Growing Pains

Endured bondage of unspeakable agonies

9.10.11

SOMETHING FOR YOU TO THINK, ONE DAY YOU MAY BE ABLE TO HELP OTHERS WHEN THEY FACE SUDDEN (OVERNIGHT TIME) CRISES SIMILARLY:

HOW TO HANDLE SUDDEN CRISES?

When your infants suddenly became so sick …… later became mentally or physically handicapped or invalid

When your daughter or son got raped … Emotionally invalid

When you got diagnosed with 4th stage cancer …. May leave this physical world soon

When you or your closest kindred ran into deadly accident …. Visit coffin shop?

When facing sudden crises, everyone drops their EQ and IQ to zero and soon faces depression, some simply fallen fainted and unconscious, but how to keep cool head and accept the facts instead of lament?

Two months ago when I visited my old folks, I told my son that was probably the last time to see her grand aunty and the family pet coli cot staying alive. When I saw my old aunt I gave her a piece of lightly sweeten carrot cake baked by my old classmate’s wife and my san ku was so happy because she was a diabetic patient, normally my parents wouldn’t give her such sweet treat.

She finally passed away yesterday with the faded sunset; I planned returning my hometown to attend her funeral but I was asked by someone who knows my darker side of face, “Don’t you hate her?”

“NO! I don’t hate her.” I never hated her; because I "rather think" that she was merely an unlucky “cursed” victim as well as me.

I could sense the moment she passed away even though it was only four hours later I found out the news; I was weeping right during the time she left this physical world. Suddenly I would cry over almost 40 years bondage of unspeakable pains, bad childhood memories and bad experience of being wrongfully accused as forever black sheep in relatives’ eyes (even up to these days some distance cousins still acted so hostile and threw condemning glances to me). My aunt in her middle age years was a rogue tongue story-maker and liar, although mentally handicapped she could trigger first family war to prolong later into consistently wars between my grandma and my mom through me as a medium.

I never ask a mentally handicapped aunty what and why the reason she dragged in a 7 years kid to provoke arrays of family fights? I witnessed my grandma and my aunt were always the winner but my parents were the only ones who always apologized even they were never wrong.

These days I learned to forgive my unreasonable deceased grandma. How many people knew my growing pains and agonies while they kept barking behind me to get me married off when I was reluctantly conformed just for their own respective selfish sake?

How many people know why I swore at 13 years old that I never wanted to get married to get into this kind of mother-in-law, aunty and daughter-in-law family problems? Do they know that even if I have married the painful past may still on and off returning to haunt me?

Even if my own parents died I think I would not cry, (I didn’t cry when both my maternal and paternal side grandmas died) but when my aunt died I could cry over my accumulated hidden pains brought by her. People mistakenly might think her decease could give me a relief, what they didn’t know was she was mentally handicapped as a curse passed to me; WHY ME? The true fact is I am now an emotionally handicapped person. I don’t miss much over my parents, sisters, husband and children, if I expressed to a person that I missed her /him that could be only when I was in emotionally healthy condition ot I was simply telling white lies.

My aunt was mentally handicapped since young; she only didn’t know what she was doing to me and to the rest of the people she had inflicted pains directly and indirectly on them. Before she died she was lucky enough to have my sensitive kind eldest sister staying by her side, the only one who would clean her dirty body and shits while even other relation or nurses would stay away from her.

Imagine in the early 1930s in lower Rejang, when people got sick there was no western medicine available; most people without knowledge of how to use the medical weeds and herbs and worst still they were mostly very poor immigrants from China - country pumpkins from China. Many weak and fragile ones died but my aunt survived after a high fever attack, the most painful experience would be my grandma who saw her daughter who was healthy, cute and pink but in overnight time her daughter could become a mentally handicapped girl for the rest of her life and that also brought the burden and depression to my grandma, she endured on the unspeakable suffer until her last breath and she passed her "only worry" to my parents (and my eldest sister) until my mentally handicapped aunt quitted her last breath yesterday.

