AN EYE FOR AN EYE, A TOOTH FOR A TOOTH!

Failure of our religious teaching and education system causing excessive criminal cases and school disciplinary problems???

Written by Little Money’s Mommy

My neighbor got posted to work in the north, after two months of absence, upon her first returning night already attracted theft, we were simply amazed if it was coincident or it was due to an only informant who could see her front gate!  It was about 2:00am, there was a thief tried to break open her backyard bedroom window, and she ended up face to face to the thief talking to each others, the thief told her, ‘You owe me money!’

  
 My neighbor replied, ‘If I owe you money you don’t come at 2 in the morning!’

   As soon as alarm triggered, I peeked through the window I called out loud, ‘*^%$#, are you alright?’

   
   Immediately I saw a man with blue T-shirt ran and escaped to the front yard, soon my neighbor’s whole house blackout! I could sense something bad, then I saw a man with motorbike left the street, I called the police, and they finally arrived 10 minutes later before we both dared to come out our house. The police told us, ‘There was another break-in not too far from here just now!’

   
   We found the thief disconnected the electric circuit connection, and there was a very large queen-size rubber blanket left on the floor. We suspected there was not just a thief, but a group of thieves. Later my friend told me the rubber blanket was usually used by the thief to muffle the nose of broken grass-window or door. And the same morning in my neighborhood there was a hotel manager’s house got broke in at 7:30 and robbed him under armed.

After election, I noticed the increased crime rate from the daily newspapers and also my neighborhood has becoming increasing unsafe to live, since I fixed the laser beams and CCTV for the house compound, it had triggered alarm for few times already.

   
   Whenever I just walked across the street to visit one of my neighbors, I would bring along a bloom. I really pity the police spent a lot of time working very hard to catch the thieves and robbers with little salary paid, but soon those criminal after bailed were free on the streets, then when the judging day came, there was not a trace of the thief or robber appeared on the court house, hence case temporary postponed.

   
   This happened three years ago to my husband’s car when the thieves tried to steal his car about 10am in front of a busy shopping complex, some responsible citizens called the police to catch the car thieves. But let me tell you, with all these hassles: Public who reported police, CID efforts, car repairing money, times spent waiting, in and out of police stations and court house all gone to drain…. Because it has again become one of the many HANGING CRIMINAL CASES in Malaysia!

   
   Since then for three years has passed, but we never heard any news to ask us   attending the court house anymore! I support Malaysian government to change to criminal laws to as strict as Singapore, to seek Singapore as a role model in dealing civil criminals. 

   I HATE to see Malaysian government spends the time to chase after political criminals but let loose those robbers, thieves and con-men. Because this kind of civil cases would never touch the nerves of Malaysian politicians who are surrounded by 24 hours body guards and security guards! I just hope these politicians can grow more sensitive towards this serious civil crime problem in Malaysia. 
   
   How many unsuccessful breaking cases were not reported to police but civilians still have to pay for the repairing? The truth is: There are many cases happened, once my friend got robbed in an oil company car park, she went to police to report, they asked her if she didn’t lose her IC and license then didn’t need to file the case because they didn’t want to get scolded by the politicians!

Now talking about school education, my son was an angel when he was young, and then he was still quite an angel in primary 1, but gradually I could see the devilish state shadow increased with his age.  At first few years he would often return home from school with bruised or bled arms, knees and back. I was told by a school teacher not to contact whoever did that to my son, because since it was happened in school I should not get involved.

   
   Fine, it sounded fair to me, but when this happened too frequently, I eventually decided to send my son for kung fu lessons, but he has no penchant for it, after two years his standard is still staying like a beginner. In short, my son is not a stereo-type bright boy. However when I sent my kids through excellent “MAS children delivery service” to my sister during school holiday to attend a church holiday children camp, the teachers there concluded he is a genius, but my sister complaint to me, ‘But your son doesn’t know what is called right and wrong! You didn’t teach him that!’

   
   I replied her, ‘If you said he was not behaving but why his younger sister whom I even spent less time to teach her would behave?’

   I believe if I have some hens in my house, I will not be surprised to see my son hatching the eggs for the hens! And nobody knew that I almost did that when I was young, except the hen was so fierce that its beak injured my hands to bar me from approaching its nest!

   But what’s the use of a genius if he is not educated under a right system, it is like a tiger appearing on a concrete forest where dogs reigned, all those dogs would think this tiger is a sick or sleepy little kitten!

My son is top student in class but counting from the populated class highest numerical number, but I still give him my praise because he could barely speak Chinese and write it when he attended primary 1, he never made a single noise of complaint that he didn’t want to study Chinese, he absorbed everything he learned subconsciously and even now he is still in strong subconscious realm whereas the rest of his male and female classmates would act almost like a little adult already, my friend would tell me after she talked to my 8 years old girl, ‘She doesn’t talk to me like a child but like an adult!’ 

   Hmmm….. no fun, I still prefer to talk to my son, he is coming to 11 but with still a cuddly 5 years old brain when he was in his “angelic state”! You know that’s why those elder female school teachers and I wouldn’t give him a cane whenever he was very naughty, and gradually a monster is being fostered, because everyone believes in “love education with no canning” and also if I give him a can if anyone in the family knew it I would be considered as a bipolar unfortunately!

My son is sure not a good old boy anymore, invisible and adjustable horns and tail have grown on his body after he attends primary school, when his “devil state” emerged he could turn into an animal  but luckily not a cunning and sly devil like some of his classmates yet. My son would turn into “angelic state” but like a 5 years old kid, he would walk to the front of the church when pastor was still preaching. My son is definitely abnormal because he is 10 already, and he still lives in a very strong sense world of subconscious realm!

   
   Last Friday, I received a call from my son’s discipline teacher informing me that my son bit his classmate until he bled. She wanted to see me, I turned down the meeting, I told her, ‘If the fight happened in school, I think the matter should be solved in school, as I was not on scene I was not a witness.’ The main reason I turned her down was few years ago when my son was often continuously bullied by a group of A class students or pushed by some big sizes classmates (my son is the second shortest boy in class), the matter was resolved in school. 

