A Cat’s Claws Being Removed!

When you wrongly married a “chinaman” husband!

Written by Miss Yellow

I earned back my title of "Miss" again since two years ago when I won my bet in insurance claim after someone knocked me from behind while I was driving at just 20km/hour during early morning jam.

    My husband said if I could get back my insurance claim he would change his last name to my last name. To change his last name to mine??? I would immediately become the most notorious woman in the whole Sarawak state, and I dare say his whole "money" clan relatives would throw their rubbish at me.

   BUT I have learned my most painful lesson in life: If I ever trust a Chinaman’s words then I won’t be an angry woman since the day I married one and getting more angry when I found out I was fooled by a “Chinamen” stereo-type promises and weasel claims.

   I also learned my hard lesson and realized that illiterate women could produce very confident sons than educated and cultivated women!!! Because of their illiterate and ignorant background, they gave their sons so much approval and flatters, they praised their sons so much that they were brought up so positively, even if they are “shorties”, they don’t mind looking for a tall wife, if they are ugly, they don’t mind looking for a winning Miss Beauty Pageant, if they are poor, they don’t mind a rich or prominent family’s daughter, with a little money earned in the pocket, they are also more confident than other men, they could crow louder than any roosters! A good reference for modern women if any of this genre of man chasing after them!

I found out our society full of narrow minded and dirty minded people, when they learned that your husband only returned home once a month, they would immediately think  that he could have a mistress out in another town or they would imagine your husband probably doesn't  love you.

   

   They would never use their brains and be thoughtful enough think that your husband can’t afford returning home every week when he was working for a blood-sucker Datuk contractor.

   

   They didn't know that whenever his Datuk-contractor boss received his billion ringgit cheques from JKR or any government sectors, in a few days time the money would be exchanged and deposited into his Australian accounts, they didn't know that this billionaire-Datuk doesn't like to pay any of his subcontractors all over Malaysia, even RM30Ks of payment to his sub-contractor would turned his face black green and the whole office of his staffs would witness that, they knew that their Datuk-boss just likes to receive but never like to pay his creditors.

  

I came to Kuching 5 years ago, I observed this city people, I learned that all because of  there are too many of these unethical contractors infested in this city, that’s why Kuching people are mostly quite poor, most of them just could barely afford to eat three simple meals, and only time they could afford a better life during their old age, if their children turned out as a doctor or capable professional.

   

   When the main-contractors sucked the subcontractors' money, they in-turn also learned to suck other helpless people like revenge.

   In short people in a city, people laugh at poor but not at prostitutes, that’s why people won’t show you that they are poor. Only when you watched how they bargained with hawkers and poor labourers, then I learned how mean people are, it is like flu, when the Datuk-contractor bosses didn't treat you well, you also won’t treat people nice.

I worked in North for almost two decades, ang mo usually treated people nice, in oil and gas industry due to ang mo bosses' good payment ethnic, the payments were released on time, payment in full and there were less “undertable” monkey deals went on.

  

   Good ang mo payment culture built up there for so many decades, thus generally even oil city Chinaman businessmen also treated their staffs fair and well, I think this is something what oil city folks should feel glad and proud about.

   When few big corporations in a city willing to release money, then the rest of their subcontractors would have enough cash flows, and soon the whole city people have money to spend, and there will be less criminal cases too. Instead of poor people in Meow city has to depend on tourists’ money all because these born-in Meow city’s greedy takaus don’t want to pay their subcontractors, and their cash mostly went to overseas banks.

  I heard that only those “migrated” oil city takaus carried the good payment culture to Meow city, they are the good payers to subcontractors. Those Meow city-born mean contractors never learned that if they didn't pay the subcontractors well and on time, subcontractors wouldn't have enough money to pay their labourers, if their labourers didn't eat enough to go working, if any accidents happened on the work site and how about if the employees were not paid fairly and that led that to stealing and murdering cases, so who to blame? The filthy rich blood-sucker contractors are acting almost like a “day time robbers” blamed their poor subcontractors? That’s one the most UNFAIR things I witnessed under the sun in this meow city!

   

   I always told my friends, don’t need to study those complicated currencies laws, just observed how Malaysian currencies versus Australian or Malaysian currencies versus Singaporean, then you can tell how much our money went into those foreign countries, usually it happened that when government released billions ringgit today, the next few days time those billions would end up in foreign bank accounts, those who played dirtiest in this country, they are the ones who love the country least and don’t trust this country the most. 
   
   I think our government needs very strict control over its own currencies being transmitted this way with the excuses as “foreign investments”!!! If the money earned in this country, then should save it in this country, that’s why since I worked 20 years ago in Brunei, I kept seeing Malaysian currency drops every year. There is a big hole for big fish to get out, but “nobody” stops it, that “nobody” could be a big fish too to allow this happened???

Only Chinamen would love to work for this kind of blood-sucker contractors, all because Chinaman businessmen can’t speak English like ang mo, and sometimes these Chinamen are taught too well in Churches that they become too holly and not daring enough to play dirty to earn those stacks of contracts with subcontractors’ hard earned money to pay those "undertable" money.