No lucky mothers in this modern world would have the feel of my grandma razor pains in her hearts when she had to face a fact and fate to bring up a mentally handicapped girl, what grandma didn’t know was despite in this modern world of modern medicine but delay treatment due to a doctor’s wrong diagnostic for such high fever infants could also give unlucky mothers a similar tragic.

I vividly recalled when my two years old daughter had a croup, only God knew why my family doctor’s wife never picked up or replied my SOS call, and another doctor I brought her to see would give her a wrong diagnose, while I kept waiting for my family doctor’s reply, my eldest sister came in the rescue, she said, “If you don’t want to bring her to see a child specialist now, she may die tonight due to short of breath!” Or I think now she might face the similar fate like my poor aunty!

For the past few years I was worried or even I might have suffer a minor depression due to worry if my daughter’s croup has resulted her any minor mental handicap until my old parents and sister who take care of her now could proof to me that she could score 14 100% in a roll for her last semester kindergarten exams. I was lucky enough but I can always feel the razor pains of those mothers who have their kids suffered from physically handicapping unable them to live like normal kids. Wrong diagnostic and delayed treatment usually have brought such life-time suffering causing lots of resentments and regrets to handicapped victims’ parents and family members.

For more than 70 years my mentally handicapped aunt also suffered poverty, rude and robust treatments in this physical world, my grandma could leave this world peacefully it was because my dad promised her to take good care of his sister. I would have loved and cherished her differently if the adults in the family knew how to handle their own EQs and a mentally handicapped relation, if my aunt was exposed in American system of handicapped education, perhaps she wouldn’t have been so “stupid” as people described and thought of. I remember when I was merely 6 years old, she could bring me to visit nearby neighbors to pass through jungle paths, she never once mistakenly showed me the wrong red wild berries that could be eaten raw, she would teach me how to identify the another same red berry which was inedible and poison. So who said she was stupid? I merely think that she had bad memory and slightly lower IQ . Just because most of her sibling was smart, in comparison unfortunately she became a “stupid” one!

NOTE:

If your infant’s high fever continuously maintain or over 38 degrees for prolong hours even after taking the prescribed antibiotic and Panado (like more than 4 hours without any dropping or only with slight dropping); IMMEDIATELY you must send your infant to another child specialist for the second opinion. Use a cold wet tower to cover the head of the infant and don’t let him wear thick cloth.

Don't leave your very sick infant to your so called "experienced" mother-in-law or baby-sitter because you have to work.

If you are first time mommy, you are always inexperienced, you must always ask your elder sister or experienced "mommy" friends to come visit you if your infant's high fever persists, someone experience can make good decision for you when you are helpless and nervous.

Don't make your babies and infants sleep with aircond 8 hours/day. My children's health only improved after I fixed the whole house with ceiling fans. Use the air-cond to dehumidify bedroom only just before sleeping, after two hours you must switch off the air-cond, this will help you to save both your medical and SESCO bills.

Mashed Olives Salad Dressing

If no fish available, prawns can do!

Written by Money Tai Tai

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Lahpet

http://www.irrawaddy.org/article.php?art_id=15426

http://dawn-1o9.xanga.com/615518283/pickled-tea-leaves-salad-laphet-thote/

Last Friday night after a bite of Burmese lahpet (or laphed) salad introduced by my Burmese neighbor, I got addicted to it. If there is any tea leaves available now, ones would not be surprised that I could probably going to pickle my own Kuching lahpet. It is one of the best salads I ever tasted, its’ texture is unique. This is also one of the best dishes for vegetarians, you can eat the lahpet salad simply with the rice and you will feel very satisfy after the meal, and I heard that it is one of the most favorite dishes amongst Burmese students.

As laphet becomes a limited item even amongst limited numbers of Burmese in Kuching, my Burmese neighbor even gave me a pack, but I treasure it only for special occasion.