   
   Those classmates were my son’s “street-wise class” masters, my son learned to fight since then, however one of the worst one was “advised to transfer” to a private school (I overheard the classmates’ gossip). Now whenever my son met him in Kopitiam they are still “long time no see” kind of friends and at least I would be in talking term with his mother.

   
   I didn’t like the idea when system of rules and regulations were based on people’s mouth subjected to change whenever it faced a threat, it really confuses me. My son always returned home with blood bled knees and I was told the school would handle the cases, now when my son bit his classmate until bleeding, then when I called Sarawak Education Department for advice, they would tell me that parents should meet for reconciliation, the education officer would tell me that’s the good intention of the discipline teacher! 

   I am not an unreasonable kind of person, if my son beat his classmate until his bone was broken, sure I would be showed up the scene responsible for the medical fees and the parents sure would receive my sincere apology, but of course after the incident I warned my son if he bites people, anytime he will be under the risk of getting AIDS and HepB!

My old folks who are both veteran educators, they are well over 80s now, they told me whenever cousins or friends’ kids got together playing but got involved in fights, any adult or parent should not get involved unless serious injuries happened. Usually at the end kids befriended with each other soon but the parents were still quarrelling and carried grudges until they went to coffin! Wise parents who invited a group of kids in the house playing would first issue and state very clear of their “precaution, safety and YES and NO rules and regulations” of the house until all kids understood that if they violated the peace and happy hours then next time he or she won’t be welcome to for the gathering and party anymore.

   
   In school, when kids could involve in beating and biting under the nose of teachers, so whose mistake was that? I received a facebook on Friday, it was from the boy’s day care center’s teacher, she wrote to me this way:

   ‘hi.. mdm,sorry 2 say yah... just now i saw $$$$ (my son) biten at students hand... quit serious oso... small but look so painful hehe’

Then on Monday, I saw the message I replied her this way:

  
   ‘What had happened? He (my son) told his dad that the boy punched his eye, true?’

   ‘I mean what had happened before $$$$ (my son) gave the boy a bad bite? The parents asked the discipline teacher why we never apologize. I didn't even know who was the student and the parents and I neither have their hp no. I asked the discipline teacher to punish $$$$ (my son), as it was happened in school.  When AAAA beat up $$$$ few years ago they told me that parents shouldn't involve in school matter when kids fought in school.’

On Tuesday, the day care teacher replied me:

   ‘actualy like this...bfore that boy go n box his eye...$$$$ (my son) go n bite that boy..that boy named TTTT, $$$$ go n take TTTT Marker...so TTTT Ask 4 it...ask $$$$ 2 gave back but $$$$ don't want....so...That TTTT take back his marker...Suddenly...$$$$ go n bite TTTT..Then...TTTT Box his eye..that is the story... until 2day still got the wound..’

Then this tiger-mother became defensive towards the day-care center teacher’s obvious favor towards her student:

   ‘I got the news from the discipline teacher it was $$$$ (my son) got beaten first on the eye by the boy (TTTT) before he bit the boy, who is this student and who told you twisted this? Who is this TTTT, who is the parents? Who was the person who twisted the whole thing and told you differently? And if anyone asked you who am I, please don't reveal (Please don’t disclose my information without my concern) I don't like this thing happened, he is the monitor and obviously everyone sided him now I could tell from the incident, and everyone just pointed fingers at $$$$ (my son) said he was wrong, I wonder why he bit the boy so hard if he was not being irritated.’

   
   ‘Hmm... Obviously this boy is in your day care after school. Were you there on scene during the fight? And your version of story was NOT the same according what the discipline teacher reported back to me and my husband.’

   ‘Obviously you only listened to one side of the story, I know $$$$ (my son) is not good in study which gives most Kuching people/teachers/classmates a view that he would perhaps end up as a nobody in the future, but the other boy who is much more mature, with leadership quality, (I heard discipline teacher said he is a monitor) brighter and very good in study, most people would choose to befriend him and believe his information was fully correct also as his biting injury (done by $$$$) was quite severe.

   'Besides from the discipline teacher, I also heard from few resources of what had happened. There was a competition in class, and there were two groups, the monitor's group was winning, and $$$$ started to snap the marker pen from him, and the fist fights began from there, (obviously it was one person against a group) I heard two person shirts were tainted by the marker done by $$$$ during the fight, and also one of their spectacle was out of shape, then the fist fight proceeded to outside the class, it happened that a teacher passed by, separated them from fighting, $$$$ was still not happy, so he suddenly gave a DOG bite on the monitor. About if the monitor only punched $$$$’s eyes  after $$$$ bit him, then the teacher could have seemed it with the rest of the classmates who witnessed the fight and they could have tell me that, but I was told $$$$'s eye was punch (from my point of view, most likely they punched my son’s eye due to the fists fight amongst boys caused one of their spectacle bent) and he was very painful, that's why he gave a bite on the boy ... imagine the teacher had already separated them, but $$$$ still bit the monitor in front of the teacher, this was from another resource.

   'You can ask JJJJ who goes the same day care center of yours, I know may be you are pitying the boy now and probably close to his mom,  $$$$ (my son) is not decent either, and he becomes naughty too, but the truth is the truth, he is bad, but should not be further on blackened by the untruth.’

Then the day care teacher replied:

   ‘hai mdm...that boy is qdees day care...i also not realy sure after heard your story..well..we also know that children is all the same...that is how they grow up,full with memories...’

Finally I wrote again to her:

   ‘He (TTTT) is obviously telling lies to you, I didn't trust my son, when incident happened I asked everyone including you, but never asked my son, but only your version is so different from what I heard, obviously being twisted by whoever told you, that person let me tell you he was not telling you the truth, if the boy who got injured by the bite, he is so young and bright, but very obviously not honest, sly and cunning, and yet if any teacher chose to believe the boy's lies, that's why in our society smart kids are prompt to commit outlaw offense (when they grow up), as they were trained since young by adults to become a compulsive liar to get their ways (To show adult they are the innocent and good ones).