  ‘Huh, I wait until you bring me to court house if you dare, just tell you that I am a lawyer too.’ That's the only time the contractor thought if he should pay, even if he did pay his creditors, he would be so unwilling. His mind is "I am the king, you are all slaves, slaves don' t deserve to get paid."

   So Chinaman subcontractors, do you dare to sue your ex-contractor boss when he sucked your hard-earned money?  Unfortunately, Chinaman businessmen got no ball when they faced Datuk, they scared the shits out of Datuk, so when they got frustrated, their poor wives and children would suffer from their Chinamen’s tantrum and poverty.

Many people don’t understand why I don’t like to attend Church service any more, especially the bloody weddings, when the pastor would preach that a wife has to listen and acted submissive to her husband. 

   Oh yes, all because the bible said it, then why don’t encourage the men to marry many wives just those Abraham or Jacob? Bible recorded that too. What generation we live in now? 

  Then why bible didn't add Book of Enoch that mentioned all those aliens names and promote Antediluvian lifestyle to us,  then all ladies should cover our hair, lest that those fallen angels saw the human women were pretty, they would come to them! The reason was the book was out of date, acted as a submissive wife happened back in new testaments, old era too, wasn't 19th century have gone and by gone?

   When men wanted girls to listen and submit to them, there would be too many excuses, and ladies are stupid and no brain enough to retaliate. Wise men prefer a compatible wife, not a puppy-wife, but stupid and weak men prefer a puppy-wife, so that when they go out to work they got bullied, when they return home they can bully their wives.

  

Modern days, professional ladies went out to work, earned at least RM10, 000 every month, and a man often earn less than that, but when he looked for a wife, he and his mom would make sure that his wife is a university graduate, but make sure she is not smarter than his son or academically more qualified than his son, must be pretty, from a good family background, she must know how to cook, and must have same denomination.

   I always wonder if such mother-in-law wanted to look for a full-time maid cum babies maker for her son, she didn't even look at the mirror of how handsome her son and capable her son is. But the mother-in-law won't let that happen to her own daughters, she would suggest maids for her own daughters!

   The minute when the  "dreamed daughter-in-law" got married, she and her son expected his wife to stay at home cooking, cleaning house and taking care of babies, yet her son couldn't afford a home maker wife if she doesn't go out to work. He just thought for himself that his career is much more important all because his brain was tuned that old way trained by his old thinking mom, then when he found out his business would not be always smooth, he wouldn't be honest enough to say he doesn't have money, he won’t be honest saying that he can’t afford to feed the family alone, so he would drag on giving the monthly allowance to his wife, drag on and on, his excuses was, ‘Oh, I was too busy, but don’t I always give you fully even it was three months later? I have just forgotten to bank in the money for you.’ ‘Oh, I have forgotten to send you money today.’

   Do you think if I work since I was 15 years old, and my income was always more than regular government officers, do you think I am stupid enough to be fooled by a Chinaman husband excuses? I am just tolerating.

   One day when I went to kopitiam, I heard he asked his friend, ‘Is your wife working?’

   ‘Yes.’

  ‘Wow, you untong.’

  What did this bloody Chinaman hinted to me? He was the one who removed my claws, and now admired those cats who can catch rats?

  

   


When I can’t find any job in Meow city as there is no rat in my area for me to catch rats, I plan to work outstation, immediately some people would stop, ‘Come on lah, don’t go lah, or else your marriage will be finished lah. How can you leave your husband all alone like this lah?’

   Just tell me directly what’s in your brain, I found out many women are more dirty minded than men. I would tell them off, ‘Do you know how old I am now? You think I am barely 30s or 40s?’ 

   When married at old age without meeting an honest man about his financial status, you could end up like me, working overseas as a housekeeper as a maid even if you have a degree, and neither you can earn money like before you married, as some careers are status oriented career, if you married a right husband, his high social status can help to boost your career. 

   Also when you married a loser, your sibling or your husband's sibling would look down at you, because they think that you choose a wrong husband, your next half life is gone to drain forever, they think that you probably are as stupid as their sibling that you married too, they won’t help to launch you a new career in this city even they could be very influential. In short they are more interested to see I work as a maid, a housekeeper or a driver for their kids, so they would feel much superior. When same thing happened in the society it infested to families or vice versa. It only takes our patient and determination to get out of any adversities.

   Well lucky Chinawomen, use your brain, not because your rich husbands give you sufficient money and expensive gifts, then every stay home wives would have your kind of good fates.

   Don’t you know it could happen to your own incapable chinaman brother who hardly gives enough money to his poor wife (also he removed her claws)? When his wife “thick-skin” enough to ask for pocket money from you during Chinese New year, if you are a professional woman, will you give her an ang bow instead of attacking her of asking you for money? Think before you open your mouth to attack another poor woman who is being controlled by your own brother.