Lahpet is a fermented tea leaves, in wet form almost taste like Chinese pickled kan lan chai (pickled olive vegetable), but almost as hot as (mild) Kuching version Korean kimji. What Burmese did is they rolled the lahpet with a kind of big leaves into cylindrical long tube shape.

If you have this kind of cylindrical long tube in hand, what you do is once unwrapped it you have to rinse the lahpet with water in order to get rid of the strong tangy bitter tea taste. Prepare a mortar pounding the fermented tea leaves with green chili and slices of young ginger to half-mash. The laypet dressing is ready after you add salt, ajinomoto and at last add generous amount of sesame oil to the mash. Use (or use softened (by salt) long white cabbage) lettuce, cucumber or tomatoes, garnished with assorted Burmese laypet assorted crunchy nuts (fried dried prawns, pumpkin seeds, broad beans, chick peas, peanuts, and sesame seeds before adding laypet dressing.

So if ones really can’t get the fermented tea leaves, another converted version you can prepare easily is using the green preserved olives. Use the mashed olives to replace the laypet dressing; you can add olive oil instead of sesame oil in this case. For assorted nuts you can replace it with pine nuts, pumpkin seeds, peanuts, toasted sesame seeds, almond slice, broad beans, cashew nuts, walnuts.

Bon appetite!

WHAT WOMEN WANT?

Don’t buy wrong kind of gift to your wife!

Written by Money Tai Tai

 

I am quite amazed of how Mr. Money could still keep his wife “legally intake” after 10 years of marriage without any luxury gift; China factories would never close down due to there are so many Mr. Money kind of men living in our community.

After the day of 10th wedding anniversary, I thickened my face asking Mr. Money, “Why you didn’t give me any gift for my birthday and 10th wedding anniversary?”

He replied me, “Wait until I go to China!”

Chinamen would buy fake i-phone, fake LV or fake jade as a gift to their wives, and any of these gifts would never exceed RM300 (less than US$100).

Honestly Mr. Money’s gifts from China never thrilled me, except once when the HP got exploded! But his kids were the ones who usually appreciate those Chinese manufactured toys, I have no complain because anyhow kids' toys and their passion towards it would never last long!

I finally realized that Mr. Money’s secret of keeping his wife is exactly following our Malaysian prime minister’s approach to please Malaysians; I also received extra cash bonus from Mr. Money recently!

 

What do women want? Many good men may doubt, but this not including those Chinamen, because exactly like those corrupted politicians towards the poor civilians, they don’t give a damn what their wives want, unless their wives begin to voice out a divorce.

I observed there are few categories of women’s favorite gifts:

1. Women from poor background when they were young - They love gold, diamonds, Rolex watch and jewelries.

2. Women from moderately poor background when they were young – They love shoes, branded handbags and beautiful dresses.

3. Women from rich background when they were young – They love refined items like sport car, exotic house and exclusive collections of favorite items, e.g. big diamonds, limited editions goods or art works etc.

4. Women from super rich background when they were young - They still love money and even love more of acquiring a richer men!

BUT one thing that all women no matter from rich or poor background: They all like is MONEY, because they learn it from the men, especially Chinamen!

Herbal Remedies for Cancer Patients

You believe the  west or east?

Translated and Written by Money Tai Tai

Someone told me almost every family there is a cancer patient and we also have friends or friends’ friends around us who are cancer patients. Some of them went through chemo, radiation or operation, unfortunately some of them died but some lucky ones miraculously survive on even on 4th stage with strict disciplines on foods intake and living styles.

The following are the most recent talk about natural remedies taken by a 4th stage cancer patient, and he becomes healthy again after operation without any chemo or radiation treatment and he is more than happy to share his success with his friends.