Things happened on Friday, my husband and I thought the matter has already solved in school. But the discipline teacher called on Monday during siesta hour to my husband again, she told us the parents of the boy (whom my son bit) wondered why we never called and apologized to them. Apologize to them? My husband got angry, he told her, ‘He punched on my son’s eye first before my son bit him, my son said he was very painful that’s why he bit the classmate. The classmate was the one who “moved his fist first”,according to law, who showed the fist first who was wrong!’ Then the discipline teacher wanted to give the classmate’s parent hp to him, he refused to take, ‘You give my hp to them, you can ask them to call me if they want.’

Then the discipline teacher called me again on next day:

   ‘Hey, have you call the boy’s parents, have you solve the problem?’

   I was quite annoyed when I heard this, so I replied her, ‘I don’t even have my son’s monitor parent hp, I neither know who is the classmate nor knowing  who is his parents, how could I contact them? (I am not interested to get involved) I told you already this thing happened in school right under teacher’s nose, it has to be solved in school, if this thing happened in my house, I sure will apologize due to my failure as a hostess to cause such incident!’

   ‘Okay Okay…. I will tell the monitor’s mother, she also doesn’t like the incident drag on; she thinks this was kids matter.’ I could tell who was the smarter person within these two persons and I could tell who wanted to see the apologize show and manipulated the apologize scene.

   To play an old dog like me? I taught students since barely 15, there was not a single history of a student fought under my nose but even up to these days I have students still telling me how much they missed their times under my teaching and I am truly from a third generation educator’s family, my husband and I could smell snobbishness in the whole affair, and I think she chose a wrong person to dally!  In short what kind of school discipline teacher would produce what kind of school!

By the way, this will be the last semester for my son to train under this kind of Chinese education system, my husband and I decide to let the “sick or sleepy kitten” putting back to his original forest!

   Lastly, tell you honestly, that was me who taught my son to retaliate when his classmates bullied him all because I told him, ‘I don’t want to hear any complain from you being bullied in school and returned home with those injuries and cries, things happened in school, you solved it yourself, don’t bring home, even better if you don’t bring homework back! That’s why I send you for kung fu lessons so that you learn to defense yourself!’

   But started from last few days, my version of lecture changes to the sleepy kitten, ‘Try to avoid and involve in any fighting in school, you are the last in class, nobody wants to be your friend, so please get real, nobody would trust your word (negative teaching now) when they gave a pinch to create a bruise at your butt but people would only see your fist and bite in front of your classmate’s face and arm! You go to school is to study not fighting and playing politics, since your tuition teacher has just left to further her study, so please finish your homework in school during recess, the best don’t bring homework home,  don’t act funny to create attention!’

   It is not easy to handle my weird son, he would take off his shirt under the hot sun right after school, most classmates would yell at him:

   ‘ EEEE變態 (abnormal)’

   ‘EEEEE…GAY!’

   ‘EEEE….. $#%^&(( (some 4 letter words) swore on him.

   
   Anyhow he didn’t care, but his sister would tell me everything what she heard.

   But there was an only very smart English teacher, she just said one word and he would put back his shirt immediately:

 ‘Boy, the sunlight could burn your skin if you take off your shirt!’

ANGRY MOMMY ON MOTHER’S DAY!

I just feel my heart wringing sadly and feeling injured today…….

Written by Miss Yellow

I realized my son is already 10, but for past 10 years during mother’s day, I received nothing during past 10 mother’s day from the person who pestered me (including his doctor brother did that, he said women after 38 would be difficult to conceive babies) to become a mother.

   
   I only have such awakening when I moved to meow city when I mixed with those "professional tai tai", then I began to believe in one’s fate more than Jesus could do with my life, because I realized no matter how I prayed to Jesus to bless me a good husband, I ended up just like those feng shui guru foretold me, “You will have a husband who won’t love you a lot, but just so so…”

   
   Just listened to those tai tai of what they received during mother’s day from their husbands, I wouldn't get jealous, but the first thought came to my mind was I would sigh of how thoughtless was my husband. These women would tell me usually they received the most expensive gifts during mother’s day and their birthday. I would realize how unfair is this world when one fate’s is based on the time of your birth, your star and palm lines, obviously God made the constellation to designate our individual fates too, and then designated the feng shui guru to foretell us our fates!

   How true? There is a Datin that I know of, this Datin dresses up humble, she doesn’t have an air of a Datin, actually her younger sister looks a lot prettier and could dress-up better than her, but the minute they approached a very famous feng shui guru in Sibu town, the feng shui guru without even looking at her palm would tell her, “You will never have problem over spending money, you have plentiful of money, but your sister won’t have the good fate like you.” True enough, just a few years later the Datin became a Datin, but her younger sister’s husband had an affair, mistreated her badly, she has to work as a clerk to support herself and her children. Then there is another lady friend of mine also went to see a feng shui guru before she was married, her good fate was so good that feng shui guru even wanted to introduce his own son to her. True enough my friend’s husband do very well nowadays and treat her very well too.

   
   Actually ladies could escape bad fate if they truly believe in fate, like my case I didn’t believe it, now I regret it badly.These days I would interpret it this way: Not all ladies have such fate to be married and have good husband and obedient kids, if you don’t have such designated good marriage fate, that’s mean you shouldn’t get married, usually you would find no man was interested on you even you could be very pretty and very succcessful in your career. Or those men you met would give you all sort of difficult time or even abused you.
   
   So why you have to follow what other women  did and submitted to their bad gossips? I bet some of those stupid women even if they had bad marriages they would still want you to get married. BUT if you remain as a single you will be  self-satisfied, no so worry and happy.

There are two kinds of nasty husbands who never give any appreciation "in actions" to their wives: First kind is the cash-poor husband, but because he is a very proud person, he will act very mean to his wife if she mentioned to him about mother’s day celebration, he would tell her, “You have to wait for your kids to grow older to celebrate for you! I will go to celebrate for my mother!”  Two years in a roll, these words came out from my husband’s mouth. Another kind of cash-poor husband, but not so mean, would tell his wife, “I love you with my heart, why have to celebrate?” Both of these men’s wives would never receive any appreciation as a mother throughout their whole lives, all because they were poor and stingy. Only when these women's children grow older, perhaps they could make their poor mothers smile by then!

