AN EYE FOR AN EYE, A TOOTH FOR A TOOTH!

Failure of our religious teaching and education system causing excessive criminal cases and school disciplinary problems???

Written by Little Money’s Mommy

My neighbor got posted to work in the north, after two months of absence, upon her first returning night already attracted theft, we were simply amazed if it was coincident or it was due to an only informant who could see her front gate!  It was about 2:00am, there was a thief tried to break open her backyard bedroom window, and she ended up face to face to the thief talking to each others, the thief told her, ‘You owe me money!’

  
 My neighbor replied, ‘If I owe you money you don’t come at 2 in the morning!’

   As soon as alarm triggered, I peeked through the window I called out loud, ‘*^%$#, are you alright?’

   
   Immediately I saw a man with blue T-shirt ran and escaped to the front yard, soon my neighbor’s whole house blackout! I could sense something bad, then I saw a man with motorbike left the street, I called the police, and they finally arrived 10 minutes later before we both dared to come out our house. The police told us, ‘There was another break-in not too far from here just now!’

   
   We found the thief disconnected the electric circuit connection, and there was a very large queen-size rubber blanket left on the floor. We suspected there was not just a thief, but a group of thieves. Later my friend told me the rubber blanket was usually used by the thief to muffle the nose of broken grass-window or door. And the same morning in my neighborhood there was a hotel manager’s house got broke in at 7:30 and robbed him under armed.

After election, I noticed the increased crime rate from the daily newspapers and also my neighborhood has becoming increasing unsafe to live, since I fixed the laser beams and CCTV for the house compound, it had triggered alarm for few times already.

   
   Whenever I just walked across the street to visit one of my neighbors, I would bring along a bloom. I really pity the police spent a lot of time working very hard to catch the thieves and robbers with little salary paid, but soon those criminal after bailed were free on the streets, then when the judging day came, there was not a trace of the thief or robber appeared on the court house, hence case temporary postponed.

   
   This happened three years ago to my husband’s car when the thieves tried to steal his car about 10am in front of a busy shopping complex, some responsible citizens called the police to catch the car thieves. But let me tell you, with all these hassles: Public who reported police, CID efforts, car repairing money, times spent waiting, in and out of police stations and court house all gone to drain…. Because it has again become one of the many HANGING CRIMINAL CASES in Malaysia!

   
   Since then for three years has passed, but we never heard any news to ask us   attending the court house anymore! I support Malaysian government to change to criminal laws to as strict as Singapore, to seek Singapore as a role model in dealing civil criminals. 

   I HATE to see Malaysian government spends the time to chase after political criminals but let loose those robbers, thieves and con-men. Because this kind of civil cases would never touch the nerves of Malaysian politicians who are surrounded by 24 hours body guards and security guards! I just hope these politicians can grow more sensitive towards this serious civil crime problem in Malaysia. 
   
   How many unsuccessful breaking cases were not reported to police but civilians still have to pay for the repairing? The truth is: There are many cases happened, once my friend got robbed in an oil company car park, she went to police to report, they asked her if she didn’t lose her IC and license then didn’t need to file the case because they didn’t want to get scolded by the politicians!

Now talking about school education, my son was an angel when he was young, and then he was still quite an angel in primary 1, but gradually I could see the devilish state shadow increased with his age.  At first few years he would often return home from school with bruised or bled arms, knees and back. I was told by a school teacher not to contact whoever did that to my son, because since it was happened in school I should not get involved.

   
   Fine, it sounded fair to me, but when this happened too frequently, I eventually decided to send my son for kung fu lessons, but he has no penchant for it, after two years his standard is still staying like a beginner. In short, my son is not a stereo-type bright boy. However when I sent my kids through excellent “MAS children delivery service” to my sister during school holiday to attend a church holiday children camp, the teachers there concluded he is a genius, but my sister complaint to me, ‘But your son doesn’t know what is called right and wrong! You didn’t teach him that!’

   
   I replied her, ‘If you said he was not behaving but why his younger sister whom I even spent less time to teach her would behave?’

   I believe if I have some hens in my house, I will not be surprised to see my son hatching the eggs for the hens! And nobody knew that I almost did that when I was young, except the hen was so fierce that its beak injured my hands to bar me from approaching its nest!

   But what’s the use of a genius if he is not educated under a right system, it is like a tiger appearing on a concrete forest where dogs reigned, all those dogs would think this tiger is a sick or sleepy little kitten!

My son is top student in class but counting from the populated class highest numerical number, but I still give him my praise because he could barely speak Chinese and write it when he attended primary 1, he never made a single noise of complaint that he didn’t want to study Chinese, he absorbed everything he learned subconsciously and even now he is still in strong subconscious realm whereas the rest of his male and female classmates would act almost like a little adult already, my friend would tell me after she talked to my 8 years old girl, ‘She doesn’t talk to me like a child but like an adult!’ 

   Hmmm….. no fun, I still prefer to talk to my son, he is coming to 11 but with still a cuddly 5 years old brain when he was in his “angelic state”! You know that’s why those elder female school teachers and I wouldn’t give him a cane whenever he was very naughty, and gradually a monster is being fostered, because everyone believes in “love education with no canning” and also if I give him a can if anyone in the family knew it I would be considered as a bipolar unfortunately!

