaint that he was the most useless son-in-law amongst all his sons-in-law. 10 over years later Miss S saw him again in a book store with two little ugly girls, they probably inherited their mom’s look, he was so inpatient with them, ugly girls could be cute and good karma aura could be fostered with loving parents, but with this kind of avenger, calculative sleazy father, these little girls probably would never receive enough love and cherish from him. Miss S also pitied his older wife; did she ever find out what her husband did to Miss S and Miss S’s staff? Did she know that she was just a piece in his chess set game?

I guess for sure the lawyer’s older-age wife didn’t have any idea, or probably he would make up a story to her that Miss S and Miss S’s staff were both chasing after him franticly that’s why he ended up moving to cat city!

   

   Chinaman-avengers usually are great stories-makers, compulsive liars, good in disguise and very crafty, they will never become a good husband and father, in short they are very selfish, using their wives like a tool and slave, and they are not good in managing their business too, as they are actually not the very clever kind of men, but just good in cheating at unattained richer or more prominet ladies or else they wouldn't have to depend on a much more outstanding wife to give them laurels! That’s why the lawyer wanted the engagement and marriage happened as quickly as possible because I think deep in his heart he feared that Miss S or his girlfriend would reveal the truth to his wife.