  

Some lucky women live without realizing how unfortunate other women live, they always thought that it was due to the faults of those ladies didn’t treat their husband nicely, kindly and lovingly, that’s why their husbands didn’t treat them nice in return, they childishly thought “give and take” would work on all men!
  

   Sometimes those lucky women could be quite mean to  bad fate women; they thought that when a bad fates woman complains to them about her husband, they might even guess that she was interested to look for another husband …. They would think she wanted to replace her useless husband for a better and richer one. In some occasions, those lucky women could be quite mean, they would  introduce a divorced man to the bad marriage fate's lady and asked her if she was interested in him, ended later when they heard the man insulted her as an “aunty”, were they satisfied of their mean act? Actually they all "made fun", played the poor woman up! So bad marriage fate women have to be very careful of who are their listeners!

   In this world there are full of people or women are not being treated well and equally. I could earn much more than what my husband could give me, yet I was convinced by my husband to quit my good job just because he didn’t want to fly or drive a long way to see me in the north, another good excuse he told me because he didn’t like to see me bringing the kids flying here and there, but the kids actually enjoying a career mom more than a jobless mom, their hearts could feel how hurt, nervous and injured as I am.

  

Actually these days I hate festivals, birthday, mother’s day or wedding dinners, when I opened my closet, I looked at all those old faded clothes and accessories,  it would also hint me that my husband doesn’t love me enough, and worst when I found I was fooled in many things when an old aging short man wanted to convince a girl ( I was tall and not ugly ok!) married him! If you say I am materialistic then it is also very unfair to me, do you think a relationship can last when there are just few good words and good things, but the marriage already lasted for 10 years, I can tolerate and accept my own bad fate and own wrong decision in life, buried my past 10 years in jail – family jail. Give and take? It's a bullshit to me!

   So young ladies, if you can’t find a good man in life, don’t rush for it, and if you reach over 30 and still not finding any good man, just forget about to become a mother. Go on your life, save enough money touring around the world, or else if you get married badly to a chauvinistic stingy man no matter how rich, he would lock in a cocoon, you will end up like me, there will be no trip, no freedom and no good luxury kind of lifestyle. You would be in his "random kindness" free disposal! 
  
   Do you know that when a man reaches his 35+ he will look down at those ladies who are over 30 years old, his friends, his family members and himself will together “play”(make fun) you up if you express an  interest in him? He will “hang up” himself to sell, but he didn’t know that those younger girls that he was interested to marry of amongst one of them would actually call him as “UNCLE!”

HOW FREE ARE MALAYSIAN-HOUSEWIVES?

In Australia they call housewives as homemakers….

Written by Money Tai Tai

I worked since 15 years old, working part-time became my habit since form 2 to including studied all over universities in different countries. Then when I graduated to earn my degree, immediately I commenced my full-booming work!

   To quit my job acting as a housewife was my dream, it was not because I thought becoming a housewife would be freer, to “make unfair remarks on other housewives” or “acting on behalf of other housewives’ minds” was and is not my interest, it actually didn’t come to my busy mind. 

   Only these days I realized most full-time housewives actually were subjected under long-term emotional battered of being not financially independent, thus they were controlled under the thumb of their chauvinistic husbands.

  

Smart women would keep encouraging and aiming their daughters grow up to become professionals but stupid women would abuse their own daughters, only put their concentration on sons. Actually it is more important to educate daughters for higher studies than sons when you have chauvinistic husbands-in-residence! Those inheritances would go to your sons not your daughters, if you are a smart woman then trying to squeeze as much money from your daughter’s dad to send your daughter to college, that would actually path her a good future  and in return, earn you worried-free next half life, especially if she turns into a doctor. Even if she got divorce, she wouldn’t return home asking you “old mom” to feed her and her kids!

   

   I experienced such “comedy episode” of a proud housewife-mommy recently, I called my long-lost contact student’s mother asked her where about was her daughter, she proudly told me, ‘She is a doctor now, she just passed her GP, do you know what is GP?’ Then I patiently let her explained the term GP to me, I was simply amused.

   

   I would advise all housewives, even though you didn’t get any chance to attend higher education after your secondary school studies, but you must READ profoundly, or else one day when your daughter becomes a doctor you would think the rest of women were ignorant (like you) except your daughter now is “highly educated.”

   

   Unluckily I also “bounced” into another kind of “ghost-like” devil-mom who never likes to read, not even newspapers! She would treat any of her child’s classmates or teachers as a future imaginary enemy. 

   This kind of devil-moms got high ego to train their “as highly ego talented kids” to become somebody famous, they became "notorious"  as  they always would defame their kids' “potential rivals”, they would do something ingratitude to their imaginary enemies, usually the little child  of theirs would act quicker than the hypocrite mother, he/she would soon “unfriend” his/her teacher, while the hypocrite mom still keeps “acting polite” to their kid's teacher.

   

   I began to notice a young part-time students of mine (came lessons with me for only three times) particularly due to her most ingratitude behavior (in my entire teaching life), I discovered she "unfriended" me when I wanted to send some documents to help her via her facebook, then I only found that out since when, I really have no idea she had already "unfriended" me in her facebook, I wouldn’t have mind if she has 100 friends if she "unfriended" me, but she has more than 500 friends, and yet she would "unfriend" me! 

   I later learned that both her mom and the little daughter of hers didn’t like my corrections or making any other suggestions. As a teacher if I kept giving positive comments but without making any correction on students' problems then why I have to teach? I also noticed this kind of mothers when they have a quite talented kid they began to act bossy, they would flatter how talented their kids to even a stranger but wouldn’t allow any criticism from any people/teacher, or else they would immediately defame and fire that person/teacher, yet in front of those teachers they would say act how appreciate and grateful! Why you think a child who was only 12 could do that to her teacher while her mom would continuously calling her daughter’s teacher pretentiously flattering her!!!???