For a month over, every day he took noni juice http://www.nonijuicefacts.com/

, 400 Clinathanus leaves http://ganchinseng.blogspot.com/2011/04/clinathanussabah-snake-grass.html

; and 7 or 8 seeds of apricot kernel http://www.healthphone.com/consump_english/encyclopedia/chinese_herbal_files/bitter_apricot_kernel.htm.

I was told that apricot kernel is toxic, many Turkish died due to overdose it; healthy person should not take more than 15 seeds each day and cancer patients should only strictly take less than 10 seeds each day.

I spent two days in figuring out a Chinese Ancestral Cancer Curing Remedy manuscript, its’ Chinese medical herbal names and translated them into English. I don’t know how effective it is, this morning I asked the Chinese drug store owner; he said he has been selling it well for more than a decade but he didn’t dare to make any remark of its effectiveness.

I bought a portion of it this morning; I will try it as I know it can get rid of my body toxic. For those who live in western countries, you can bring along the following Chinese list prescription to Chinese drug store for dispensing.

Another good curing remedy for cancer patient is Swedish Bitters, and ones can't buy it in Malaysia. It is available in Singapore with address: JE Royal Natural Health Foods. 3 Coleman Street #01-11. Peninsular Shopping Complex. Singpaore 179804. Tel: 63375937. Buy Maria Treben brand, 30ml costs around S$36. After drinking this concoction ones shouldn't drink milk. Anyhow it is not advisable for cancer patients to take daily products like milk or cheese, no sugar, no eggs, no meat, (Replace by vegetarians' foods like fenugreek, coconut oil, coiral grass, Indian Moringa oleifera leaves, http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Moringa_oleifera

Tibetian yogurt, http://www.querycat.com/question/baa98a0487839a4bdf1ac31befaa891a 

but not too much of soy products)


Another cheap way of get rid of body toxic is to prepare green pea soup with seaweeds (use Korean seaweeds) and rue, http://toptropicals.com/catalog/uid/Ruta_graveolens.htm



Added on 28.01.14. 

Sour sop leaves is also good for those women who suffer severe migraine during period, they felt so sick, couldn't eat and would feel like climbing the ceiling, ok I was the victim for three months and I experienced lumps on my breast, I could tell my hormone was severely out of balanced due to prolonged worries and burdens (It was and is very tired to see my husband's Datuk lawyer-contractor boss who always dragging to pay my husband's work done and would deliberate cut this and that expenses and count it to my husband, a subcontractor's head. It is very hurt and painful to see my own husband being bullied and being treated unfairly when he goes out to work, and the contractor-boss who doesn't know about the constructions work nature, where engineers everyday were under the sun working and would always pay in advance for the main contractor, yet this Datuk lawyer contractor-boss thought all his subcontractors earned more money than him, all other companies my husband worked before would refund my husband for 100% of periodical work done, but this lawyer-contractor not just paid my husband in less than 50%,  after chopped off some meat, he would returned my husband like 40%. I am jobless now, I am under prolonged worries and agonies to see how my husband Datuk lawyer-contractor boss treated him unfairly, at this date three days before CNY 2014, there is still no money released for the work completion! I only could lament bitterly, bad fate begins when a girl marries a wrong husband, bad fate begins when an employee met a wrong boss! I am the victim and indirect victim!)  I took sour sop leaves immediately for 10 days, now I am back to normal. I rather die pretty and thought I am not going to give anymore burden to my poor  husband if I really got cancer! Poor victim eats sour sop leaves and pretended not painful and sick, rich cancer patients go chemo in hospital!

Every morning harvested 24 leaves of sour sop leaves (shoots), blend with two glasses of water, have a quick boil, simmer for an hour, sieve and drink (can add little honey). I am assuring you that the taste is sure better than you go for chemo. Then keep adding water and simmer and drink throughout the day. In between the days if you found out you didn't "poo" well, then add a leaf of aloe vera, peel off the green skin, only use the aloe jelly , blend together with sour sop leaves (do it just three times a week). 

