Hidden Invalids and Sad Withdrawn Mothers in Our State

You don’t see them on street because they are confined …. But where to?

According to a doctor, her wounds were burned by hot water in a Kuching private care center, then such wounds further on got infected for a year! Was she injure under bad facility, staff's carelessness, neglectance or abuse?

Written by Mrs. Money




She was a very beautiful, sporty and outgoing engineer graduated in USA and once she would have great dreams for her future life like all young girls entitled to have, but then a car accident revealed that she needed a brain operation but few surgeries ended up unsuccessfully. She became an invalid person, at first her family still carried on hopes that she would recover but after 12 years she still ended crippled like a baby, her brain could only function like a 3 years old girl and worst still she has never aware of what she has become.


Her parents eventually took her back from USA and they took care of her until her dad passed away. Then her siblings in overseas decided to move her and their old mom to Kuching where they believed medical cares here would be more convenience, they eventually located a privatized old folks’ center and then confined her there after paying about US$500/Monthly.


She is my cousin, so when I moved in Kuching two years ago, I decided to visit her only once a blue moon because I was fallen into melancholy after each visit, she wouldn’t be able to call my name whenever I visited her. Every visit I witnessed her health and beauty both have gradually deteriorated, her unpleasing situations and environments also worn off and sunken my heart. I remember her loving parents would brush her teeth after her meal when they took care of her, she got the most beautiful set of perfect teeth, but now with her rotten teeth smiling at me I felt my heart got rotten at the same time. Every time I visited her I would bring my young kids along because I wanted them to see another hidden side of this world, they would scream the minute they stepped in the center, “Yucky…… smelly…. Stuffy!
As there is a no any other better choice of proper rehabilitation center now in Kuching to take care of these partial and fully invalid old folks, adults and children. I kept quiet to protect my invalid cousin most basic welfare of not being kicked out of the center, so like the rest of people I hushed my kids. However my young kids were never afraid to meet their invalid aunty, they would greet her politely regardless she response or not and it’s a brainstorming moment for them.


If this is a properly facilitated rehabilitation center for invalids, if there are enough trained and loving care staffs or does our government need to step in a foot to regulate these kinds of licensed privatized rehabilitation centers and old folks homes to ensure those handicapped or invalid kids, adults and old folks are all well taken care, their physical, emotion and mental health are handled in adequate and professional manners????


I already eavesdropped few times about our asylums in state, “Those crazy girls are fed continuously with contraceptive pills ……………..” The rest I would like you to imagine and think. I can’t tell you what they had told me. I believe this is just an iceberg, I wish I am a police investigator who has the right to thumb down any possibility of rapist-staffs, security guards or there could be opportunist outside crimes hidden or creep in those asylums. Poor crazy girls become crazier, even if one of them reported to you that there was a man sitting on her tummy last night, you probably might doubt her words because she is crazy and lunatic, the schizophrenia victim.


I hope in a very nearer future, a proper non-profitable rehabilitation center for invalid children, adults and old folks is being properly set up in Kuching and with efficient managements to par up as equally high standard with advanced western countries. As now we are facing a common problem, those rehabilitation centers in our state only accepted invalid children and old folks, but for those after twelve partially and fully invalid teenagers and adults, their helpless poorer working parents (parents with invalid kids tends to work harder to think a better future for their invalid kids) would confine them in the house, sometimes for those invalids from very poor families, they would be left alone facing the wall with no foods and little drink from early morning to evening.


Left alone outsiders’ curious prying amusing eyes or coldness, these poor victims are mostly "stuffed" in their house under different conditions depend on their parents’ financial situations: There is no one helping these invalids to stimulate their continuous deteriorating brains and limbs, no a proper channel from our government or non-profitable organization or churches to approach solving their helplessness, without proper contact with outside world, after prolonged situation invalids’ family members also getting from sad, desperate to withdraw and thus cold-hearted to insane.


Without a proper channel of non-profitable society in this city specially and professionally handling these invalids, caring of these invalid family members’ mental well being, approaching these invalids and genuinely wanting to help them should become key issues to discuss and the problems must be quickly solved by Kuching warm-hearted folks. Silence and withdrawn shadowed the victims and their families’ pains, hopelessness and sadness. Not many people seeing invalids on street but one can't say that there is no invalid victim or never will be an invalid victim born or happen to his family, do you know that there is always a 5% risk happened to anyone?!


So please open your eyes, your ears and your hearts to promote a non-profitable organization for all-aged invalids in Kuching city. There will be a pro tem website soon build regarding this matter, please pass this message around, to gain supports and encouraging words for those warm-hearted Kuching folks to pursue their plans and goals.