My son is sure not a good old boy anymore, invisible and adjustable horns and tail have grown on his body after he attends primary school, when his “devil state” emerged he could turn into an animal  but luckily not a cunning and sly devil like some of his classmates yet. My son would turn into “angelic state” but like a 5 years old kid, he would walk to the front of the church when pastor was still preaching. My son is definitely abnormal because he is 10 already, and he still lives in a very strong sense world of subconscious realm!

   
   Last Friday, I received a call from my son’s discipline teacher informing me that my son bit his classmate until he bled. She wanted to see me, I turned down the meeting, I told her, ‘If the fight happened in school, I think the matter should be solved in school, as I was not on scene I was not a witness.’ The main reason I turned her down was few years ago when my son was often continuously bullied by a group of A class students or pushed by some big sizes classmates (my son is the second shortest boy in class), the matter was resolved in school. 

   
   Those classmates were my son’s “street-wise class” masters, my son learned to fight since then, however one of the worst one was “advised to transfer” to a private school (I overheard the classmates’ gossip). Now whenever my son met him in Kopitiam they are still “long time no see” kind of friends and at least I would be in talking term with his mother.

   
   I didn’t like the idea when system of rules and regulations were based on people’s mouth subjected to change whenever it faced a threat, it really confuses me. My son always returned home with blood bled knees and I was told the school would handle the cases, now when my son bit his classmate until bleeding, then when I called Sarawak Education Department for advice, they would tell me that parents should meet for reconciliation, the education officer would tell me that’s the good intention of the discipline teacher! 

   I am not an unreasonable kind of person, if my son beat his classmate until his bone was broken, sure I would be showed up the scene responsible for the medical fees and the parents sure would receive my sincere apology, but of course after the incident I warned my son if he bites people, anytime he will be under the risk of getting AIDS and HepB!

My old folks who are both veteran educators, they are well over 80s now, they told me whenever cousins or friends’ kids got together playing but got involved in fights, any adult or parent should not get involved unless serious injuries happened. Usually at the end kids befriended with each other soon but the parents were still quarrelling and carried grudges until they went to coffin! Wise parents who invited a group of kids in the house playing would first issue and state very clear of their “precaution, safety and YES and NO rules and regulations” of the house until all kids understood that if they violated the peace and happy hours then next time he or she won’t be welcome to for the gathering and party anymore.

   
   In school, when kids could involve in beating and biting under the nose of teachers, so whose mistake was that? I received a facebook on Friday, it was from the boy’s day care center’s teacher, she wrote to me this way:

   ‘hi.. mdm,sorry 2 say yah... just now i saw $$$$ (my son) biten at students hand... quit serious oso... small but look so painful hehe’

Then on Monday, I saw the message I replied her this way:

  
   ‘What had happened? He (my son) told his dad that the boy punched his eye, true?’

   ‘I mean what had happened before $$$$ (my son) gave the boy a bad bite? The parents asked the discipline teacher why we never apologize. I didn't even know who was the student and the parents and I neither have their hp no. I asked the discipline teacher to punish $$$$ (my son), as it was happened in school.  When AAAA beat up $$$$ few years ago they told me that parents shouldn't involve in school matter when kids fought in school.’

On Tuesday, the day care teacher replied me:

   ‘actualy like this...bfore that boy go n box his eye...$$$$ (my son) go n bite that boy..that boy named TTTT, $$$$ go n take TTTT Marker...so TTTT Ask 4 it...ask $$$$ 2 gave back but $$$$ don't want....so...That TTTT take back his marker...Suddenly...$$$$ go n bite TTTT..Then...TTTT Box his eye..that is the story... until 2day still got the wound..’

Then this tiger-mother became defensive towards the day-care center teacher’s obvious favor towards her student:

   ‘I got the news from the discipline teacher it was $$$$ (my son) got beaten first on the eye by the boy (TTTT) before he bit the boy, who is this student and who told you twisted this? Who is this TTTT, who is the parents? Who was the person who twisted the whole thing and told you differently? And if anyone asked you who am I, please don't reveal (Please don’t disclose my information without my concern) I don't like this thing happened, he is the monitor and obviously everyone sided him now I could tell from the incident, and everyone just pointed fingers at $$$$ (my son) said he was wrong, I wonder why he bit the boy so hard if he was not being irritated.’

   
   ‘Hmm... Obviously this boy is in your day care after school. Were you there on scene during the fight? And your version of story was NOT the same according what the discipline teacher reported back to me and my husband.’

   ‘Obviously you only listened to one side of the story, I know $$$$ (my son) is not good in study which gives most Kuching people/teachers/classmates a view that he would perhaps end up as a nobody in the future, but the other boy who is much more mature, with leadership quality, (I heard discipline teacher said he is a monitor) brighter and very good in study, most people would choose to befriend him and believe his information was fully correct also as his biting injury (done by $$$$) was quite severe.