My thought of quitting my job after I got married was because I thought since I was getting so old to get married to have babies, I should quit my job. As during my working three decades as a teacher I could see those little “monsters” could turn into “angels” the minute they saw their professional doctor or lawyer moms arrived my doorsteps, ‘Hey mom!’ The sweetest angelic voices resonance in my ears up to these days! 

   Soon their mom would bring them enjoying nicest dinner and shopping to buy newest toys in town, I could tell those BUSY professional mommies were feeling guilty (remember it only happened to those very busy professional moms, once happened to me too) that their children were often neglected, so often by using material things to comfort and tame the “monsters” they felt it was fair to both kids and themselves too!

   

   This was just life, nothing went wrong, thanks god that all these kids after two decades now they still became lawyers or doctors like their moms! These kids grow-up still as lovely, they still would visit me whenever they came to Meow city. I think these kids with professional mothers never would treat me as a “role-model or future rival” to challenge their undertakings, their own professional mother would be their role model … They wouldn't act like other kids to make sure one day when they graduated from college, they would earn more money, dress up prettier, buy better branded things, cook better, eat better, have better professions than once their respected role model or once their challenged imaginary future rival. 

   Good gratitude kids who grow older would usually appreciate my encouragements and my “cherish” extended to them, in short, I expected them to do better than me like I wish at my daguhter. These kids were the ones who would still look up for me even they have become professionals but those ingratitude ones would pose the altitude, "HEHEHEHEE... NOW I AM BETTER THAN YOU! I WON!"

Mr. Money agreed that I could quit my job, now I only realized he had to agree or else I wouldn’t have married him and have his babies, that’s one of his hook and the “crooks” revealed when the household expenses came to me almost the end of some months and when his brother’s wife came to visit me told me how much debt he owes his family members. 

   When I quitted my job, a Datin would even admire my “free-from-job" new status, she would often “check” my "jobless tai tai  lifestyle" from my parents, ‘She has good life without working!’ she mentioned it often to my parents. 

   Until one day my mom retaliated, ‘Jobless but still with pocket full of money, only a woman like you will have good life!’ This Datin actually acts humble like any other Malaysian-housewives when she stays in the oil city, she didn’t have any maid but have to cook meals for her family, so she probably thought that I would act like her other friends... tai tai with two or three maids in the house helping or her "real Datin's lifestyle" in Beijing or KL!

   

This is my monotonous lifestyle after I become a housewife, see if you  want to quit your good job after being married to a man!!! (Remember, don't quit unless you only earn RM1000/month but he can produce you RM10,000/month. If you earn RM10,000++ but he could only give you RM5000, then you should never quit your job!)

   I got up at 5:45am, immediately I have to prepare breakfast for next thirty minutes (Thanks God that I have fast dexterities), to prepare my children’s breakfast, packed their refreshment boxes and filled up their water bottles. Then I would take a quick shower, changed and put up make-up (remember there are not many natural beauties but there are many lazy women!), by 6:30-45am, we are on the road. By the time reached home it would be around 7:15am, immediately I collected my newspaper, put the dirty clothes in the laundry, eat my breakfast while reading newspaper, once done I have to wash dishes, clean the house (only pick a place to clean in a day), then I have to water the plants in the garden, soon I have to hang out the clothes under the sun. By the time I would be sweat all over, when I turn on the air condition to sit on the desk starting my writing, I found out it’s coming to 10 soon, my pretty “assistant” from next street comes, she helps me to correct grammar of my written books (not these blog articles), next two hours we both don’t want to be disturbed, but soon my alarm service man, plumber, pest control or electrician would hop in some of the mornings.

   

   Breakfast out with friends? I really don’t like it, because it means my household works will be delayed, and something would not be done. Telephone calls from friends to gossip? I also don’t like it, because I would talk to my friend, then suddenly I had forgotten what I told her the previous sentence when I saw the dirty floor accidentally! By 1:00pm, like most mothers I have to go picked up my children. 

   I will continue my story to let those idly but financially sounded career women or housewives who think on my behalf that I must be very free , I will soon let them know what I would do in the afternoon and evening before I went to sleep! 

   Never ever make mean remarks to other housewives who battered by their husbands financially, especially if those ladies don’t even have a maid at home or even a husband present at home 3 days in a month! Worst, their kids are still young, who can’t help their mommy even to vacuum the floor yet!

AVENGERS IN ACTION II

Chinamen did it in disguise for win-win situation!

Written by Miss Yellow

There was another nasty avenger true story happened here in Sarawak. About 10 years ago, a Miss S got married at old age too to an engineer, only after marrying her husband for 10 years she realized she was just a piece of chess in a chess set manipulated by an avenger. He caused her lost her successful career, actually he cheated her that he was very successful in his business, he would tell her off that her whole year salary was not even as much as his monthly income.

   

   Miss S’s husband actually was interested to pursue after Miss S’s secondary school classmate who is a medical specialist.

The same old story of how a stranger bachelor man with his friend knocking at a single professional’s door with the ice-breaker, ‘Your uncle is my good friend!’ However, the doctor was not interested at all with the man; she didn’t entertain him at all even he made long-distance calls to her house.

    

   What she didn’t know that was he actually got angry in disguise and silent, he began to check out her background, very soon he began to target her classmate, one of her best friends, Miss S. However, Miss S was not an easy person to reach too, so he arranged through his classmates as they were Miss S sisters’ secondary school form-mates. From there he craftily reached Miss S, learned her weakness as a high-age single lady being pestered to get married off by her sibbling and parents, and he also proposed to her in such a short time, without letting Miss S having any chance to think twice, to regret or to change her decision.

Few similar facts of all these avengers: They are mostly not coming from  good family background and their parents are usually illiterate and poor. Yet they accepted higher education thus become professionals like either a lawyer or engineer, YET as they are not brilliant and thus not the high income professionals, they have low self-esteem, self-pride and confidence, they felt the need of a higher standing wife to boost them, like the Avenger in Action 1 mentioned, usually these men are crafty but not very clever, they are smooth talkers and advantage seekers.

