What is so called Open-minded Fathers?

They led their daughters to not just accepting good education but they also opened a pathway to their daughters for perpetual fame and wealth!

By Miss Yellow

99% modern Chinese fathers or parents’ minds can’t even par up with a 19^th century Chinese father called Charlie Soong! He was very American influenced Methodist minister, although there were so many Chinese parents educated in USA or western educated as well, somehow their minds are not as open-minded as Charlie Soong, remember now is 21^st century, Charlie Soong had never across any computer or 3G mobile phone, but most American or western educated Chinese parents if without  laptop, they would at least own a mobile phone, this is so called - modern age  and yet how could there were so many Chinese fathers and in-laws felt very disappointed and frustrated when their wives/DILs delivered baby girl after baby girl?

So far I saw from my critical eyes and personal experience: these frustrated parents when they delivered whole nest-full of girls, their only resolution was to educated them, but they did it rather  “unwillingly”, as there are always “ certain conditions” conditioned to their daughters - their ultimate aim was to send their daughters to medical school to end up as a doctor,  thus if you enter Otago University medical school, you could find there are  more female medical students than male students and  there surely got more female Asian students than total white students! Why? This is all caused by Chinese’s (or even Indian) born-snobbish culture, they would always pay doctors and even give gifts to doctors, but they rather owe their other ill-fated creditor so many debts but tried to find ridiculous excuse not to pay any debt!

Or there is another genre of Chinese parents to wish that  their daughter could fly up the tree top to end up as a phoenix as earlier as possible  - they would jump over education phase to pursue fame and wealth directly, so how they did it? They would send their daughters to compete in talents competitions one after another, in such case they usually confine their daughters for home study, as public school education’s hectic schedule is impossible to foster young talents. Is it wise? Most prodigies became burnt up when they reached 40s, like concert pianists Yundi, he started to mess up his performance in Japan concert stage, and some math prodigy ended up as prostitutes etc. Life is boring for genius or prodigy, as they got no chance to develop their other interest when being  enforced by their parents to pursue only one talent, they were confined in a cage to perform their acrobatic juggling feats, once they were out of that cage, they found out the world is actually a jungle and they were not the only ones who are so good and so talented!

One thing that most Chinese parents thought is if their daughters have become a doctor, naturally they could find an as equally good husband, in another word they believed that if their daughter has been educated in university, at least they could find another as equally good university graduated husband. So their fostering stops right at same time their daughters finished their tertiary education. Most of the time parents felt a relief the minute their daughters have graduated from university, and that’s the time they were tired as well,  especially after years of worrying about finding money to educate their daughters.

These parents is the followers of “natural selection” – I already educated you girls, you are not young anymore, you have seemed world and being educated more than me, I will leave you alone from now onwards.

So if follow “natural selection”, surely there would be a loser amongst these daughters – if one of them married a “disappointed husband” when his mind is still confining in 18^th century idealogy, a wife should be a virgin (he wants a FOC puta), a wife should know how to cook and clean house and take care of his old mom (he wants a FOC full time maid), a wife should be able to “produce” many babies (if she refused he would tell her that she was not good in making babies, his wife should act as a FOC baby factory), he didn’t like the idea if his wife earns more money than him, (So he tried crook or hook to let her give up her successful career, e.g. your yearly income is not more than my monthly income --- actually it’s a BS, he would never show his wife his actual income, but he would tell her how capable he was and always find excuses when his wife questioned his contradiction, he wants a SLAVE) and at the end of the day, his wife still ended up paying for the household expenses with her hard earned saving, and soon his wife’s parents and sisters all have to come and rescue this “loser-sister”, they would do that secretly, as China-man is full of pride if he sees that his wife and children are being “financed” by his wife’s family, he would deliberately delay giving her monthly expenses, or sometimes he would say, “Since your parents got all girls, if you don’t spend their money, who are they going to give to? In short he wants his wife to spend his parents-in-law money more than the rest of siblings (as other successfully married siblings would bring back money to their parents) and yet he expected his wife to receive equal share of inheritance from her parents.

To marry a rogue tongue, smooth talking but incapable and lazy husband, for a well cultivated and educated professional woman is an unbearable inner pain. So why if you are parents, you just sit down there letting “natural selection” to take care, to let one of your unlucky daughters to end up as a black sheep? So I advise all Chinese fathers, you got to learn from Charlie Soong, fostered and channeled your daughters to ensure all the best happened to their lives, you shouldn’t give up at one point and thought that you have done enough!

Look at Charlie Soong, his three daughters were sent to branded Wesleyan College where Hillary Cliburn graduated from, if your daughter studied there, they have very high chance to meet smart and hard working young men as well, as to be in Harvard and MIT nearby Wesleyan College , a student either has to be  smart or hardworking, you can’t end up in Harvard and MIT if your parents are just rich but you are neither smart or hardworking.

While during 19^th century when most Chinese girls were still uneducated, Soong sisters could speak excellent English, with knowledge and exposure from the most advanced country America and could help their husbands (who were not good in speaking English) in political arena in making decisions and helped their husbands more than any first wives in Chinese history, even up to these days, Chinese premiers’ wives are just a  modern version of “flower vase” (like J. Kennedy helped in a way to make tabloid magazines got rich and for the rest of shallow minded parents or women to admire, doing their day dream or fantasize, I advise this kind of women to read Mills and Booms is much better in this case!), although some of these first wives are highly educated, but politically they couldn’t help their husbands like what Soong sisters could do, these women usually ended up teaching other women how to be a good wife instead of how to be a “master mind” to your husband!

So who gave Soong sisters this kind of confidence? I can assure you, it was their father: Charlie Soong, if a father fostered his daughters as equally his sons, surely his girls would grow up as confidence as a boy, they would think, act and talk like a boy as well, (many people didn’t know Soong sister read Bible and smoked as well, and no babies…. For their own good in that kind of society where most women and men were narrow minded ---- so think laterally), this is a typical essence of good western culture that enable successful parenting to children - both boys and girls are equal, thus girls won’t live under the lament of parents just because they are girls.

If you want to foster your daughters equally like how you educate your boys, start from today, don’t compare them to boys, please treat them as unisex. Once they grow up a little older, then you tell them, “Look, out there in your bubble, they are many old uncles and old aunties with ancient mind set still existed, they really look down at girls and may be one of them could end up as your husband and parents-in-law, so you watch out not to marry into that kind of family, or else my cultivation and education imparted to you will be returned back to zero again, and when you want to start over again, it will be impossible, because your husband will sing the counterpoint, and he will make your life very difficult to raise another new generation of successful girls, and that’s why our Chinese’s progress in fostering successful “iconic girls” progressed so slowly!

Many women also didn’t know that why lesbians can achieve more than stereo-type female, I learned that lesbians’ minds think like men. But at our current society, if you think like a man and do things like a man, other ancient minded women if they don’t dub you as lesbians they would insult you as “Female strong human!” 女強人