Do you know some poor Indonesians when they didn't have money to go hospital for cancer treatment they know that sour sop leaves can cure breast cancer? And my friends told me,  these sour sop leaves are like a treasure there.

Good luck to all cancer patients, discipline yourself in foods intake and living styles, don't get depressed of cancer news and over indulge in heavy meals  ......... carpedium ..... You are a lot lucky than me, do you know that if I die earlier I could incidentally fulfill someone's desire and dream to have many sons in his life? But you have someone who love you will be very worried!!

中国祖传治癌症秘方

(I got this type out from a hand written manuscript)
http://hospital.kingnet.com.tw/essay/essay.html?pid=5&category=%B9D%C5%A5%A4%A3%B6%EE%BB%A1

 

半枝莲 二两

http://www.activeherb.com/chineseherbs/banzhilian.shtml

白花蛇舌草 二两

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hedyotis_diffusa

 

金线莲 二钱

http://www.google.com.my/search?q=anoectochilus&hl=en&biw=1440&bih=719&site=webhp&prmd=imvns&tbm=isch&tbo=u&source=univ&sa=X&ei=z656TrW2INHqrQeipbG8Dw&sqi=2&ved=0CDsQsAQ

 http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Anoectochilus

 

白术, 白朮 一钱

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Atractylodes

大黄 一钱半 (A website wrote 半钱, but my manuscript written 1 ½)

http://www.activeherb.com/chineseherbs/dahuang.shtml

黄柏 一钱

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Phellodendron

川朴 三钱
http://www.ccba.bc.ca/discuss1/_disc1/00000791.htm



 大卜皮 (槟榔 皮) 一钱

http://wenda.tianya.cn/wenda/thread?tid=212128542148a605 

http://123.204.186.47/a.cs/data/Image32.html




准七; 准牛七 一钱
http://alternativehealing.org/niu_xi.htm
http://www.ccmp.gov.tw/en/research/result_detail.asp?relno=51&selno=0&no=85&detailno=258





北茵陳 五钱
http://ir.cmu.edu.tw/ir/handle/310903500/901





酸枣仁 五钱
http://www.zcyao.com/zhongcaoyao/zcy5155.html





槟榔 (槟榔种子) 一钱
http://www.entheology.org/edoto/anmviewer.asp?a=36
http://www.itmonline.org/arts/areca.htm





风杞 一钱
http://www.dharmazen.org/x1chinese/d33sprob/P4-447.htm
http://www.tcmbasics.com/materiamedica/radix_stephaniae_tetrandrae.htm

 

准备：5碗水，用文火熟到一大碗（一天一帖）

主治：胃癌，肝癌，肠癌，子宫癌，白血病，乳腺癌癌等。

额外注：此药方是清凉解毒, 排出内部热毒和污染毒气,

服药后，往往有 血排泄，这是良好反应，消除后将治愈

没分男，女，老, 幼都可以使用

固后每个月服一次

继续 五，六次以灭绝

 

 

Chinese Ancestral Cancer Curing Recipe

(I got this translated from a hand written manuscript)
http://hospital.kingnet.com.tw/essay/essay.html?pid=5&category=%B9D%C5%A5%A4%A3%B6%EE%BB%A1

 http://alternativehealing.org/traditional_chinese_medicine.htm

 

(Daily Serving Portion)

Ban Zhi Lian (Scutellaria barbata herb, 半枝莲) 2 liang

http://www.activeherb.com/chineseherbs/banzhilian.shtml 

 

Hedyotis Diffusa 2 liang

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hedyotis_diffusa

 

Anoectochilus taiwanesis Hayata 2 Qian

http://www.google.com.my/search?q=anoectochilus&hl=en&biw=1440&bih=719&site=webhp&prmd=imvns&tbm=isch&tbo=u&source=univ&sa=X&ei=z656TrW2INHqrQeipbG8Dw&sqi=2&ved=0CDsQsAQ

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Anoectochilus

 