   To hook a professional outstanding lady thus they acted as a good listener temporary, but the minute they got married to their “prey”, they changed their true color very soon, they didn’t even let their professional wives expressed their views anymone, “Women should not talk!”  soon progress to "Women should not go out to work" ----- a typical Chinaman and abusing character  has just began to emerge! 

   

In order to revenge the rejection from a targeted professional lady, if the professional lady was not a pretty girl, the avenger would sure either pursue for her prettier immediate associate, e.g. her colleague, ex-classmate or friend. 

   Or if the professional lady was not coming from a prominent family background, the avenger would “hunt” for a better background lady deliberately. But usually only the victim directly dealing and marrying to the avenger would be getting into deep shit, not the professional lady or e.g. not that medical specialist who rejected the engineer flat.

   

So it is always wiser not to get friendly or having anything to do with a newly-met man,  even you are not interested on him, but don’t act over kindly and friendly to become his match-maker, in turn he may hurt you and the girl that  you tried to match him. 

   Stay away from the newly-met man; if he insisted on chasing after you, you have to check professionally and family bacground-wise if you are “married down”! Never ever married down to any Chinaman (Please note that in my definition of "Chinaman" didn't mean the general Chinese man, but the chauvinistic kind of selfish, crafty and mean Chinese man) mediocre professional, or else you sure will suffer later!

   Also check if he knows any of your friends or even sister, before you want to date him out, please check if he ever tried to chase after anyone of them. 

   Very often when a man couldn’t get one of the sibling, he would chase another one, usually the one who is prettier, smarter or more able (the  main rival to her sibling).

AVENGERS IN ACTION 1

Chinamen did it in disguise for win-win situation!

Written by Miss Yellow

Single professional ladies, you have to be extra careful if one day a stranger with his relative or friend suddenly visited you in your house or your office, you kindly opened your door to “let them in” just because they claimed they knew one of your classmates, friends, siblings, parents or cousins.

   Have you ever thought why a stranger shown up right at your doorsteps? Did they have an ultimate motive?

Let me share with you a true story happened right here in Sarawak state about 15 years ago:

   Once a professional called Miss S didn’t know such stranger’s motive only after the following incident happened:

   One day, a lawyer showed up at Miss S doorstep introduced himself that he knew Miss S’s younger sister and Miss S’s church friends.

   Soon, Miss S kindly introduced him her staff, a Tan Seri’s niece, Miss S thought happily that they would be a good match. But soon not long after, Miss S heard that this lawyer got engaged to a pharmacist who was at least 8 years older than him, and at the same time he still dated Miss S ‘s staff out while he already got engaged, only the engagement news not yet published in the newspapers.

   After Miss S found that out, immediately she looked up for her staff, and she found out her staff also just heard the news too, they were so angry and both felt being betrayed by the lawyer. As an unsuccessful match-maker, Miss S felt she had hurt not just her staff badly but also her staff’s parents as well.

   Such bloody lawyer after he met the pharmacist, they got engaged and married within a very short month.

   Miss S was in awe and soon she began to realize what went wrong, she noticed the lawyer didn’t mind the pharmacist who was a lot older than him and she was a lot more famous than him.

Miss S came out an analysis:

   Initially, the bloody lawyer and his brother-in-law came respectively visiting her expressed their friendship to her…. The ultimate motive was actually targeting her. What the lawyer didn’t expect was when Miss S didn’t show her single bit interest on him (In short, Miss S showed no interest in a younger man) thus she kindly introduced her staff to him.

    Diplomatically he accepted Miss S’s arrangement and dated Miss S’s staff out, but he actually disguised his madness silently waiting for just a chance to revenge, he probably felt that Miss S looked down at him, he felt he lost his pride and face, thus he wanted to revenge, for win-win situation he wanted to hurt both Miss S and her staff by marrying someone whom he thought was richer, more able, more famous or better than Miss S, as for Miss S’s staff he would use her to entertain himself to pass time.

   His revenge began when he moved out of the oil town to the cat city; he finally got his chance to meet an older lady in a church that he thought would par up with Miss S.

   Their marriage actually stunned everyone due to their age differences and it happened in such short a short time, and his wife’s career was much more successful than him and she was also much more famous than him!

  

   So how happy was their marriage? Miss S heard someone told her that his wife’s father complaint that he was the most useless son-in-law amongst all his sons-in-law. 10 over years later Miss S saw him again in a book store with two little ugly girls, they probably inherited their mom’s look, he was so inpatient with them, ugly girls could be cute and good karma aura could be fostered with loving parents, but with this kind of avenger, calculative sleazy father, these little girls probably would never receive enough love and cherish from him. Miss S also pitied his older wife; did she ever find out what her husband did to Miss S and Miss S’s staff? Did she know that she was just a piece in his chess set game?

I guess for sure the lawyer’s older-age wife didn’t have any idea, or probably he would make up a story to her that Miss S and Miss S’s staff were both chasing after him franticly that’s why he ended up moving to cat city!

   

   Chinaman-avengers usually are great stories-makers, compulsive liars, good in disguise and very crafty, they will never become a good husband and father, in short they are very selfish, using their wives like a tool and slave, and they are not good in managing their business too, as they are actually not the very clever kind of men, but just good in cheating at unattained richer or more prominet ladies or else they wouldn't have to depend on a much more outstanding wife to give them laurels! That’s why the lawyer wanted the engagement and marriage happened as quickly as possible because I think deep in his heart he feared that Miss S or his girlfriend would reveal the truth to his wife. 

Taste Buds Trills

A meal with Burmese salad and Daun Kesom spring rolls

 Yummy Burmese Salad

Written by Miss Yellow

A few months ago I learned that green unripe papaya is one of the natural remedies to cure cancer, but my excuse is my body’s cancer cells has not pinched me down yet, I not gonna forcing myself drinking green papaya juice like those poor malaria patients.