   'Besides from the discipline teacher, I also heard from few resources of what had happened. There was a competition in class, and there were two groups, the monitor's group was winning, and $$$$ started to snap the marker pen from him, and the fist fights began from there, (obviously it was one person against a group) I heard two person shirts were tainted by the marker done by $$$$ during the fight, and also one of their spectacle was out of shape, then the fist fight proceeded to outside the class, it happened that a teacher passed by, separated them from fighting, $$$$ was still not happy, so he suddenly gave a DOG bite on the monitor. About if the monitor only punched $$$$’s eyes  after $$$$ bit him, then the teacher could have seemed it with the rest of the classmates who witnessed the fight and they could have tell me that, but I was told $$$$'s eye was punch (from my point of view, most likely they punched my son’s eye due to the fists fight amongst boys caused one of their spectacle bent) and he was very painful, that's why he gave a bite on the boy ... imagine the teacher had already separated them, but $$$$ still bit the monitor in front of the teacher, this was from another resource.

   'You can ask JJJJ who goes the same day care center of yours, I know may be you are pitying the boy now and probably close to his mom,  $$$$ (my son) is not decent either, and he becomes naughty too, but the truth is the truth, he is bad, but should not be further on blackened by the untruth.’

Then the day care teacher replied:

   ‘hai mdm...that boy is qdees day care...i also not realy sure after heard your story..well..we also know that children is all the same...that is how they grow up,full with memories...’

Finally I wrote again to her:

   ‘He (TTTT) is obviously telling lies to you, I didn't trust my son, when incident happened I asked everyone including you, but never asked my son, but only your version is so different from what I heard, obviously being twisted by whoever told you, that person let me tell you he was not telling you the truth, if the boy who got injured by the bite, he is so young and bright, but very obviously not honest, sly and cunning, and yet if any teacher chose to believe the boy's lies, that's why in our society smart kids are prompt to commit outlaw offense (when they grow up), as they were trained since young by adults to become a compulsive liar to get their ways (To show adult they are the innocent and good ones).

Things happened on Friday, my husband and I thought the matter has already solved in school. But the discipline teacher called on Monday during siesta hour to my husband again, she told us the parents of the boy (whom my son bit) wondered why we never called and apologized to them. Apologize to them? My husband got angry, he told her, ‘He punched on my son’s eye first before my son bit him, my son said he was very painful that’s why he bit the classmate. The classmate was the one who “moved his fist first”,according to law, who showed the fist first who was wrong!’ Then the discipline teacher wanted to give the classmate’s parent hp to him, he refused to take, ‘You give my hp to them, you can ask them to call me if they want.’

Then the discipline teacher called me again on next day:

   ‘Hey, have you call the boy’s parents, have you solve the problem?’

   I was quite annoyed when I heard this, so I replied her, ‘I don’t even have my son’s monitor parent hp, I neither know who is the classmate nor knowing  who is his parents, how could I contact them? (I am not interested to get involved) I told you already this thing happened in school right under teacher’s nose, it has to be solved in school, if this thing happened in my house, I sure will apologize due to my failure as a hostess to cause such incident!’

   ‘Okay Okay…. I will tell the monitor’s mother, she also doesn’t like the incident drag on; she thinks this was kids matter.’ I could tell who was the smarter person within these two persons and I could tell who wanted to see the apologize show and manipulated the apologize scene.

   To play an old dog like me? I taught students since barely 15, there was not a single history of a student fought under my nose but even up to these days I have students still telling me how much they missed their times under my teaching and I am truly from a third generation educator’s family, my husband and I could smell snobbishness in the whole affair, and I think she chose a wrong person to dally!  In short what kind of school discipline teacher would produce what kind of school!

By the way, this will be the last semester for my son to train under this kind of Chinese education system, my husband and I decide to let the “sick or sleepy kitten” putting back to his original forest!

   Lastly, tell you honestly, that was me who taught my son to retaliate when his classmates bullied him all because I told him, ‘I don’t want to hear any complain from you being bullied in school and returned home with those injuries and cries, things happened in school, you solved it yourself, don’t bring home, even better if you don’t bring homework back! That’s why I send you for kung fu lessons so that you learn to defense yourself!’

   But started from last few days, my version of lecture changes to the sleepy kitten, ‘Try to avoid and involve in any fighting in school, you are the last in class, nobody wants to be your friend, so please get real, nobody would trust your word (negative teaching now) when they gave a pinch to create a bruise at your butt but people would only see your fist and bite in front of your classmate’s face and arm! You go to school is to study not fighting and playing politics, since your tuition teacher has just left to further her study, so please finish your homework in school during recess, the best don’t bring homework home,  don’t act funny to create attention!’

   It is not easy to handle my weird son, he would take off his shirt under the hot sun right after school, most classmates would yell at him:

   ‘ EEEE變態 (abnormal)’

   ‘EEEEE…GAY!’

   ‘EEEE….. $#%^&(( (some 4 letter words) swore on him.

   
   Anyhow he didn’t care, but his sister would tell me everything what she heard.

   But there was an only very smart English teacher, she just said one word and he would put back his shirt immediately:

 ‘Boy, the sunlight could burn your skin if you take off your shirt!’