Atractylodes 1 Qian

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Atractylodes

Rhubarb 1 ½ Qian

http://www.activeherb.com/chineseherbs/dahuang.shtml

(A website wrote 半钱, but my manuscript written 1 ½)

Treats; Phellodendron (黄柏)      1Qian

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Phellodendron

Cortex Magnoliae Officinalis (in Latin);

Officinal Magnolia Bark         3Qian

http://www.ccba.bc.ca/discuss1/_disc1/00000791.htm

 

Areca peel, dafupi (binlang skin) 1Qian

http://123.204.186.47/a.cs/data/Image32.html

http://www.itmonline.org/arts/areca.htm

Radix Achyranthis Bidentatae;

Achyranthes bidentata Bl 1Qian

http://alternativehealing.org/niu_xi.htm

http://www.ccmp.gov.tw/en/research/result_detail.asp?relno=51&selno=0&no=85&detailno=258

 

Origanum vulgare L. 5Qian

http://ir.cmu.edu.tw/ir/handle/310903500/901

 

Axillaris; Ziziphus jujuba Mill. Var. spinosa (Bunge)

Hu ex H.F.Chou 5Qian

http://www.zcyao.com/zhongcaoyao/zcy5155.html

Betel Nut; Areca catechu ( Areca seed; binglang) 1 Qian

http://www.entheology.org/edoto/anmviewer.asp?a=36

Radix Stephaniae Tetrandrae 1Qian

http://www.dharmazen.org/x1chinese/d33sprob/P4-447.htm

http://www.tcmbasics.com/materiamedica/radix_stephaniae_tetrandrae.htm

 

Preparation: With one herbal-recipe daily serving portion, rinse the dried medical herbs, add 5 bowls of water, cooked with slow fire until a bowl remained.

Indications: Gastric cancer, liver cancer, intestine cancer, uterine cancer, leukemia, breast cancer.

Additional Note: This recipe is a refreshing antidote, flushing out internal heat toxins and pollution caused toxins, after taking this concoction, often there would be “condensed” blood discharges, this is considered as a good response, after the discharge ones will get cured.

 

This drug was originated from a prisoner who announced his ancestor’s secret medical remedy three days before his death penalty, he was afraid to lose this medical remedy after he died.

Can be taken by men, women, elderly or young people

After curing continues to take once a month

Continue taken five or six times to exterminate the cancer.

Uncountable patients were cured by this medical remedy.

Nobody should make a profit out of this medical remedy, please widespread this medical remedy, one would receive blessing in every undertaking.

 

Translated by Money Tai Tai

BTW: There is a Chinese drugs store in Kenyalang Park Kuching selling this medical remedy in per serve packing with RM9.50. Telephone: 082-483826.

HOW STEREO-TYPE CHINAMEN REASONED

Their thoughts are obviously very different from those rare species good men in women eyes!

Written by Mrs. Money

One quiet morning a woman wanted to tell a true story in a Kuching kopitiam, and she wanted her friends to think …. Think hard!

Here began her story:

There was a businessman RRRR in Kuala Lumpur married a wife who was a primary school teacher. She was demure, conservative and like all traditional Chinese ladies, when reaching her mid 20s her family matched her with another family friend’s son who had just graduated from USA. During the time of dating they were already not getting along well, they both were neither handsome nor pretty, anyhow as they were reaching an age of maturity, when they were pure and innocent sex was always a hidden curiosity temporary blinded them.

They got married and she stayed with her mother-in-law. Like all traditional China businessmen, her husband worked very hard in his newly set up business, and he seldom helped his wife in family chores, his reasons were: His mother could help his wife; she was paid with a RM3000 monthly family allowance, (hmmmm ……. the whole group of old buddies would give their respective wives RM3,000.monthly!) his wife of course got to stay at home taking care of his kids and his mother (he never treated her as a friend after first baby born); he was busy for his expanding business.