   On January, I was juicing green papaya and air flown it for my malaria infested ex-cancer-patient sister in Singapore, I wondered how could Singapore, such a clean country, her residents suffered from Malaria, and then I was told, ‘Indonesians brought it!’ Hmmmm……….

My Burmese neighbor heard that I wanted to do something with my green unripe papaya on my papaya trees (Last year end, I chopped two, died one and I only have a tree remained) immediately she offered to prepare and let me tried her Burmese salad.

   My Burmese neighbor is from a very prominent Burmese family and she develops very good taste buds for gourmet foods and her green papaya salad prepared for me was much more refined and tastier than any green papaya salads I tried before.

Of course after that from time to time I innovated it in different ways, anyhow she always likes my innovative ways especially after a day of hard work, she never complaint anything I ever cooked for her!

 Have you ever thought of preparing spring roll with daun kesom?

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Burmese Salad, a special thank to my Burmese neighbor who taught me how to prepare this dish.

Ingredients

Quarter unripe big green papaya, peel off skin, shredded the papaya (big or small up to one's preference)

One potatoes, cut into thin small pieces, boil 

Vermicelli, soak then boil

Give both of them a cold bath

Half big onion cut into rings, deep fried in the oil until brown and crispy, (Optional to add small dried prawns); use both oil (up to one's wish), crispy onion and crispy small dried prawns

Soy bean fried and prepared to grind into fine powder, need two big tablespoons

Cilandro leaves for garnishing

A  lemon

Two spoons (use big serving spoon) of fish sauce

Mix all of them together, can mash the potatoes slightly (opt)

ECONOMICAL WAY OF DECORATING A HOUSE

Including its half-done kitchen left by its deceased first owner!

Have you ever thought of placing a dishwasher at 
this kind of 90 degrees corner,on the top of 
kitchen counter top and next to the dish basin?

Written by Miss Yellow

A decade ago, nobody wanted to buy my current house, and I heard it that it was vacant for 8 years by a big takau before my little family moved in.  
   Initially I got to dust the long vacant house like 5 times a day, I always wondered if any Kuching folks gossiped that my long vacant house got antu or not! Even if it got some before, but I think once my two noisy “monkeys” moving in with their virago-mom, the high decibels could close the access gaps of 11th dimension to our earthy realm!

   Soon my visitors saying they regretted they didn’t buy it, all because they hesitated to see the house which only got two bedrooms, in their midst of hesitating they also not realizing Kuching property in good areas were kept rising every year, my house now has most probably raised for a double since we first moved in 5 years ago.

Many poor housewives would understand what I am talking: After purchased a house, even you have the shell you won’t have an interior. I was left penniless to decorate my house by Mr. Money, but luckily I still carried my long distance career and business initially for a year before I sold them off. Sarcastically enough I once got such optimistic opinion planned to act my role as a full time happy housewife!

   Initially when I moved in the newly moved-in house, I only had a dustbin; it collected every kind of rubbish!! My friend from another city came to visit me at the same time she brought along a very wealthy businessman’s native wife, I could detect her snub when she couldn’t find a dustbin in the toilet, she didn’t realize not every housewife could afford many dustbins, when I visited her new mansion, I could tell money for her was never a problem, she even has more animal-toilets for her pets than my toilets!

   What she looked for was the spiritual peace of how to get to heaven, for me 4 letter foul words always could come out of my mouth in my daily frustrated encountering, the path for gold mine and heaven both look heavenly distance from my current life style!

   From my knowledge, only less than 5% of our Malaysian housewives don’t need to worry much about money to buy household accessories when they move in a new house!

Few things you have to bear in mind if you are not a filthy rich housewife but you have a small house that you plan to keep, always remember cozy feel of a house is above all, you make your guests felt welcomed and comfortable in your house, a house is NOT to show off to people of your filthy wealth and how big was your mansion, how nice and expensive your household accessories, your show off actually could make your inferior visitors felt of how insufficient and poor they were.

   A house is a place where your respective visitors would respect of your through decades of hard-earning collections but not within a few months time!

   A house is also a place, where friends could learn and benefits from an older and wiser host or hostess.

(1) You can afford to wait, even for 4 years like me. Don’t buy inferior furniture, think of hard wood furniture only. You collect the furniture in such a way a piece after another, perhaps only once every 4 months once, up to current date, my living room doesn’t have a sofa set yet!

(2) Don’t look for a modern style home, now is modern how about twenty years later? So think of classic or country style or unless it is a prize-winning architect-designed house. But if you can’t avoid, then be very imaginative and creative to decorate or renovate both its interior and exterior to suit and cater your current living styles, needs and standard.

(3) Learn to match your house, e.g. don’t mix a modern architectural design with country furniture and with elaborated classic style curtains with weird color.

(4) Unless you are super rich and have a big mansion, or else don’t need to waste your space and money for two wet and dry kitchens, this is Malaysia and if you are Chinese-Malaysians who love to cook, then design your outdoor yet “heavy rain-proof” Chinese-Malaysian style kitchen.

(5) Don’t mix family room with living room, for small house you can combine your family room as TV room, library and computer room or even guest room.
(6) Don’t waste your money to decorate children rooms with children theme, unless you are rich and free enough to keep changing theme with them along their growing stages, how about one day if they leave the house and go studying overseas?

(7) Have an enclosed (or partially) car port, where you can make it as an extra storage/tools room.

(8) Decorate your house with characteristic which is feasible and practical for your daily life style, interest and hobbies, but not copying your design here and there from interior design magazines, but where you can always gain tips and inspiration from.
(9) Master bedroom must have a walk-in toilet and shower, drawer, exhaust fan (optional), chest, bedside tables, table lamps, long mirror, wardrobe, standing lamps, fans and (opt. air-condition), blind (or thin curtain) and thick dark curtain, kartini bench, sofa (sleeping sofa, study desk, little table, TV and Video (Optional), mini bar (Optional: Only suggest it if your kitchen is on the ground floor). Use a single plan color bed sheet, quilt cover (silk is better than cotton and down) and pillow cases. Always decorate your bedroom cozier and “tastier” than a hotel room, or else don’t blame your husband and children who prefer hotel stay than at home!

(10) Buy only hardwood beds and good mattress like I would suggest Slumberland brand (You won’t regret, as it is affordable yet comfortable for your back, wait for its promotion)

(11) Buy some vintage/Persian rugs, runners and paintings for floor and wall decorating. I once came across a big mansion, it was decorated with all kinds of expensive accessories but dissappointedly I didn’t find any Persian rugs on the floor nor any painting on the wall!

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(12) Lastly, your walls need skirting!

(13) Don’t paint your house too dark, too colorful or too many themes!
(14) Garden needs rare fruit trees, rare flowers, rare herbs and rare vegetables in “rojak-style”.

(15) If affordable always buy a few dehumidifier and ionizer for your house, turn them on especially when you are absented from the house for a long term or during rainy days.

(16) Try to use neutral color theme for your house, don’t ask a man or a boy to stay in a little pinky house.

(17) Don’t abuse yourself as a modern days housewife; buy a dish dryer for daily use and a dishwasher for after party or feast. When I requested my husband for a dishwasher few years ago, he asked me, “Do you open a Chinese restaurant?” and my “China-woman mom” would ask me, “Why so lazy?” Few Chinaman-husbands would help their wives to wash dirty dishes, they also wouldn’t buy dishwasher for you, so I buy it with my own money, because I have not work for more than 4 years now, situation forced and trained into a bargainer, I searched through the whole city and was lucky enough to run into a showroom unit with 50% discount.

(18) Don’t build a wooden kitchen, unless you use hard wood, you always can consider stainless steel and aluminum kitchen. I waited for more than 4 years paying from my own pocket to renovate my kitchen (which was half done by previous owner when I moved in the house).

Be very flexible especially you have limited budget, it was my hard earned money, e.g. I won’t change the 20 over years gas stove and hood left by the previous owner, I didn’t demolished the whole kitchen counter top just because the previous owner half-done kitchen counter top was built lower than standard height, resulted in no dishwasher could fit in. For that reasons I read over many articles from professional chefs and gone through thousands of kitchen photos to look for the best place to fit in my dishwasher in my ultra-small kitchen and to decide a very personalized kitchen for myself, especially I have so many kitchen utensils.

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A NEW YEAR GIFT FOR MYSELF WAS TO FIX UP THE UNDONE KITCHEN FROM MY OWN HARD SAVING IN A STRICT BUDGET!

Since day one I moved into this house, for years I used induction stove, thus more than three Kenwood induction stoves were damaged within the 4 years, recently I bought a Empress induction stove from Cosway and a Morgan Halogen stove from Chin Hup Hing, just in case when gas runs out, or when I need to cook Chinese foods I can use them, for more than 4 years I used to cook outside the kitchen porch counter top, initially I couldn't use this kitchen and its stove, until a gas compartment was constructed right outside the kitchen during  year end of 2012. Remember you must use a safe lock for your gas tank, buy the Italian brand safe lock which cost something like RM80+, I bought it from Chin Hup Hing 082: 331848

I put cooking pots, woks and pans at the top tier counter where I can see all and within the reach of my height.

The lower tiers are made up of tempered glass, my kitchen contractor told me it's his first case in Kuching.

I didn' t change my 20 years old stove and hood left by the deceased owner, thus I can only do western cooking in this kitchen.

Beside the stove the expensive microwave oven was a gift from my old classmate Au Au and his wife, and after having it for more than 2 years I only learned how to use it partially and found it was excellent to "bake-steam" a successful Christmas turkey! Just recently I bought a conventional fujihome oven which cost a thousand ringgit less than it, but I left it outside the kitchen porch, as I don't want a heat "infested" kitchen when I bake!

My stainless steel kitchen, aluminium shoes shelve, counter shelves and oven cabinet shelve was done by:

CH Kitchen (S) Sdn Bhd,

Lot 54, No 99, Grd flr,

Jln Sekama, Kuching. 

email: chkitchen300@hotmail.,com 

HP: 0168866090    (Mr. Ling)

My stainless steel kitchen was drawn by CH kitchen designer Ms. Wong

This big jermuda fruit tree chopboard is my island (cost RM40) with bileng hardwood legs (Cost RM100+),  it was made by a Taiwan trained chef from Sarikei, the Ikea ladder stood next to it is within my reach to climb up top tier counter top to collect some big pots!

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 Ever thought of placing the dishwasher next to the washing basins and in the 90 degrees corner? I never found one in the kitchen design magazine!

See the thin curtain? I have them as the mosquitoes netting all over the windows in the house, and cost me less than RM300 (fabric cost less than RM100, elastic wire and seintress cost barely RM100+) for the whole house 13 big, small, long and short windows! It already lasted for more than 4 years now! Could be washed easier than the conventional window netting!

I am very happy with my own idea, first I didn't need to demolish the countertop (with original stainless steel fringe) which is lower than standard kitchen counter top height, secondly the most useless corner in the kitchen now is occupied by it without a space being wasted in this case. Thirdly, my dish basin is next to it, I can drain my dirty plates before loading them to dishwasher for washing. Fourthly, it is next to the cutlery drawer. Lastly, I don't need to bend my back and neither need to raise my head up when loading and unloading my dirty or cleaned dishes!

 My cutlery set tray drawer, CH Kitchen Mr. Ling tried to find one fitted into the stainless steel drawer exactly and I also like the color he chose for it.

These were my older accessories collected one after another since many years back from an oil town, the regular teak wood console table I bought it in Kuching from Casa Reka, but I converted it, see those pans I hanged under it? Inside the drawer I store those aluminium, plastic foils and other extra accessories. See the dish dryer on its counter top, when I didn't have many plates, I hand washed and dried those plates in there.

If you have an ultra small kitchen, be brave like me, think of something different from stereo type design and ideas! You won't regret! I think if I am not a jobless $ tai tai, I wouldn't have moved my brain in a hard way to save money and get the most out of the money I spent on!