He was seldom at home only when his conscience told him he was a father of his three handsome sons, he didn’t care if his wife’s well being of how she had to juggle between teaching in school and got up frequently after mid night taking of their young infants, he felt that as long as every month he gave her RM3000.00 he had fulfilled his duty a s a good responsible husband. Gradually they grew more and more distance years after years, he would never bring just the first wife alone for traveling, as he preferred to bring the whole family for traveling but that happened very rarely as financially he was not strong by then.

Years after years, RRRR got richer and busier, thus the first wife got less and less chance to talk to him as whenever he got back home it was always after 3:00a.m, and she had to get up early to go teaching in school, they hardly met face to face every monthly though they still sleeping on the same bed.

Acted like those stereotype Chinamen, whenever RRRR old university days buddy friend $$$$ came to visit him; that would be the time he brought his old buddy friend $$$$ home to meet his family. That’s the time RRRR’s wife would always got angrier because he never got time for her and their children yet he got time for his old buddy friend (and his new girl friend, she didn’t know by then). That remained her in old days when they were still dating, RRRR would bring her almost everywhere to meet his friends and he would tell her what’s going on around his world, but after signing the marriage certificate, through simmering of frustrations, disappointments and misunderstandings between a couple; he wouldn’t share his world of thoughts to her anymore. In short as a penalty secretly he implemented on her: He locked her in a coconut shell with those three baby frogs dragging her hind legs from jumping out of it!

Years after years, the man’s business was getting more and more successful, he began to drive Mercedes, learned how to play golf and wear branded accessories. Although financial he gained, his wife’s car was never renewed, her simple outlook never changed and the given RM3000.00 monthly allowance by him was never increased and gradually she felt that limited money never got enough to spend for a continuous expanding big city life, luckily she was working as a teacher, with her own income of RM1800.00 chipped to help overcome the monthly due. Her husband wouldn’t come an extra extend to give her more money because he felt that she couldn’t please him verbally and physically and whenever she asked, he would insult her instead or he would always give her excuses saying that he didn’t have that kind of extra money because the business was expanding.

In old days women were scared of their husbands’ beautiful secretaries to steal their wives, but in modern days there was another version of smarter husband’s stealer, who would prepare cheques instead of coffee for her boss and she has free access to check her boss’s financial situation ….that’s the company accountant. When Chinamen didn’t want to share their business operation with their wives, so usually when a business belonged to brothers, they would agree in between each others they wouldn’t let any of their wives to involve in their business, so they would rather spend high salary to hire a professional accountant.

When RRRR's kids reached their teen age years, he and his the unhappily married divorced company accountant’s affair finally revealed under the day light, he started to stay on his mistress’s home, as she knew how to please him, (also the theory of stealing apples was always sweeter) he would lavish her with RM10, 000.00 monthly allowance, bought her nice car, renovated her house and every monthly he would bring her all over the world just for sight seeing (not counting of business trips and other business courses they attended).

He gave all his old buddy friends a surprise when his mistress was the only lady amongst married men during a golf tour to Taiwan. He would tell his friend how happy by then he was as a man all because this mistress could please him and communicate with him and made him such a happy man, he complaint to his friends how his first wife used to give him hell kind of life that he hardly would like to return old home.

One of his friends BBBB would question himself silently, “If you don’t say your first wife is a bitch, how could you have face to surface your mistress amongst us?! If you said your first wife was bad, then how could you sleep with her for years and could produce three boys still?!”

But the other friends $$$$ would support him morally “I also don’t like your wife, when I went to your house she always pull her sour face on you and me, how could a man stand a grumbling wife in long term like tat lah!” They instantly felt they shared the same wavelength, since then they began to share their men talk!

RRRR would confide in $$$$, “You know my three boys are young now, I will sure divorce my first wife when those boys grow older; I want to treat my second wife more fairly!” His old buddy $$$$ also agreed with him as they both didn’t like the same woman.

So the old buddy $$$$ returned to Kuching city told his first wife of what had happened, “You know that RRRR told me he will divorce with his first wife when their sons get older, he felt that it’s fairer to his second one in such case!”

Mr. $$$$’s wife got so mad; she screamed out her hearts to her friends, “YOU KNOW WHAT? Are we ‘first wives’ the deadly enemies of our Chinamen husbands when they don’t love us anymore? Why after we got married those Chinamen wouldn’t allow us to gossip anymore on their friends with affairs yet they have forgotten they were the ones who gossiped to us of those affairs! When we were dating and before babies were born, that’s the time those bloody shitty Chinamen would share their gossips, thoughts, ideas, their business plans and family plans etc with their wives. After a decade of marriage, soon those Chinamen hardly would pay attention on their depreciated wives and children as they always used ‘busy traveling’, ‘busy with clients’ and ‘busy in office’ as the leading excuses. When more babies born those Chinamen would keep their mouths shutter, whenever their wives asked them if their friends so and so got a mistress? They would scold their wives to shut up saying those were other people’s family matters!”

Mrs. $$$$ further on added, “Look! The other day my husband already making remarks that I acted like his friend RRRR’s foul temper first wife who threw him sour face. Obviously he also dreams and craves for a second wife or a mistress so he will live as blissfully happy like his friend RRRR. I wonder why my husband couldn’t reason fairly like his friend BBBB, obviously my husband is also a potential dangerous man like RRRR who will likely seek a mistress in the nearer future if he strikes richer. Why my husband couldn’t reason and he never thought it was wrongfully unfair for his friend RRRR to use the first wife as a baby sitter for their sons until they grow older?! Why he only thought it was unfair for his mistress?! So after 10 years later if he divorces his first wife, he will have an instant wife, yet RRRR’s first wife will be old, ugly and single by then, and worst still by the time those sons will get older and leave the home to study overseas, and the first wife will be all by herself ALONE! So have RRRR ever thought that if he has a partner now, why don’t as well divorce his first wife now to let her have the new freedom looking for her future partner instead of treating her as his deadly enemy, using her as a cheapest kind of baby sitter in the world and I think he wishes it will be even better if his first wife being diagnosed as 4.5 stage terminal cancer, so he can claim her insurance and also save him from paying her any alimony!”

FASTEST WAY TO PREPARE ROSELLE JAM (M'SIANS' RIBENA)

Make your own organic juice and jam!

http://moneytaitai.blogspot.com/2012/03/chocolate-roselle-cheese-cake-making.html

Written by Money Tai Tai

Almost 11 months ago, my secondary school classmate Au Au 'ordered' by his Tai Tai to bring along two Roselle seedlings from Sarikei for me. Roselle bloomed fully on last year end, but I was out of Kuching for the whole month and endless family activities lasted until only after Chinese new year, Roselle fruits became a hiding gound for ants and I didn't know it tastes as nice as its look.

Special thanks here to George and Angela.

How to prepare Roselle Jam:

Soak your roselle with hot water if there are ants hidden inside the petals

Wash petals carefully one after another, after that soak in the water, make sure there is no ant at all.

Roselle light green haw or hip

Roselle red petals

Separate the red petals from the green haw

Roselle hip, inside the brown haw got seeds ready for sowing

Put roselle petals inside a blender, water should cover just a quarter (the most 1/3)

After blending, sieve the juice for drinking but the sendiment will be used for making jam (In resulted in producing thick jam)

Prepare bottles, make sure get rid of any paper logo sticked on it

Use this cream cleanser to wash off the sticky glue

Bake bottles in the oven for five to fifteen minutes

Cook both the sieved roselle juice and sendiment with honey rock sugar or brown sugar

Cook the sendiment until the white bubbles gone

Getting thicker and less bubbles

Roselle jam is done

Transfer to the bottle while it is still warm

Fill it up

Tighten with cover and store in the refrigerator, good to use as jam or topping for cheese cake